Ashley S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Lol, I'll explain better. Take my pic for an example. I only look like that when I go out, and I don't do my makeup like that everyday. My best friend Jake has guy friends, who I know a little bit, but not too well, but I added them on Facebook anyways, and I jokingly said to them "Why don't you guys put a "like" up to my pics? I do it to yours all the time! Haha" They all pretty much said the same thing "Because your full of yourself!" I said "What? No i'm not! What makes you think that?" They said "You look conceited, and high maintenance. You look expensive too, how the way your hair is, your makeup, and how the way you dress." I was really shocked by that! Because I am shy in person, and I am nowhere near that. My guy friend said "Some guys are just intimidated by girls that wear makeup, and look the way you look. I know you're not conceited, but some guys at first glance will think you're stuck up, and conceited." I was really bothered by that because I just love makeup, lol. I don't think I am good looking or hot. I hardly ever get approached by guys, it usually takes me to do it. So is that true? Do guys really get intimidated by girls that wear makeup? Or "look the way I do"? Do I look like a conceited bitch?
Diezel Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 The more important question is: Why are you begging people to like your pictures? Because that's exactly why they are giving you those answers. I guess you don't understand that part. 13
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 OP I think they probably said it because you were asking them why they didn't like your pics lol. That IS a bit conceited. As far as wearing makeup and looking good - no that does not make you full of yourself or conceited
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 In general, as looks go up, so does high maintenance... that may be what they are referring to... but there are always exceptions. Real high maintenance means someone who has a poor attitude and is difficult to deal with. A woman wearing nice cloths, makeup, and looking nice, by itself, it's not high maintenance... men like that, as long as she is a nice lady. What they are doing is pre-judging you, and it's immature and mean. 1
neowulf Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Ashley, the single reason you struggle so much with men is your deep insecurity about being 'liked'. This thread, along with others. You've shown that you try very very hard to be noticed and liked. It's making you into a doormat. You need to feel good about who you are, on your own. Men can sense insecurity. It either turns them off, or acts like a beacon for men who like to prey on women with low self esteem. You're a pretty young lady. Stop letting others define your value as a person. 13
towardthefuture Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Also if these are people you know well, they may not being saying you're conceited because of your makeup just because that's the second opinion you got. In this thread alone, take note of how many times you said "my", "I" or quoted someone talking about "you". It's 40 times in two short paragraphs. It could be they think you seem conceited because 'you' keeps coming up as a topic of conversation. I've been in therapy a while and one thing I learned in therapy is there are three yous. (1)The way you view yourself. (2)The way you think others view you. (3)And the way others view you that you have no idea about. It sounds like you got a glimpse into category 3, and asked about it and got answers from category 2.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 In general, as looks go up, so does high maintenance... that may be what they are referring to... but there are always exceptions. Real high maintenance means someone who has a poor attitude and is difficult to deal with. A woman wearing nice cloths, makeup, and looking nice, by itself, it's not high maintenance... men like that, as long as she is a nice lady. What they are doing is pre-judging you, and it's immature and mean. In all fairness, she invited it since she was fishing for "likes" on her photos.
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Your makeup is not intimidating. You are an attractive woman. But you do appear high maintenance. I don't know you. I have no idea what kind of person you are but the platinum blonde hair, the bright lips & the tight top make it appear that you are screaming "pay attention to me". When you went on to verbalize that you came across as shallow & stuck up. If those things are not your intent, stop begging for compliments. 6
Author Ashley S Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 The more important question is: Why are you begging people to like your pictures? Because that's exactly why they are giving you those answers. I guess you don't understand that part. I was kidding and joking haha. I wasn't serious, and they knew that I wasn't serious. I don't need their "likes" because I have a ton of likes on my pics that's the joke of it lol.
Author Ashley S Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 Thanks everyone for commenting, and sharing your opinion. I appreciate it, but honestly I was joking and kidding around when I said "Why dont you guys put a "like" up to my pictures?" It's a joke because I have enough people liking my pics, I honestly was just messing around with them, and they knew I was, but they had to throw in their opinions about me. I wasn't fishing for any compliment or anything like that. I'm not that kind of person. I'm real, and straight up. I'm just making that clear. Thank you.
Krieger Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 NO why would I be ? I not a big fan for woman that wear makeup because a lot of woman do not know how put it on right and they look ridiculous when they do. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Thanks everyone for commenting, and sharing your opinion. I appreciate it, but honestly I was joking and kidding around when I said "Why dont you guys put a "like" up to my pictures?" It's a joke because I have enough people liking my pics, I honestly was just messing around with them, and they knew I was, but they had to throw in their opinions about me. I wasn't fishing for any compliment or anything like that. I'm not that kind of person. I'm real, and straight up. I'm just making that clear. Thank you. You sound immature. Ohhh I was kidding all along!! cmon guys!! lol!!! :rolleyes: 1
compulsivedancer Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It's not wearing makeup, per se. It's the WAY you wear it. Your look requires a lot of upkeep, to the point that I'm not sure I'd recognize you if you stopped wearing makeup and put your hair back to natural. This look suggests that you might be "high maintenance." Your look actually reminds me of my nephew's girlfriend. She is very attractive, in a "scene" sort of way, but she was applying makeup to her face DURING childbirth. She is super nice, but a little immature at times ( re: Facebook drama). Thankfully, my nephew specifically likes the "scene" look, so it works in her favor. Like anything else, it'll turn some guys on and other guys off. If you're attracting the kind of guys you want to date, I wouldn't worry about it. If you aren't, your look might be sending the wrong messages.
