Lolita_Sky Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. The last thing he told me was to not ever contact him again. That he could care less if he ever heard from me again. That (and I stress with great disdain what he said) he'd walk straight past me if he saw me in public. I broke up with him and requested that we not contact each other for a while. That I needed to focus on more important things in my life. The relationship was causing nothing but added stress on top of overwhelming stress I had from other aspects in my life. Well he got angry insulted my character said I was selfish...that I was projecting my own faults on him. All these crazy things. He stopped calling and texting me I got the impression he no longer wanted to be with me. The more I reached out to him the more he withdrew. I got fed up and ended it. The last thing I told him was: "if this is goodbye for you then farewell." Well two weeks later on my birthday he texts me "happy birthday." I thought about whether or not I should reply. I did though. I dwelled on it for a whole day before I did though. I said "Thanks" with a smiley face. He texted me 30min later saying "No data can't read." So I texted him the next day "Thanks for the b-day wish. Was good hearing from you". That was yesterday. He hasn't replied. I feel as if he's trying to play games. He behaved so rudely to me them texts me out of the blue like nothing he said was wrong. Did I handle this well though? I like to imagine despite what happened I responded in a good way that doesn't look bad or desperate on my part?
hamster-girl Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I like to imagine despite what happened I responded in a good way that doesn't look bad or desperate on my part? I think the best thing to have done was ignore him completely. You can do much better than him, Lolita. Don't waste your time thinking about him or his daft games. 1
jen1447 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 You took the high road - always the smart play IMO. 2
Author Lolita_Sky Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 The best response would have been no response. I'm confident in my decision with breaking up with him. I'm not going to take him back. Me responding is to express that I'm over it. Him doing things like this confirms it.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 You took the high road - always the smart play IMO. Thanks. I feel that since he wished me a happy birthday I'll simply respond expressing my appreciation. Nothing else. I'm not hoping to get back with him. I have feelings for him I know from a logical stand point it'd do no good getting back with him. Besides I'm not in a place to be with anyone right now. I'm just focusing on myself and going back to school. 1
AlwaysAKL Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 My ex just did the same thing yours did. He turned his back on me and would communicate with me at all. We dated over a year....this morning about 3 am (he works 3rd shift) He text me happy birthday and said he was just a scared and confused person. I text back thank you and nothing else. I feel I took the high road by being cordial.... 1
jen1447 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I think you did too. It shows you can leave it all behind, more for yourself than anyone else, so well done. And happy birthday.
Karin2rinkashi Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 My ex just did the same thing yours did. He turned his back on me and would communicate with me at all. We dated over a year....this morning about 3 am (he works 3rd shift) He text me happy birthday and said he was just a scared and confused person. I text back thank you and nothing else. I feel I took the high road by being cordial.... High road is overrated.... Next time you get a chance, put him/her in their place.
Cantsum Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. The last thing he told me was to not ever contact him again. That he could care less if he ever heard from me again. That (and I stress with great disdain what he said) he'd walk straight past me if he saw me in public. I broke up with him and requested that we not contact each other for a while. That I needed to focus on more important things in my life. The relationship was causing nothing but added stress on top of overwhelming stress I had from other aspects in my life. Well he got angry insulted my character said I was selfish...that I was projecting my own faults on him. All these crazy things. He stopped calling and texting me I got the impression he no longer wanted to be with me. The more I reached out to him the more he withdrew. I got fed up and ended it. The last thing I told him was: "if this is goodbye for you then farewell." Well two weeks later on my birthday he texts me "happy birthday." I thought about whether or not I should reply. I did though. I dwelled on it for a whole day before I did though. I said "Thanks" with a smiley face. He texted me 30min later saying "No data can't read." So I texted him the next day "Thanks for the b-day wish. Was good hearing from you". That was yesterday. He hasn't replied. I feel as if he's trying to play games. He behaved so rudely to me them texts me out of the blue like nothing he said was wrong. Did I handle this well though? I like to imagine despite what happened I responded in a good way that doesn't look bad or desperate on my part? Wait ... I'm not really getting the point of this question?? Your ex reacted like an absolute knob head to you breaking up with him and then went AWOL ... I'm going through the troubles of a similar break up: my ex told me she couldn't handle the relationship because of the stress from her work/studies and she thought she wasn't good enough for me. The difference between me and your douche of an ex is that I accepted it and wasn't an absolute prick. Did you want to get back with him after the stress had blown over, or was it over for good the moment you ended it?
