leech Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) Hi guys, Some brief intro. Me and my gf did not meet in the best terms. After first two months I found out she cheated on me, then she got married to some dude (all in three first months, yeah - she was lying b**** then - no wonder if you know her past). Long story short - her husband was bastard, he beat her up and she come back to me. I was quite hear-broken then and used her as booty call for a couple of months. However, we had very strong attraction then and somehow we pulled through. I was cheating a loot too and she still stood by me. So we fell in love again and then we have started divorce proceedings and it's almost finished now. We are right now into 3 years relationship and everything looked good (we planned for house, kids, etc.) till today. Last month was very stressful for us and me in particular (stressful work, studies, buying a house where vendors is delaying, etc.) - we argued a lot. Then more issues come (we got ballif coming for unpaid tax) and real **** hit the fan. I really lost my cool - we argued a lot this morning and finally she broke - she said she will no longer tolerate abuse from my side and she's reporting me to police. And she really did that - lucky no details were taken. I am not saint - I got my temper, I lose my cool if too many things things go wrong (which happens in life). But I never hit her or anything, we had lots of argues recently, but I would never think she will involve police. I am solving lots of problems (like this ballif, house, etc.) and providing for both of us (money-wise). She is a really good person inside, very good with kids, Unfortunately she's broken by several idiots before me. Now she is super-sensitive to almost everything now - house not clean, dishes not placed in their places, etc. What do you guys think? I heavy invested in her my time, resources and stuff into fixing her life. I also believe in her, but she's also like live grenade right now - with all that police involvement. Unfortunately in my country, the law is very pro-female and any record would have deep impact on my career. I am looking for possible solutions to this relationship. I can find younger and more attractive woman, but I just like my girlfriend - we come together trough lot of **** and we have this bond. Life nowadays is stressful and those things will happen in future - it's dangerous for me to stay into this relationship. Edited April 8, 2015 by leech
Diezel Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Possible solution: Engage in a healthier relationship with someone else.
Author leech Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) Possible solution: Engage in a healthier relationship with someone else. Yeah, I am considering that too. Just too much **** there. However, how does that whole relationship look from your perspective? Saveable? What potential issues could develop? Right - nowadays I will not invest more in cheating girl - but I was quite inexperienced then. Anyone reading that - if you catch girlfriend cheating - just dump her before you get involved more. No buts, no ifs - just dump *****. Edited April 8, 2015 by leech
Poppyolive Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 But you cheated too. No? You're both bad for each other. Please don't bring any children into the world, until you both seek out help.
Diezel Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Yeah, I am considering that too. Just too much **** there. However, how does that whole relationship look from your perspective? Saveable? What potential issues could develop? The relationship looks toxic and unhealthy. You two are terrible for each other. What potential issues could develop? How does "jail" sound to you? Deal with your inner demons, break up with her, eventually find someone else that is healthier to be around.
Author leech Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) But you cheated too. No? You're both bad for each other. Please don't bring any children into the world, until you both seek out help. Yes - I am kind of ashamed of that. Strange things happen when your head is messed up after bs like this :-( It's kind of you want to take revenge on everyone. I became very promiscuous as well. Cheating is no longer a problem for you - it's something natural. Very dark period in my life and it's not an experience I want to have again. Actually her previous ex has cheated and had a child just before they planned to marry. That messed her up. Edited April 8, 2015 by leech
Author leech Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) The relationship looks toxic and unhealthy. You two are terrible for each other. What potential issues could develop? How does "jail" sound to you? Deal with your inner demons, break up with her, eventually find someone else that is healthier to be around. Yeah - this "jail" thing speaks to me loud. But I just don't know man - it's not entirely her fault she got so much bad luck in her life. She did most of things right - wanted to get marry when young, then stayed with first dude, etc. I know - I am not responsible for her life, but it's not one of those loud ***** you see in clubs. After seeing so much of those ***** you start appreciate good girls. Edited April 8, 2015 by leech
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