Author amazingdrummer Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 So I came back from my trip, met my bf late Sunday (right after I left the airport) and asked what he did in the weekend, and learned that he had a busy weekend. He went out for shopping with guy friend and dinner with friends on Saturday. He went out to see a movie with his language-exchange partner (a single mom) and her kid and lunch with them on Sunday. I'm quite pissed off, we haven't seen a movie for ages. When I told him that he put me at the bottom of his list. He blamed me for being ungrateful and jealous and for ruining his Sunday night. I feel like I just wasted my two beautiful years of my life.
SunnySide0418 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 No offense but your boyfriend sounds like a huge *******. I think you know you need to move on to someone who will treat you right. I'm sorry you're going through this. 1
Diezel Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 You mean your ex-boyfriend, right? He IS your ex now, right?
elaine567 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 He went out to see a movie with his language-exchange partner (a single mom) and her kid and lunch with them on Sunday.[/QUOTE] ^^^this^^^ May be your problem right there in back and white.
KatZee Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 He went out to see a movie with his language-exchange partner (a single mom) and her kid and lunch with them on Sunday. When I told him that he put me at the bottom of his list. He blamed me for being ungrateful and jealous and for ruining his Sunday night. I feel like I just wasted my two beautiful years of my life. I have to second this. Pay attention. I would not be shocked if he was having an affair behind your back. Your relationship sounds very similar to my last one. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together, he had time for me. At the end of our relationship, he would always say he was too tired to do anything. He'd bail out on my family events because he was "working" or "too tired." He would see his friends without even telling me. When I brought up how I felt like he never made time for me, he actually said: "I don't have time for you." And when I said I would be happy with one date night a week, he said: "I don't have time for that." This is just the sign of a guy who is completely checked out of the relationship, completely uninterested that you're unhappy, and personally, I think it's a waste of time for you to spend any more breath telling this guy how upset you are and how you want to fix it. This guy is gone, and he sees your talking as an inconvenience and an annoyance. Also, he's completely blame shifting, doesn't see that he's doing anything wrong, and he's trying to make YOU out to be in the wrong. (You're not) In my case, my boyfriend at the time had met a new girl and he was seeing her behind my back. By the time he actually got around to breaking up with me, it was only because him and this girl started to officially date. He was a jumper. Can never be single, always needs a new prospect to move on to before ending the prior relationship. Your bf went to a movie and dinner with a woman and her kid? That was a date. Don't think it was anything less than that. He's taking other women and their kid out to eat, and to see a movie, and what does he do with you? Nothing. A 5 minute phone call just to get you off his back. In the words of Dr. Phil: "Do you know what's worse than wasting two years with someone? Two years and one day." You know what you need to do. This guy isn't for you.
kendahke Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 So I came back from my trip, met my bf late Sunday (right after I left the airport) and asked what he did in the weekend, and learned that he had a busy weekend. He went out for shopping with guy friend and dinner with friends on Saturday. He went out to see a movie with his language-exchange partner (a single mom) and her kid and lunch with them on Sunday. I'm quite pissed off, we haven't seen a movie for ages. When I told him that he put me at the bottom of his list. He blamed me for being ungrateful and jealous and for ruining his Sunday night. I feel like I just wasted my two beautiful years of my life. You are not a priority. That's why he has time to go shopping, to see movies with friends because they are a priority when it comes to his time. You, on the other hand, are an option. An option that does way too much for such little return on investment. Turning into wifey isn't going to make him sit up and say to himself "wow, she's filling my fridge with beers, she's getting me water when I say I'm thirsty, she's rubbing my feet! What a keeper! I need to show her how much she means to me!!" He's got to want to put you in the priority column, first, then to follow through and treat you like a priority. He's not doing that and from what he said when he pushed back on you pointing out the truth of his actions, you're not going to be a priority. So, the question comes to you: how much more of your youth are you going to waste behind someone who doesn't want what you offer? Time is the one commodity you do not get back. 1
Els Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 So I came back from my trip, met my bf late Sunday (right after I left the airport) and asked what he did in the weekend, and learned that he had a busy weekend. He went out for shopping with guy friend and dinner with friends on Saturday. He went out to see a movie with his language-exchange partner (a single mom) and her kid and lunch with them on Sunday. I'm quite pissed off, we haven't seen a movie for ages. When I told him that he put me at the bottom of his list. He blamed me for being ungrateful and jealous and for ruining his Sunday night. I feel like I just wasted my two beautiful years of my life. This is completely ridiculous behaviour on his behalf. It does not sound like a good or healthy relationship for you in any way - sure it's good for him, but that's just because he's having his cake and eating it too. Don't prioritize someone who isn't prioritizing you. I truly hope you gave him what he deserved and dumped him.
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