lovesick1 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I wasn't particularly interested in her first. I thought she was relatively attractive but I more or less decided not to pursue. Since we met a a few months ago, I frequently catch her watching me. I even whispered to one guy I was working with to look for himself and he chilled for a bit, looked, then laughed and said she was looking right at me. Over time I noticed this more and eventually developed a crush. We still catch ourselves looking at one another. So I started approaching her, working up the conversations more and more as the days went on. Well yesterday, I was feeling confident for other unrelated reasons, and I started talking to her. I quickly became aware of an awkwardness in the air. I felt like I had to throw out as many questions as possible (all about her mind you) and also sensed that if I did not keep them coming the conversation would hit the dreadful pause when both parties are too awkward to even be in the same vicinity with one another. I am not really sure what to make of the situation because she is friendly but she doesn't have that interested look. She makes eye contact but smiles infrequently it's just like she is regurgitating information and shows no feeling in it. These two bits of information (she likes to watch me but doesn't seem to engage in conversation) leads me to believe both of us aren't entirely sure if we like each other enough to want to proceed.
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Well, you have to watch the whole dating a coworker thing, there are sexual harassment issues, the boss may like her and get jealous, and if things go bad, it might be really awkward working with her. That aside, the reason we date people is to get them around us so that they would fall for us. Since she works with you and sees you all the time, this is all taken care of for you. If she develops a crush on you, she'll express interest somehow, someway. I'd sit back and wait for her to show you a sign. And if she is the one making the moves, there's no rejection. Just play and banter with her and treat her nice, make her want you. In the mean time, you could even date other women.
Author lovesick1 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 Which she isn't, and hasn't. As I wasn't initially interested I didn't make any moves either. But when I noticed her continually watching me I thought well maybe she wants me to talk to her.
loverboy69 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 The blank expression or look is a normal sign of attraction for someone who is trying to hide their feelings for you. It usually stems from fear of rejection and being unsure how you feel about 'em. Yeah she might stare from afar when she thinks you're not looking. You ever heard of the confident/nervous guy or girl? They are friendly or outgoing with everyone but around you they come across indifferent or aloof? I've had plenty of men who were attracted to me act this way. They'd give me the deer in headlights gaze when I'd pass them in the hall or when they would talk to me they'd act very formal or serious. I would initially take it as them not being interested in me but in reality it was the opposite. I'm not saying she is head over heals for you. But just be aware that some people act this way around you when feelings get involved. The key is to see whether she only acts this way around you and normal around everyone else.
CharmieF Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Maybe she's awkward because you're approaching her during working hours? She could feel a little self-conscious. Dude, organise a few drinks after work with a few cool co-workers and invite her along, she might be totally different in a more relaxed environment.
Author lovesick1 Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 The blank expression or look is a normal sign of attraction for someone who is trying to hide their feelings for you. It usually stems from fear of rejection and being unsure how you feel about 'em. Yeah she might stare from afar when she thinks you're not looking. You ever heard of the confident/nervous guy or girl? They are friendly or outgoing with everyone but around you they come across indifferent or aloof? I've had plenty of men who were attracted to me act this way. They'd give me the deer in headlights gaze when I'd pass them in the hall or when they would talk to me they'd act very formal or serious. I would initially take it as them not being interested in me but in reality it was the opposite. I'm not saying she is head over heals for you. But just be aware that some people act this way around you when feelings get involved. The key is to see whether she only acts this way around you and normal around everyone else She does seem to have more of a smile and enthusiastic personality around others Quote end She acts friendlier around older folks who engage her. For me it comes off as more a formality most days. I also act a little different than myself around her so it's probably why im having trouble reading her. also, it's always me saying hello or goodbye or striking up a conversation. Yet I still catch her every now and then looking my way. She works at the front desk so it's not like she has a lot else to do I guess. I am only half-interested in figuring it out, I'm not overly attracted to her really but I am very bored at this point in my love life. Last time I went after a girl for this reason when there wasn't much there it ended for that exact reason- I expected some connection that never came. Women have a tendency to fall for me and never break up with me, even if we don't have a lot of chemistry. Edit: in an effort to make me sound like less of a douchebag- I have a tough time getting women but when I do they latch on pretty hard.
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