Bobbi7 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I went back on OLD and I exchanged numbers with this guy. He texted me this morning with his picture and is requesting me to send him a pic. I decided to next him. I just think sending pics is junior high. He already saw my pics on my profile! What else does he want??? 1
mammasita Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It depends.....I think that when they send pics unwarranted (i.e. without me asking for one) its annoying....especially if they're shirtless.....and then expect one back....yes. BUT, if its innocent like "you're picture wasn't very clear on the site, do you have a better one you can send me" without the guy sending me one all willy nilly first, I wouldn't mind. 4
Redhead14 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I went back on OLD and I exchanged numbers with this guy. He texted me this morning with his picture and is requesting me to send him a pic. I decided to next him. I just think sending pics is junior high. He already saw my pics on my profile! What else does he want??? As long as they aren't of a sexual nature, what's the big deal? Not only that, people put pictures up on OLD that are sometimes from years ago. Maybe he just wants to be sure that's what you look like now. 3
rocketman122 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 (edited) I went back on OLD and I exchanged numbers with this guy. He texted me this morning with his picture and is requesting me to send him a pic. I decided to next him. I just think sending pics is junior high. He already saw my pics on my profile! What else does he want??? you next for that? Edited April 9, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I'm in agreement with both posters. OLD has become a playground for misrepresentation more often than not. He was probably just looking to confirm that you were who you said you were. 6
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 The man wants to know if you are like your profile's pictures. If I exchange phone number with a man and he'd like a selfie I will send it to him gladly, I have nothing to hide. Why would you not text him pictures? I don't understand your thought process. 1
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 If you have multiple clear, good quality pics then there's no reason for anyone to ask for more. I would recommend focusing on someone who would like to meet you in real life rather than playing photo exchange games. However if your photos are bad quality, can't really see your face properly or generally just suck, then it's totally reasonable for him to ask for a better one. He needs to be able to pick you out across a crowded bar when you meet, after all. If he can't even recognize you in a police line up from your profile pics then he'll need more to go on.
Vintage79 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It depends on what kind of picture he wants, but generally, I don't think it's a big deal, and you're being a bit junior high for nexting for that. You must really not want to meet someone. Why even bother trying to date if you're going to next people because they ask you a simple, harmless question that you can simply say no to? 1
Author Bobbi7 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures.
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures. Don't send him sexy pictures geeeezz!! Why are you so on the defensive so fast? You exchange pictures on first message exactly because you have NOT met!! and you want a better feel of the person!! It's not science! Why would you want more pictures of someone you've met already? 2
Author Bobbi7 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 Don't send him sexy pictures geeeezz!! Why are you so on the defensive so fast? You exchange pictures on first message exactly because you have NOT met!! and you want a better feel of the person!! It's not science! Why would you want more pictures of someone you've met already? There's had been plenty of times where I exchanged pictures with a guy and 99.9% he wanted a sexy pic.
Redhead14 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures. Why do you assume that? Did he send you a sexy picture? How can you be pretty sure he wants sexy pictures if you haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? You are reading into this too much. Until he deals "that hand", it's not fair to you or him to assume. If you further limit your dating pool based on assumptions, you'll rarely if ever meet someone. Or, you can say, I'd prefer it if we could talk on the phone and ask him to call you or you could call him. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 (edited) My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures. Going into OLD with a jaded attitude isn't going to help you. I absolutely agree that women (especially) need to tread carefully but at the same time you can't discount every guy because you think he's up to no good before he proves you right. That's just nonsense. Trust me, fake profiles and old pictures are an epidemic online. Maybe you should trying putting yourself in HIS shoes...maybe he had a bad experience and is just looking for confirmation before he gets too invested. You need to relax. Edited April 9, 2015 by Michelle ma Belle 2
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 There's had been plenty of times where I exchanged pictures with a guy and 99.9% he wanted a sexy pic. Next him WHEN he does ask for sexy pictures. Till then he's done nothing wrong. 2
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I am with Bobbi on this one. If you have a variety of good quality pics on your dating profile then there's no reason anyone would think they are fake, and therefore no reason to ask for more pics as proof that you are who you say you are. Assuming that people aren't who they say they are until they send you proof, demonstrates a more jaded attitude to OLD, I think... Sure if you have only one bad quality or fake-looking, too professional pic then it could be a fake... and in fact I probably wouldn't even reply to that profile let alone get to the phone number stage. I never felt the need to ask for more pics, and was never asked for any. I would definitely see it as a weird thing to do. My pics are on my profile, enough good quality ones to prove that I am who I say I am, and I would only talk to people who have a similar amount and quality. My "fake filter" filtered them out even before giving my phone number. So there's no need to send more. 3
