Jersey1985 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Was dating this girl for 2 months, went on about 7 dates with each. Couldn't see her every week because she had her kid week on, week off with her ex. We pretty much texted everyday, just to see how each others day were going. We had a date setup and she texts me "can't make it".. Im like oh ok, hope everything is ok. So I leave it for a couple hours thinking somethings wrong. Later that night, find she removes me from Facebook. So i text her, hope everything ok, see you removed me off Facebook whats the deal? No reply at all. I wait 2 days and send her a long text explaining thought things were going well, etc.. We were flirty texting and everything the night before our planned date the next day and things were going well.. My question is why would she just blunt out start ignoring me, when i did nothing wrong and from my understanding things were going well, judging by the texts and stuff she was sending me and when we met and person, she liked being with me. She even said i would like her kids when the time came and stuff.. Is there really any reason to not give a reason? or is she just being immature? I have gave it a good week or so now and she never replied to my long msg. She said she wasn't seeing any other guys when she was dating me and things were good with her.
Redhead14 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Was dating this girl for 2 months, went on about 7 dates with each. Couldn't see her every week because she had her kid week on, week off with her ex. We pretty much texted everyday, just to see how each others day were going. We had a date setup and she texts me "can't make it".. Im like oh ok, hope everything is ok. So I leave it for a couple hours thinking somethings wrong. Later that night, find she removes me from Facebook. So i text her, hope everything ok, see you removed me off Facebook whats the deal? No reply at all. I wait 2 days and send her a long text explaining thought things were going well, etc.. We were flirty texting and everything the night before our planned date the next day and things were going well.. My question is why would she just blunt out start ignoring me, when i did nothing wrong and from my understanding things were going well, judging by the texts and stuff she was sending me and when we met and person, she liked being with me. She even said i would like her kids when the time came and stuff.. Is there really any reason to not give a reason? or is she just being immature? I have gave it a good week or so now and she never replied to my long msg. She said she wasn't seeing any other guys when she was dating me and things were good with her. Don't spend another minute thinking about her. She is a rude person. Seven dates and "poofs" on you isn't nice at all. If she had any class at all, she would have called you after you reached out to her and simply said "I've enjoyed the time we've spent together and I thank you, but I don't think we are a good match." 2
fitnessfan365 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) Since you two were seeing each other a few months, she should at least have the decency to give you a formal "it's over" without just disappearing on you. If a woman did that to me with no notice or explanation, I wouldn't spend another minute thinking about her. She'd be dead to me. However, what you need to do is stop chasing after her. Never contact her again and just give her space. Who knows, the lack of contact may make her pop back into your orbit and explain herself. But, repeatedly trying to contact her will just keep pushing her further and further away. The best revenge is to act completely indifferent by it. But even though it seems counter-intuitive, texting all the time with a woman on the phone lowers attraction level. You shouldn't be acting like her boyfriend, until you actually are her boyfriend. In the future, I'd avoid getting dragged into a "text-ship" and use the phone primarily to set dates and touch base once and awhile. Edited April 8, 2015 by fitnessfan365 3
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Lol why did you feel the need to ask her why she removed you from Facebook? Haha. I don't think you needed her to spell it out for you more I would have just ignored her. Pretty rude of her to just poof on you like that after 2 months, but I take it you guys weren't exclusive, so it's not unheard of. 2
Redhead14 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Was dating this girl for 2 months, went on about 7 dates with each. Couldn't see her every week because she had her kid week on, week off with her ex. We pretty much texted everyday, just to see how each others day were going. We had a date setup and she texts me "can't make it".. Im like oh ok, hope everything is ok. So I leave it for a couple hours thinking somethings wrong. Later that night, find she removes me from Facebook. So i text her, hope everything ok, see you removed me off Facebook whats the deal? No reply at all. I wait 2 days and send her a long text explaining thought things were going well, etc.. We were flirty texting and everything the night before our planned date the next day and things were going well.. My question is why would she just blunt out start ignoring me, when i did nothing wrong and from my understanding things were going well, judging by the texts and stuff she was sending me and when we met and person, she liked being with me. She even said i would like her kids when the time came and stuff.. Is there really any reason to not give a reason? or is she just being immature? I have gave it a good week or so now and she never replied to my long msg. She said she wasn't seeing any other guys when she was dating me and things were good with her. I've treated guys I've only been on one date with who were "jerks" with more respect than that. You deserve better. If she ever contacts you, ignore her. 2
Author Jersey1985 Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 I would get it if I cheated on her or something worse but never happened. So I sat there re-reading my msg and i can't even figure out what would make her do this. Like i said we were getting along so well, then i got the i can't make it. I asked her if we were exclusive and she said yes, but didn't want to fully commit to a status till i met her kid, which is fine, as long as she wasn't seeing anyone and she said she wasn't. Totally supported her space with her kids and such and waited my time till i got to see her next. 1
jen1447 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 The reason is that she's an emotional infant. Be glad you dodged that bullet. 3
