I cant stop thinking about my ex boyfriend

[Everlastinglite]

My ex and i kept breaking up and getting back together so many times in the short time frame we were together. He was my first everything n i lost my virginity to him...i just cant stop thinking about him everday:(

He was the one who initiated the first breakup n i was soo so hurt by it, but he quickly realized his mistake n got back together by the end of the night. The second time we broke up, it was kind of complicated bc it rolled out over the course of a few weeks. He suddenly became distant n cold towards me n i didnt know why so i was calling n texting him more than usual...he never got back to me until i sent a text saying its over. We got into a fight n threw words at each other n all i wanted to do was talk through it, but he decided it was better off we not be together. The next month after that was the apsolute worst for me...it was soooooo hard.

Then he called me out of nowhere at midnight n texted all these nice things to me after one full month of not contacting each other at all.

It took me awhile but we eventually got back together again.

The third time we broke up, i was the one to initiate it bc he never texted or called me in two weeks of reconciling...it felt like he was back being cold n distant again n didnt consider my feelings when i said how hurt i was when he did that the first time. I didnt really want to break up...but i didnt want to be with someone who took me for granted even more so i ended it. A week later he started to beg me to explain himself...i said i cant do that n as of now its been about 15 days since hearing from each other.

 

But i still think about him every single day. I want to be with him, but want to move on at the same time. I just cant get him off my mind .....

Edited April 8, 2015 by Everlastinglite

[badpenny]

Three points:

 

First of all, (Oooh, this bugs me!) you didn't 'lose' your virginity. You gave it up, willingly (I trust) and the choice to do so, was hopefully, yours.

So who you gave it to, is actually immaterial.

Not being a virgin any more isn't about your partner, it's about you. It's not a loss, it's a gift. To whom you give it, should be a primary consideration. Like knocking a second tooth out, it never comes back.

 

Secondly, you seriously need to investigate the solid, tried-and-tested concept of total No Contact.

The link takes you to the guide. Read, mark, inwardly digest and follow, 100% to the letter.

 

It's plain as the nose on your face that the two of you are young, therefore immature (and I mean that in an age-related sense) and not good for one another.

Back to point one: Simply because you chose to no longer be a virgin with him, doesn't make him any more special.

You guys do not communicate effectively, and to be honest, there's little respect in either direction.

Simply put: You don't work. It's broken, and can't be fixed.

 

Thirdly: There's no such word as 'n'.

The word is 'and'.

Please don't use text-speak: It's a forum, where the writing medium is used as the best and most effective means of communication.

You don't need to text us, it's honestly better if you write 'properly'. You will achieve a better response number then.... Thanks.

[d0nnivain]

Because he was your 1st this won't be easy. However, your relationship was dysfunctional & is not worth trying to save. The break up make up cycle is unhealthy. His behavior in not giving you the attention you deserve & want tells me your relationship is far too one sided to survive. You are more invested then he is.

 

 

Keep yourself busy. Surround yourself with supportive friends. Box up & put away all moments from him. Move all OL photos to a file where you don't see them. Rearrange your living space. In time the intense emotions will fade.

 

 

Hang in there.

[Ruby65]

Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com

 

Keep posting! You're going to be okay.

[coryreply]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how painful breakups can be. Hang in there. Things will be better soon!

[Everlastinglite]

Because he was your 1st this won't be easy. However, your relationship was dysfunctional & is not worth trying to save. The break up make up cycle is unhealthy. His behavior in not giving you the attention you deserve & want tells me your relationship is far too one sided to survive. You are more invested then he is.

 

 

Keep yourself busy. Surround yourself with supportive friends. Box up & put away all moments from him. Move all OL photos to a file where you don't see them. Rearrange your living space. In time the intense emotions will fade.

 

 

Hang in there.

 

Yea your right lol. Everyone is right who responded but i like this advice the best i know time will be the healer n i should surround myself with other things...its just so hard to ya know?

[d0nnivain]

We know it's hard. We have all been there.

 

 

You too will survive.

[polynomial]

Honestly this sounds a lot like my first relationship. I have to say, even after 1.5 years of the very final break up (we were on and off as well), I still think about him every.single.day. It's really hard.

[Everlastinglite]

Honestly this sounds a lot like my first relationship. I have to say, even after 1.5 years of the very final break up (we were on and off as well), I still think about him every.single.day. It's really hard.

 

It is hard. Its the most hardest thing ive ever had to deal with to be honest. I truly believed that he was going to be the one for me. And i know that sounds so naive bc he was my first and all..but i did think that and it just broke me down when my realities came at me unexpectedly ... it was like i never really knew him at all.