DatingDirection Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I need to have more fun in my life, and socialise more. There is a party coming up, that I would really like to go to, but it seems like I don't have anyone to go with. I will not go by myself, I just wont. I've asked my sister, she said no, b/c she doesn't want to spend the money, and it's not her scene. I also asked a friend, who said she was going, and she would like to see me there. I asked her if she would like to meet and go together, but she didn't give me an answer yet about that, this is interesting, since she responded right away that she would love to see me there, but didn't respond when I asked her to go together to the party. There are other women I know going, but they have not reached out to me, and have blown me off b/c they have their group of friends, and don't feel like im important enough to be friend. At least that's what it feels like. Another girl, liked my male friend, and only wanted to hang out with me, if I set her up with him, and she hasn't reached out to me either. I feel like they just do not like me as a person, even though I have never given them a reason to dislike me, I am always polite, kind and friendly to them, and I have tried to make plans with these people, but eventually stopped as I felt like I was the only person trying to reach out, and they never do the same with me, and they're always too "busy" for me. What could be the reason for all of this with me?
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Because you are being your own worst enemy. This is party being thrown by people you know where other friends will be in attendance. It's really OK to walk in by yourself. The fact that you insist you won't do that is puzzling. Just face your fear & go by yourself. It will be fine.
La Trese Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Just go by yourself. Yeah it kind of sucks, but you need to put yourself out there and meet new people. If you let ****ty friends dictate whether or not you go somewhere you will always only have those ****ty friends. Once you are there for a while TRUST me it will be fun and you will see acquaintances, it just might be awk the first half hour. Try and go to the party an hour late, pretend you just stopped by after coming from somewhere if it makes you feel better.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I'm with d0nnivain on this. Your friends will be at the party. Just show up and hang out. Nothing dictates you have to go with someone, unless it was a party where you didn't know anyone at all. Besides, by going by yourself, and the party ends up being lame, you can just leave without telling the person you came with.
preraph Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Unless someone is in a bf/gf relationship most people don't want to couple up just to go to a party. The goal at the party is to meet new bfs and gfs, so bringing a date only makes sense if you already have one. Go a little bit late to the party so it's banging when you get there and just put a smile on and say hi to people. Yes, sometimes it gets awkward. Do your homework the day of the party. Watch the national and local news and celebrity news and have something to talk about to people. Show people a photo of your pet or a funny YouTube, just anything to keep the conversation going. If it gets miserable, you can always leave. 1
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