kendahke Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Was dating this girl for 2 months, went on about 7 dates with each. Couldn't see her every week because she had her kid week on, week off with her ex. We pretty much texted everyday, just to see how each others day were going. We had a date setup and she texts me "can't make it".. Im like oh ok, hope everything is ok. So I leave it for a couple hours thinking somethings wrong. Later that night, find she removes me from Facebook. So i text her, hope everything ok, see you removed me off Facebook whats the deal? No reply at all. I wait 2 days and send her a long text explaining thought things were going well, etc.. We were flirty texting and everything the night before our planned date the next day and things were going well.. My question is why would she just blunt out start ignoring me, when i did nothing wrong and from my understanding things were going well, judging by the texts and stuff she was sending me and when we met and person, she liked being with me. She even said i would like her kids when the time came and stuff.. Is there really any reason to not give a reason? or is she just being immature? I have gave it a good week or so now and she never replied to my long msg. She said she wasn't seeing any other guys when she was dating me and things were good with her. Either her ex is back or there is someone else. Still, to just evaporate like that is really rude. Speaks volumes about the kind of person she is. Block her and make sure she can't come sniffing around when whatever it is that prompted her to do what she did falls through and she's looking to make herself feel better with you. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I would get it if I cheated on her or something worse but never happened. So I sat there re-reading my msg and i can't even figure out what would make her do this. Like i said we were getting along so well, then i got the i can't make it. I asked her if we were exclusive and she said yes, but didn't want to fully commit to a status till i met her kid, which is fine, as long as she wasn't seeing anyone and she said she wasn't. Totally supported her space with her kids and such and waited my time till i got to see her next. Were you even exclusive? How could you be cheating on her... 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Don't dwell on it anymore, OP. She dumped you in real rude and cowardly way. Her actions says much more about her than you. 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 FYI OP, I was dating a guy for 8 months and was dumped via text on my b-day, while on the plane coming back from vacation. I was blindsided. He did come crawling back a few months later and it was so incredibly satisfying to reject him. He was bitter for years after. So glad I dodged that bullet. Be glad that you saw her character now rather than later.. 1
Diana.dellala Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 either her ex is back or there is someone else I agree with Kendahke you could try to text/tell her that you thought she was an amazing person, much better than that and that you would never expect her to disappear like that... And so on 3-4 messages like that. Even if that's not something you think, it might get you an answer and an explanation. In any case, I agree with everybody else that it would be better to move on, she doesn't look like an emotionally stable person 1
Mrin Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Only possibly acceptable answer would be that she did a background check on you and something freaked her out. Especially with kids involved. All other explanations are that she is a horrible person. 1
Satu Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Be glad that you didn't get more involved with her... She obviously doesn't spend much time thinking about other people's feelings. You are the better person. *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I agree with Kendahke you could try to text/tell her that you thought she was an amazing person, much better than that and that you would never expect her to disappear like that... And so on 3-4 messages like that. Even if that's not something you think, it might get you an answer and an explanation. In any case, I agree with everybody else that it would be better to move on, she doesn't look like an emotionally stable person DON'T do this. Since you already tried reaching out and she didn't respond, sending her more messages won't do any good and will only make you look like a desperate stalker. At this point, all you can do is just walk away and forget her. Even if she did give you some sort of explanation, still doesn't change the fact that she's no longer interested or that she is a terrible person. 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I agree with fitnessfan, DO NOT contact her any more. Any further attempt at contact will make you look like a desperate fool. Please don't do this to yourself. Stay dignified, delete her and move on. You're the bigger person here. Silence and moving on will keep your dignity in tact.
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 You really don't have a solid relationship until two months, you must have been a hair shy of that mark and she decided she did not want a relationship with you. Date other women, time is the great healer, the pain will pass.
Author Jersey1985 Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Yeah i have a clean background haha and nothing really bad on my Facebook either. Im 29 and quite mature for my age i think… I don't know why but i kind of miss her, i know it sounds silly. I think its because she sent msg's before like example..i made her feel like she can be herself around me and its a weird feeling but she feels comfortable when she's with me and she doesn't have a lot of confidence she said and i bring that out in her. Then she would say i would really like her kids and stuff. She even said she thought about having another kid because i wanted kids… So all this stuff she has said to me has stuck with me giving me that warm feeling inside and I want that. I guess its just the unknown of finding someone again. Don't live in the city, more of a town so not like there tons of single girls. But i guess patience, will eventually give you something good…
Omei Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 People are selfish cowards, well not all but some they want to date but have no responsibility to it. They care more about how bothersome for them it would be to face someone they may upset and instead of doing the decent thing they decide to vanish because it makes it less hard on themselves.
preraph Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 You said she has kids. Where there's kids, there's either an ex or a baby daddy. It's possible she is trying to get back together with him and is cleaning up her social media, or it's possible she is in custody negotiations or something like that and doesn't want to appear to be dating. How long has she been out of this relationship and is there a pending divorce?
Author Jersey1985 Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 No pending divorce and she friends with her ex cause of her kids. No chance they were getting back together.
contact1 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 As many others have said, she just chickened out and took the cowards way of ending things. You'll probably never really find out why she did that, but it doesn't matter. What matters is how she ended up, would you really want to give that another try, knowing how she just vanished with no reason like an immature little girl? Follow what others are saying and find yourself a real woman, they're out there, or so I hear
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