thefooloftheyear Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I friend of mine had done a lot of OLD....The number one complaint was that the women never looked anything like their photos...I dont know if it was photoshopped, old pics, whatever....He also mentioned that none ever showed a clear picture of their body type..Im sure guys probably do the same thing, but I dunno.. Might be shallow, but lets face it...In real life, you would look as you look...If anything, its probably better to put average looking pictures, so the person can be surprised when they see you...rather than disappointed.. TFY 2
Gaeta Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It works both ways here. OP is overly sensitive because most men that ask her pictures end up wanting sexy pictures. Her contact wants pictures by text because he probably met a bunch of women that were much fatter in real than in their online pictures. Both parties have to be flexible. OP wants this guy to understand that his request for more pictures comes across as sleazy but she won't understand in return that he's probably been fooled with looks before. 2
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 he's probably been fooled with looks before. Could be. But his strategy for dealing with that is a pretty poor one. Better ways to handle it would be to (a) not bother to even talk to women with insufficient quality or quantity of pics, or (b) make it clear that he wants the pic because hers aren't good/numerous enough to pick her out of a police line up. If the pics on her profile are good and numerous enough then I can't think of any legit reason he'd ask for more. Only reasons would be that wants to play photo pong, or wants to escalate the photo requests to "sexy" level. 1
myothernic2 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I am with Bobbi on this one. If you have a variety of good quality pics on your dating profile then there's no reason anyone would think they are fake, and therefore no reason to ask for more pics as proof that you are who you say you are. Assuming that people aren't who they say they are until they send you proof, demonstrates a more jaded attitude to OLD, I think... Sure if you have only one bad quality or fake-looking, too professional pic then it could be a fake... and in fact I probably wouldn't even reply to that profile let alone get to the phone number stage. I never felt the need to ask for more pics, and was never asked for any. I would definitely see it as a weird thing to do. My pics are on my profile, enough good quality ones to prove that I am who I say I am, and I would only talk to people who have a similar amount and quality. My "fake filter" filtered them out even before giving my phone number. So there's no need to send more. I agree with you and Bobbi. If the photos are qualities and plentiful, why ask for more? It's especially annoying if they send you one out of the blue and just wait (expect) for you to do the same without even asking. It's better to just meet anyway then to show them like a 10th photo of yourself (assuming you have a lot of photos on your profile). 1
Vintage79 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 If you have a variety of good quality pics on your dating profile then there's no reason anyone would think they are fake, and therefore no reason to ask for more pics as proof that you are who you say you are. Assuming that people aren't who they say they are until they send you proof, demonstrates a more jaded attitude to OLD, I think... You and Bobbi are reading way too much into this - you honestly have no idea why he wants pictures - sure, he may want sexy pictures (next him when he asks for them), it's possible he thinks the online pictures are fake, but I doubt that - maybe he just wants to link the picture to your phone number, so he sees the picture when you call/text? I honestly have no idea - but if it's the fake argument, simply tell him that the best pictures are on the dating website and be done with it. I don't think him asking for a picture should be a deal breaker - it's more how he responds when you say you don't have anything to send him other than what's on the website. 1
kendahke Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I went back on OLD and I exchanged numbers with this guy. He texted me this morning with his picture and is requesting me to send him a pic. I decided to next him. I just think sending pics is junior high. He already saw my pics on my profile! What else does he want??? I dont' think he's wrong in wanting a picture... people notoriously post pictures of themselves that are 10+ years old and there is nothing for him to assume that you're not one of those people--he doesn't know you. You don't sound as if you're ready to be on OLD... it's not unreasonable to exchange pictures. As long as you do, you're going to be wasting all your time nexting prospects. 1
kendahke Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures. Pretty sure? Why not get to "absolutely sure" before nexting? 1
katiegrl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My pictures are pretty clear on my profile. Plus why exchange pics on the first text if I haven't even MET or talked to the guy on the phone? I'm pretty sure he wants some sexy pictures. Yeah I agree... he's segueing into the sexy pic exchange. I also agree with Pete. Your pics are clear, and obviously he likes what he sees. No need to exchange more at this point, next step is talk on phone and if you like each other's voices, schedule a quick meet. This texting back and forth exchanging photos is a form of avoidance IMO. Just MEET in person for chrissakes, and if you don't like what you see IN REAL LIFE. then politely excuse yourself and wish them well. 2
katiegrl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Pretty sure? Why not get to "absolutely sure" before nexting? I don't get all this judging. If it turned her off and she wants to next him, isn't that her prerogative? Seriously, it would probably turn me off too. You've seen my pics, you like, let's meet in person for 15 minutes, then you can see the ALL of me... and gauge what's "really" important -- mutual chemistry!
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