Zahara Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I really was kidding around, and everyone knows that, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. There were some funny ones in here lol, thanks for the laughs. I don't wear my hair and makeup like that everyday, it's only when I go out. I am usually plain jane, wearing hoodies, and t shirts, and jeans. I am not glammed up all day everyday. If you're going to "joke" about it, then expect to hear unlikely responses. I think you plant these seeds because you desire validation from men. Any woman secure, mature and comfortable in her own skin, wouldn't even think of these questions. Wouldn't even cross her mind. She doesn't need to put feelers out. You passively do this, get a bad response then play innocent that you were just joking.
Emilia Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I am going to go ahead and guess that they insulted you like this because they don't like you for other reasons. That's my view too. Men don't tend to launch such a bitchy attack over requesting likes for a photo when they appreciate a woman even just as a friend. They don't like you, OP.
Vintage79 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I really was kidding around, and everyone knows that, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. There were some funny ones in here lol, thanks for the laughs. I don't wear my hair and makeup like that everyday, it's only when I go out. I am usually plain jane, wearing hoodies, and t shirts, and jeans. I am not glammed up all day everyday. I don't think you get it Ashley - only people that are insecure, desperate for attention, and have low self esteem would even really think to joke that way (so even if it was a joke, the fact that that's the joke style tells the world something) - the fact that you follow-up these kinds of statements with, "I already have enough like", and other junk like that just confirms this position. Make-up isn't marginally intimidating - low self-esteem, insecurities, etc., just aren't marginally attractive. The fact that you think it's because of make-up is further evidence and speaks towards your disconnect with reality. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I really was kidding around, and everyone knows that, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. There were some funny ones in here lol, thanks for the laughs. I don't wear my hair and makeup like that everyday, it's only when I go out. I am usually plain jane, wearing hoodies, and t shirts, and jeans. I am not glammed up all day everyday. OP based on your posting history, you come across as very insecure. Now you're backpeddling since nobody agrees with you so you were just "kidding around" ... Please grow up.
mr_dave Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Ashley, I've had a look your pictures, and you are indeed very naturally attractive. I much prefer photo 7 in your album to your latest ones. However, when I see a woman who wears a ton of makeup, I'm not really intimidated, just put off! That's because I have no idea what she actually looks like. A fair amount of women who wear lots of makeup do so for a reason - because they are not particularly beautiful. You don't have that problem. Too much makeup (or worse, drawn-on/overplucked eyebrows) make a woman look hard-faced, high maintenance, and not a particularly nice person. Do I find insecurity in a woman attractive? Hmm, self deprecation yes, attention seeking no. I would tell my ex girlfriend how beautiful she was and how much I loved her every day, but that wasn't enough - she needed the validation from other men too.
No_Go Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I don't think guys in general are intimidated by make up. I usually wear some makeup, nothing excessive. I had one ex that asked me to wear less, and one who preferred me to wear more. Different people, different preferences. Having said that, wear your make up as YOU like it. Obviously, there are occasions that require little/no makeup (gym, hikes), and others in which you can be more creative (like clubs). But I don't think quality guys will like you or dislike you because of make up. P.S. I looked at your pictures, just my opinion - strong lips or eyes, both simultaneously is coming as overdone (maybe your guy friend was intimidated by that but didn't know what exactly it is since he's a male ) Lol, I'll explain better. Take my pic for an example. I only look like that when I go out, and I don't do my makeup like that everyday. My best friend Jake has guy friends, who I know a little bit, but not too well, but I added them on Facebook anyways, and I jokingly said to them "Why don't you guys put a "like" up to my pics? I do it to yours all the time! Haha" They all pretty much said the same thing "Because your full of yourself!" I said "What? No i'm not! What makes you think that?" They said "You look conceited, and high maintenance. You look expensive too, how the way your hair is, your makeup, and how the way you dress." I was really shocked by that! Because I am shy in person, and I am nowhere near that. My guy friend said "Some guys are just intimidated by girls that wear makeup, and look the way you look. I know you're not conceited, but some guys at first glance will think you're stuck up, and conceited." I was really bothered by that because I just love makeup, lol. I don't think I am good looking or hot. I hardly ever get approached by guys, it usually takes me to do it. So is that true? Do guys really get intimidated by girls that wear makeup? Or "look the way I do"? Do I look like a conceited bitch?
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Intelligent, reasonable and secure guys won't ever be "intimidated" by women who wear makeup. If a woman they're interested in wears too much makeup or garish kind of makeup, it may turn them off. . 1
GemmaUK Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I haven't looked at any pics of you aside from your avatar on show here and I don't zoom my screen. To be honest your avatar does look like an awful lot of make up and this coming from me - I wear full face make up that is pretty but natural looking - to the point where previous partners have told me that they like that I barely wear any make up! I see women walking around first thing in the morning with a tonne of make up on and unblended stripes where they should have a natural glow - it's scary! Thankfully I'm not a lesbian so their faces won't be touching my white cotton pillow cases! Why not try a more subtle look sometimes when going out? They say that if you don't ever make a change you will never see a change - or something like that......... Ah! Got it! 'If you don't change anything you will get what you always got' - that's what I mean.. Try something new - your passion for make up can have a whole new overhaul and you can buy and experiment with more of it! Where is the downside to that for one who like you loves make up?
kayla73 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 The comment you made about "having enough people like your pictures" IS in fact a conceited thing to say. With time and maturity, your confidence will grow. In the meantime, don't worry about what other people think of you. If you like the way you look that's all that matters. Love yourself.
