Jabs06 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Hi everyone...I posted before xmas when my partner broke up with me, I did no contact and he came back and all has been pretty ok apart from he doesn't mention me to his parents, they never ask about me and he's supposedly moving in with me but I read an email between him & his mom and 2 things unnerved me 1. He said he was at a poker night Saturday but he was away for the weekend with me and 2. There was talk about him arranging to have a new kitchen, this has never been mentioned to me as he's supposed to be selling or putting the house up for rent??? I just don't get it....he says all the right things, tbh the actions don't always match but then I think if he didn't want to be with me would he travel as far as he does every day and would he put up withy children, one being a difficult teenager right now. It's eating my head up to why I feel like he pretends to his parents his either not with me or not that serious about me and by the way we're 43 NOT 16!! Thanks in advance for any opinions, I can't talk to friends as I feel embarrassed
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 You need to talk to him. Being his dirty little secret is a problem. The kitchen thing is no big deal. It may need an upgrade to fetch a higher price or rental. Also is whatever broke you apart resolved? If it wasn't you had no business getting back together.
Throldur Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Sounds to me like he may have said some things to his parents (or they had things to say about you) when you broke up. He might dread the awkward conversation. I know if NC works with my ex.. that the conversations between her and my family will be... awkward. But, I've already explained to all of them.. if it happens, just trust me and that I made the decision out of logic and not emotion.
SciFiWriter Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I've tended to find that when they won't acknowledge you etc or the relationship then you're most likely being strung along.
Author Jabs06 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I do think things were said when we broke up but I have confronted him & all he says is "of course they know about you" but he never calls them from my house and I know I shouldn't but when ive nosed at his messages he never says his with me or even mentions me or my kids and nor do they plus ive not seen them. I went to his house today & he'd conveniently got rid of them before I got there!!!! Hope your NC works if you want it to. Mine took 6 days but he got in touch. I also blocked his number from my phone to stop me keep looking at it...he emailed eventually lol
ZiggyZoo Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) I've personally learned this the hard way, and have seen it plenty on here...actions speak louder than words. People can SAY whatever they know you need to hear, but they'll usually DO only what they want. I would suggest 'fessing up and telling him what you found out. Edited April 8, 2015 by ZiggyZoo 1
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