Cedar27 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 (edited) So, i'm 5 months post BU with ex who I was with for three years. There are still feelings there, but at the same time I want to go out and be "Single" again. The other week I met a woman who seemed like she might not be my type, but I was so physically attracted to her I asked for her number. I finally ended up calling her and we had a nice conversation. I was impressed in many ways, but there are still a lot of unknowns. Anyway, I told her i'd be free this week and I would call her when I know my schedule. Well now the week is up and i've done nothing. I am not used to dating, much less casually, and this woman seems like she'd be the outgoing type looking for fun/adventure…whereas i'm more cautious, and serious about looking for a relationship. That being said, it's been years since i've been out with a woman like this (got her number and met up with her). Years. I'm single now and this is the first woman I actually can spend some time with. It's been long enough…. I don't know what to do. I've been in some contact with my ex, and part of me does want her back. So that concerns me but at the same time i've done everything to accept she's done and I need to move on. I WANT to test the waters of the dating pool, I just don't know if A: I'm simply not ready to date yet (feelings for ex) and this is a bad idea B: This woman's beauty is striking, she's the first number from a girl i've gotten since BU. Yet I have reservations about our compatibility and i'm anxious as hell about putting anymore energy into something I have reservations about…so i'm stalling. Any thoughts? Am I just over thinking all of this? I mean, I feel like i'm already looking at this woman as if she is my future bride and all we said was it would be fun to hang out sometime. Edited April 9, 2015 by Cedar27
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 To heal faster and ease the pain, I'd cut contact with the ex, and date, it's good therapy. Nothing can take your mind off the ex like a new lady can. Go have fun!
Author Cedar27 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 I guess i'm just new to the dating game….I feel like part of me is trying to figure out if the woman will be right for me even before I see her. Sort of like putting the cart before the horse. I am just usually very picky about who I let into my life. I am leaning towards going for it….
Rko28 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Ive always said that the majority of the time you dont ever truly get over someone until you meet the next person. I say majority as some of the time its not the case.
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