smackie9 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Too much makeup does not intimidate guys, it just doesn't appeal to them. Guys like more of a natural look.
hudson701 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Lol it has absolutely nothing to do with intimidation. It's the fact that they do not want to massage an already healthy ego by liking your photos. It's today's typical modern attention whore isn't it? Constantly checking fb, Instagram etc for likes, vying for attention etc it's all very vacuous, egotistical and shallow. " Ooohh look at my new duck face - give me likes!!" " Ooohh I just woke up - gimme me likes!!" " Ohhhh I am a pretty female - give me likes !!!" Etc etc. I really am totally unimpressed by today's modern 18 - 25 year old. All the same. All constantly seeking validation. 1
Redhead14 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Lol, I'll explain better. Take my pic for an example. I only look like that when I go out, and I don't do my makeup like that everyday. My best friend Jake has guy friends, who I know a little bit, but not too well, but I added them on Facebook anyways, and I jokingly said to them "Why don't you guys put a "like" up to my pics? I do it to yours all the time! Haha" They all pretty much said the same thing "Because your full of yourself!" I said "What? No i'm not! What makes you think that?" They said "You look conceited, and high maintenance. You look expensive too, how the way your hair is, your makeup, and how the way you dress." I was really shocked by that! Because I am shy in person, and I am nowhere near that. My guy friend said "Some guys are just intimidated by girls that wear makeup, and look the way you look. I know you're not conceited, but some guys at first glance will think you're stuck up, and conceited." I was really bothered by that because I just love makeup, lol. I don't think I am good looking or hot. I hardly ever get approached by guys, it usually takes me to do it. So is that true? Do guys really get intimidated by girls that wear makeup? Or "look the way I do"? Do I look like a conceited bitch? Ashley, you are a beautiful young woman. Your picture makes you look like a woman who takes care of herself and is mature and confident. From what you've said in various posts your friends are immature. If you were a teenager trying to look older or something, I'd understand those comments a little bit. But, be the woman in that picture. Your posts over time here suggest that you are maybe wearing a little bit of a "false front". I mean that with all respect and good intentions
Bobbi7 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 (edited) Men are just being silly!!!! Well, else do they expect? Make-up on women makes them look good, get noticed and approached. If a guy saw a woman that looked like rags, they wouldn't even look at her. Lets be realistic. Guys need to stop being modest. Heck, guys don't even know what we go through to look attractive for them. We also spend a good amount of money on hair, makeup, outfits, high heels, waxing, shaving, manicure, pedicure. Edited April 9, 2015 by Bobbi7
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I really was kidding around, and everyone knows that, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. There were some funny ones in here lol, thanks for the laughs. I don't wear my hair and makeup like that everyday, it's only when I go out. I am usually plain jane, wearing hoodies, and t shirts, and jeans. I am not glammed up all day everyday. What does their reaction to your message tell you about how they interpreted your joke? Also, which responses here did you find comical? Why?
KimmyBee Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Too much makeup does not intimidate guys, it just doesn't appeal to them. Guys like more of a natural look. If you're naturally good looking that is
preraph Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 Ashley, you look great. That dude has bad self-esteem and *he knows he isn't good enough for many women*. He is measuring their worth with some preconceived notions, which is a sign of immaturity. It's like trying to take your temperature with a toilet plunger. Forgive the image. I knew a guy who was intimidated by women with decent cars. He felt his steady income was his biggest asset and so he looked for girls in old beat-up cars. I told him it was ridiculous. He used to listen to me a little. I don't think that guy has much insight at all, but I will have to agree with at least one other poster here that just from your frenetic posts about guys you should completely run off but keep letting in, that you are some kind of high maintenance, or at least high drama and low common sense, but probably not in the way he's inferring. But you are still young, and we all have to learn through experience. All you have to do is strive to be your best you, and that means looking nice like you do and not getting out on the fringes with your wardrobe, and learning from your mistakes as quickly as possible to avoid wear and tear on your psyche!
Syberia Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 If you're naturally good looking that is Quite honestly, no matter how you look. I'd rather you be real and average-looking than "fake pretty." And if you're omg ugly, no amount of makeup is going to change that. 1
Omei Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) I can't imagine. I can't be bothered to put on makeup most days, much less that day! I know a lot of men prefer make up free.. Far more prefer what they think is makeup free but is actually a lot of more difficult makeup to look "natural", a few but fewer than others prefer obvious makeup and it does relate to the "high maintenance stigma.) I have a friend who wears makeup to the gym And posts selfies constantly. Some guy friends have told me that was a huge turn off. (She asked me to set her up because I have a lot of great guy friends.) Its not like I went full on glam, just did my natural look you know girls who looks natural still wear makeup to make the natural look, look perfect. I just covered the bags under my eyes, put on some mascara and chapstick. maybe 2 mins at most enhancing my natural features with no color, yes guys woman who look like they are not wearing makeup prob are you just don't know it because its not in a shade of color. I hardly remember the pain from that day I got the injection, morphine and the gas. The only parts I remember is during the actual birth felt like it was coming out of my butt not my front, seeing her eyes and breast feeding for the first time, turn crashing and waking up to my aunt says "hi I bought you a necklace!" and be barely conscious saying "uhhhh" and then a few days later I went home lol My usual makeup routine takes about 20 mins with full on eye liner, eye multi eye shadow blending, lips and skin blending. Sometimes longer because I use gel eye liner and tiny brush for freehand perfection, no way did I do all that haha Edited April 11, 2015 by Omei
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