Omei Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Your look actually reminds me of my nephew's girlfriend. She is very attractive, in a "scene" sort of way, but she was applying makeup to her face DURING childbirth. Totally did that too!!! I don't remember if it was before or after but those are pictures that will pass down at least two lifetimes, gotta do a touch up at the very least! ahahaha am I right ladies or what? 1
almond Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I am going to go ahead and guess that they insulted you like this because they don't like you for other reasons. They clearly have no respect for you, and for them to respond in this manner, it seems that they don't mind making this clear to you. Your best friend is most likely aware that his friends aren't your biggest fans. I'd suggest not worrying about them at all, and don't contact them again for anything. Focus on yourself and the people around you that enjoy your friendship and company. 1
Erised Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Totally did that too!!! I don't remember if it was before or after but those are pictures that will pass down at least two lifetimes, gotta do a touch up at the very least! ahahaha am I right ladies or what? I can't imagine. I can't be bothered to put on makeup most days, much less that day! I know a lot of men prefer make up free.. Far more prefer what they think is makeup free but is actually a lot of more difficult makeup to look "natural", a few but fewer than others prefer obvious makeup and it does relate to the "high maintenance stigma.) I have a friend who wears makeup to the gym And posts selfies constantly. Some guy friends have told me that was a huge turn off. (She asked me to set her up because I have a lot of great guy friends.) 1
Syberia Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My wife wore makeup for our wedding, and for professional photos. Those are the only times I have seen her wear it in the 12 years we have known each other. I think it makes women look fake, and I'd much prefer to see someone for what they are naturally. She looks as good when she first gets up in the morning as she does during the rest of the day, and there's something to be said for that. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 try something different try putting up a picture of you ....no mask no make up ..do this regularly.......and see what happens......deb
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Thanks everyone for commenting, and sharing your opinion. I appreciate it, but honestly I was joking and kidding around when I said "Why dont you guys put a "like" up to my pictures?" It's a joke because I have enough people liking my pics, I honestly was just messing around with them, and they knew I was, but they had to throw in their opinions about me. I wasn't fishing for any compliment or anything like that. I'm not that kind of person. I'm real, and straight up. I'm just making that clear. Thank you. I believe you are mistaken. It doesn't come across as a joke. It comes across as fishing because you are insecure, and these guys sensed that. It's obvious. Secure people don't ask questions like that, because it doesn't even register on their radar. Makeup isn't intimidating. I think a lot of people appreciate how much fun it can be, but many men will wonder what you're hiding under all of it. That is why your question about why they don't "like" your pictures wasn't received well. It's the need for validation that rubs people the wrong way. I think you completely misinterpreted their reaction. 6
Els Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 It's a joke because I have enough people liking my pics, I honestly was just messing around with them, and they knew I was, but they had to throw in their opinions about me. Clearly they didn't think you were 'joking' (and you yourself said you didn't know each other very well), otherwise they wouldn't have said what they did, would they? I don't know, OP... after asking a bunch of acquaintances to 'like' your pictures and encountering a response like that... why on earth would you twist it around and make it even MORE about your appearance and pictures? Had it not occurred to you that "maybe people just get put off by being told to like someone's pictures"? Your post alone sounds like you are very absorbed with your pictures and appearance and 'likes', regardless of how you look like or whether or not you use makeup. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 You're fishing for compliments through Facebook? Yikes. Anyhow, sounds like about half the women on my friends list as well. There's one woman I know, married...went to go Cinderella (the new live-action one)...and she took a selfie with her and a Tiara on her head. LOL. "Look at me, I'm seeing Cinderella and I feel like such a princess" She's a 40-something afternoon bartender and it's always slow at work and spends her time constantly posting on Facebook....I keep wondering why if she's married...the need for constant attention, is she not getting that from her husband? She gets the attention of course as she's an attractive woman Lol, I'll explain better. Take my pic for an example. I only look like that when I go out, and I don't do my makeup like that everyday. My best friend Jake has guy friends, who I know a little bit, but not too well, but I added them on Facebook anyways, and I jokingly said to them "Why don't you guys put a "like" up to my pics? I do it to yours all the time! Haha" They all pretty much said the same thing "Because your full of yourself!" I said "What? No i'm not! What makes you think that?" They said "You look conceited, and high maintenance. You look expensive too, how the way your hair is, your makeup, and how the way you dress." I was really shocked by that! Because I am shy in person, and I am nowhere near that. My guy friend said "Some guys are just intimidated by girls that wear makeup, and look the way you look. I know you're not conceited, but some guys at first glance will think you're stuck up, and conceited." I was really bothered by that because I just love makeup, lol. I don't think I am good looking or hot. I hardly ever get approached by guys, it usually takes me to do it. So is that true? Do guys really get intimidated by girls that wear makeup? Or "look the way I do"? Do I look like a conceited bitch?
Diezel Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I was kidding and joking haha. I wasn't serious, and they knew that I wasn't serious. I don't need their "likes" because I have a ton of likes on my pics that's the joke of it lol. I don't care what you say, it's fishing for compliments even if you say you are "joking" and write an "lol". Any friend of mine that would "joke" for me to like their pictures because they liked mine... I'd just groan.
PegNosePete Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Any friend of mine that would "joke" for me to like their pictures because they liked mine... I'd just groan. I would laugh. At them, not with them.
Author Ashley S Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 I really was kidding around, and everyone knows that, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. There were some funny ones in here lol, thanks for the laughs. I don't wear my hair and makeup like that everyday, it's only when I go out. I am usually plain jane, wearing hoodies, and t shirts, and jeans. I am not glammed up all day everyday.
CharmieF Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 This whole post just seems like an excuse to get everyone to oggle at your profile picture here -_- Seriously though, joke or not, the whole scenario just makes you come across as tacky. And this is coming from a guy who has dated his fair share of high maintenance 'glamorous make-up wearing' girls. 1
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