drifter777 Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 Ugh. Not my most shining moments. Well, I don't regret burning the offensive couch. Just should have stopped short of tossing the wife out the front door. It wasn't particularly violent (not intended that way at all, in fact, but she fell and scraped her hand) but was completely outside of my character and left me with a very uncomfortable night and afternoon in jail. As well, it took about six months to clear up and is something I still had to uncomfortably explain to my most recent employer. Fortunately, they chose to hire me anyway. Worse yet, my 12-yo son recently found my mugshot online. It's certainly the most gawd-awful photo ever taken of me and it's the one that's permanently affixed to the top of the results page if you google my name. I don't recommend it as an experience. Yeah, I remember that post and the ones over the next few days. You were finally done with her. I don't remember if you left right away but I knew that you had faced the ugly truth and were ready to move on. 1
BetrayedH Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Yeah, I remember that post and the ones over the next few days. You were finally done with her. I don't remember if you left right away but I knew that you had faced the ugly truth and were ready to move on. Yeah, that was a defining incident. Reading that freakin' blog was just too much after already being pushed too far. Something in my mind just snapped like a damn twig. And then I was the one that couldn't have contact with her. In the days that followed, a friend sat me down and asked what possible reason I could have for wanting to be with her. Up until then, my answers had always had something to do with love for my wife. But this time, any desire I had to reconcile had nothing to do with my wife, just a desire to keep my kids' nuclear family together. And I KNEW that wouldn't be enough. It was like a light switch had been flipped. I was done. And I was nearly giddy with relief. No matter what happened, all of this trying to reconcile with her was OVER. My wife had single handedly hammered in the last nail. 2
Lion Heart Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Ok relating about my previous WH experience - how fffffffun. 1. I was angry for a bit but put most of my energy into moving a whole house asap. I spent times being sad about my DD being in a SP family but I was more relieved than anything to be off the mouse wheel. 2. He knew EXACTLY how I felt. We were similar in personality - well me minus the cheating a$$ hole aspect. He asked and I told him. He nearly killed a guy for."taking an interest" in me at a night club once, so he had far more emotion about the whole thing. 3. ExWH Phoned and visited me (uninvited so he stood on the door step) SO many times after our D. Even after we'd both remarried and we'd both had children to our present spouses. I never phoned him. He regrets his 2 x ONS but I'm ecstatic that I got out as soon as I did. For me I'd feel so degraded if I was married to a man who pined for his exW. Even she's been crying in my kitchen over him! My only advice was to do what I did. Leave. He's no good. Lion Heart.
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