Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Just a note here - if you are talking to somebody online who does not have a pic on their profile, you can ask for one, that's alright. I would ask in the first or second message. 1
strawberryshortstack Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I agree...but it's difficult to argue with *feelings.* She's had negative experiences with men asking for more pics, as it always resulted in them wanting *sexy* pics. So now when it happens, it's a turn off, a dealbreaker of sorts. We all have our dealbreakers. May not make sense to others, but they are *her* dealbreakers and she is entitled. Plus, I hardly think it's gonna limit her opps too much. I mean, how many men actually require more pics before meeting in person? I never had a man ask for more pics when I did OLD. In all of my years on OLD, I've been asked for an additional pic a grand total of two times. The first was by a guy who'd already set up a date with me, and asked me for a picture of "all of my sexy body" - I got bad vibes and immediately dropped all contact, and did not show for the date. The second was by the guy I am currently seeing, and have been seeing for 6 weeks. He wanted to see a full body shot, since I have none on my profile, due to the awkwardness of taking a full body selfie (who really wants to see my grungy bathroom mirror?). Because it was a respectful request, I sent it, and he was pleased. It's all in the wording and manner it's requested.
katiegrl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Haha.. It's one thing if a guy requests naked pics. But I always stress that I want to see one recent fully clothed full body pic just so she can verify that she is in shape. If she refuses to send it, I don't meet with her. That's interesting considering you admitted yourself your new girlfriend has a few pounds to lose (albeit is working out and losing weight)... but you met her regardless. Which is actually awesome ...but interesting nevertheless given what you just posted above. :bunny:
fitnessfan365 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 That's interesting considering you admitted yourself your new girlfriend has a few pounds to lose (albeit is working out and losing weight)... but you met her regardless. Which is actually awesome ...but interesting nevertheless given what you just posted above. :bunny: I've actually said in the past that I'm definitely not a "size-ist". I actually think that it's hot when a woman carries a few extra lbs in a healthy way. As long as she loves to work out, and is confident in herself, I'm good with it. But, there is a HUGE difference (literally) between a woman that loves to workout and is a healthy size 12-14, and a woman that's 250lbs plus who's only exercise comes from getting off the couch on her way to the kitchen. Just saying..
katiegrl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I've actually said in the past that I'm definitely not a "size-ist". I actually think that it's hot when a woman carries a few extra lbs in a healthy way. As long as she loves to work out, and is confident in herself, I'm good with it. But, there is a HUGE difference (literally) between a woman that loves to workout and is a healthy size 12-14, and a woman that's 250lbs plus who's only exercise comes from getting off the couch on her way to the kitchen. Just saying.. I agree...but what I am wondering is, even if she sends you a fully-clothed full body shot, how do you know that photo is "real" ...or recent or NOT photo-shopped? You don't ... so what's the point of even asking for it? The ONLY way for you to know for sure what she "really" looks like, from head to toe, is to meet in person. You also get to gauge chemistry in person. I dunno, to me, exchanging various photos from different angles, etc. is no better than endless texting, which I KNOW you hate fitnessfan. It sets up a certain *expectation* especially if the person is extremely photogenic. In real life he/she might look completely different.... which will only leave the other somewhat disappointed. It also makes the person asking appear rather shallow. You have seen the profile shots, you like, go with that and see what happens in the real world. Unless you are embarrassed to be seen with a possibly very overweight person, and if that is the case, THAT is a different issue altogether.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I agree...but what I am wondering is, even if she sends you a fully-clothed full body shot, how do you know that photo is "real" ...or recent or NOT photo-shopped? You don't ... so what's the point of even asking for it? The ONLY way for you to know for sure what she "really" looks like, from head to toe, is to meet in person. You also get to gauge chemistry in person. I dunno, to me, exchanging various photos from different angles, etc. is no better than endless texting, which I KNOW you hate fitnessfan. It sets up a certain *expectation* especially if the person is extremely photogenic. In real life he/she might look completely different.... which will only leave the other somewhat disappointed. It also makes the person asking appear rather shallow. You have seen the profile shots, you like, go with that and see what happens in the real world. Unless you are embarrassed to be seen with a possibly very overweight person, and if that is the case, THAT is a different issue altogether. 1) If a woman is blowing smoke and lying about herself, she will either not respond or refuse to send the picture. So it's a good way of weeding out liars instantly. 2) I HATE having my time wasted. So at the very least, I'm taking some type of precaution. But it is true there are no guarantees. So is there a chance the pic could still be fake? Yes. But it still does a better job than not weeding out liars. Then if she has demonstrated such low integrity to lie on her profile, lie on the phone, and send a fake picture, it makes it that much easier to walk out on her in person.
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It's such a non issue. Sending pictures is a fun thing to do. Look at the phone, stick your tongue out, click, send. Use it to show your personality and generate laughter!! What do you think is gonna work in your favor? The guy ask a picture and you hit him on the nose for it or you send a funny selfie showing your personality and sense of humor. OP you take this too seriously! Have fun!
No Limit Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Yes I'd be gone. Don't need some random stranger to send nudes of me around and one of his buddies loading it up in the internet.
spiderowl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 (edited) Yes, can't be bothered with the pic guys. If you chat to them longer, they tend to be superficial, not interested in anything but more pics. They tend to try to move to media where they can send/received more pics or, even better from their point of view, see you live (as in Skype or similar). Personally, I'm not interested in shallow guys who look at women as if they are flash cars to compare. I need someone with a bit more depth and intelligence. Finally, the pic guys are generally obsessed with pics and if you refuse to send any or Skype with them, they decide there's no point being 'nice' any longer and start to be crude, displaying the creep side they were trying to hide initially. Pic guys are the pits! Edited April 9, 2015 by spiderowl
fitnessfan365 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Yes I'd be gone. Don't need some random stranger to send nudes of me around and one of his buddies loading it up in the internet. I agree that if a guy comes right out and asks for nude pics that you should instantly stop talking to him. But I think in normal cases if a guy asks for a recent pic, he just wants to see a normal fully clothed fully body pic to make sure that you're not the "online curvy" version.
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 And the other issue that has been brought up in this thread, if you open the door for pics, then some slimy guys will send a d-pic. Extra pics will not even be 1% of what you'll discover if you meet, so why monkey around with it? I'd just stay away from the whole pic exchange thing. If ya wanna see more of me, ya have to meet. Poop or get off the pot.
Phoe Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 When I did old i specifically only put one photo up, a clear headshot, because I did not want to deal with being judged based on my body. One man asked for more photos, I declined, the conversation ended. Simple. The men who care about the body more than I'd like will go ahead and skip over me, which works perfectly. The men I talked to were ones who found my headshot sufficient. Easy day! 1
Gary S Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 ^^^if you can get enough quality suitors like that, that's fine.
compulsivedancer Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 I had a guy ask for a front pic of my whole face. When I looked at my Tinder profile, I realized that all my pics were in profile, and of the same side of my face, so he was wondering if I was hiding something.
KatZee Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 I get turned off when guys ask for subsequent pics. My OLD profile has 6+ photos, face, full body, in pants, in dresses. Everything is there along with dates they were taken. I don't even understand the "send me more pics just so I know you're not a liar." First off, I don't feel I have to prove anything to you, Secondly, just meet me. It can be as stupid and cheap as a Dunkin Donuts coffee. Then you can see, IN PERSON, exactly who I am. You don't need more pictures of me on your phone. 1
Recommended Posts