Why would he add me on social media, like all of my pictures but not text?

[itsdinaah]

Ok so I hung out with this guy once ( I knew him through mutual friends but this is the first time we were alone). We had fun and it was pretty casual. There wasn't any chemistry or sparks but it seemed like the beginning of a good friendship.

 

I was wrong though because he stopped texting me a few days after the hang out. I deleted him from my phone and moved on with my life. Three weeks later he followed me on Instagram and liked about 20 of my pictures. He hasn't initiated contact outside of social media.

 

What does this mean? Should I just let it go?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Why does it have to mean anything?

 

Maybe he just enjoys following you on social media. You said yourself there wasn't any kind of chemistry or sparks so there shouldn't be any expectations. Maybe you read more into your encounter with him more than he did.

 

That's not to say I agree with this is disappearing act but again, if you didn't feel anything for him then it shouldn't be much of a loss.

 

I don't know. It's hard to speculate on what people are thinking but at this point I think you should just let it go and pretend like you didn't notice anything.

[d0nnivain]

It could mean he's shy, socially awkward & not good with words. Write back -- thanks for following me & liking my posts. See what he does then.

[itsdinaah]

I should probably should've mentioned that he has never had a girlfriend and just gained confidence to talk to girls. I think he doesn't want anything though because if someone is truly interested even in just friendship they make more effort.

[d0nnivain]

I should probably should've mentioned that he has never had a girlfriend and just gained confidence to talk to girls. I think he doesn't want anything though because if someone is truly interested even in just friendship they make more effort.

 

 

Your logic is flawed. If he's never had a GF he doesn't know how to make the effort. Given his lack of prior experience if you like him you have to help him, not stand there all aloof being annoyed because he's not suave like a player.

[itsdinaah]

So his shyness plays a role into it? Why would he disappear for so long though?

[d0nnivain]

Maybe it took him 3 weeks to find you on social media.

[Michelle ma Belle]

No. I don't think this plays a part at all.

 

He was "in" with you. You knew each other. You hung out and talked and by all accounts it seemed promising in terms of a friendship...then he bails without warning.

 

That isn't the MO of a person who is shy.

 

I think it's more probable that he's just not that interested in anything more with you. I also think you hit the nail on the head that people who are interested will always make time for them.

[itsdinaah]

We were friends on Facebook before we hung out.

 

When people add you on social media but don't contact you any other way does that means they don't really want to know you personally?

 

He just doesn't seem interested so I'll just let it go and move along.

[craw]

There wasn't any chemistry or sparks but it seemed like the beginning of a good friendship.

 

 

I'm sorry, but I am really confused by this.

 

So why do you care?

[itsdinaah]

I guess a part of me was hoping we could at least just be friends. Some things aren't meant to be.