Redhead14 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. The last thing he told me was to not ever contact him again. That he could care less if he ever heard from me again. That (and I stress with great disdain what he said) he'd walk straight past me if he saw me in public. I broke up with him and requested that we not contact each other for a while. That I needed to focus on more important things in my life. The relationship was causing nothing but added stress on top of overwhelming stress I had from other aspects in my life. Well he got angry insulted my character said I was selfish...that I was projecting my own faults on him. All these crazy things. He stopped calling and texting me I got the impression he no longer wanted to be with me. The more I reached out to him the more he withdrew. I got fed up and ended it. The last thing I told him was: "if this is goodbye for you then farewell." Well two weeks later on my birthday he texts me "happy birthday." I thought about whether or not I should reply. I did though. I dwelled on it for a whole day before I did though. I said "Thanks" with a smiley face. He texted me 30min later saying "No data can't read." So I texted him the next day "Thanks for the b-day wish. Was good hearing from you". That was yesterday. He hasn't replied. I feel as if he's trying to play games. He behaved so rudely to me them texts me out of the blue like nothing he said was wrong. Did I handle this well though? I like to imagine despite what happened I responded in a good way that doesn't look bad or desperate on my part? Do you want to get back together with him? If not, it doesn't matter what he's doing. Go no contact. Don't send any messages to him and don't reply to any of his. You broke up with him. Make it a clean break. It's wishy-washy to say let's not contact each other FOR AWHILE unless you told him you just wanted a "break" until you got focused again. But, that gets messy. Either you're broken up or you aren't. I broke up with him He stopped calling and texting me I got the impression he no longer wanted to be with me. These two statements are -- I don't know what they are really? They just don't go together You broke up with him and you got the impression he no longer wanted to be with you?
Karin2rinkashi Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Do you want to get back together with him? If not, it doesn't matter what he's doing. Go no contact. Don't send any messages to him and don't reply to any of his. You broke up with him. Make it a clean break. It's wishy-washy to say let's not contact each other FOR AWHILE unless you told him you just wanted a "break" until you got focused again. But, that gets messy. Either you're broken up or you aren't. I broke up with him He stopped calling and texting me I got the impression he no longer wanted to be with me. These two statements are -- I don't know what they are really? They just don't go together You broke up with him and you got the impression he no longer wanted to be with you? Sometimes you break up because the other person pushed you to your limits with their confusing signals. When you were fine with the relationship and they all of a sudden start acting weird or out of control, but do not have the guts to end. They eventually push you to that point. Yes, you break up, but was it something that you really wanted? That is what happened to me to... So maybe, that is the situation in this scenario. Some people just want you to pull the trigger... 1
fireflywy Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Sometimes you break up because the other person pushed you to your limits with their confusing signals. When you were fine with the relationship and they all of a sudden start acting weird or out of control, but do not have the guts to end. They eventually push you to that point. Yes, you break up, but was it something that you really wanted? That is what happened to me to... So maybe, that is the situation in this scenario. Some people just want you to pull the trigger... I know you weren't replying to me, but thank you for this. I need to keep reminding myself of this.
Karin2rinkashi Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I know you weren't replying to me, but thank you for this. I need to keep reminding myself of this. Don't be bothered about it. Even if you were forced to do it, it is not your flaw, it is theirs. Not only are they confused about what they want, they aren't developed enough to make take bold decisions. Way behind the curve, these kind of people are... Good thing they left... without a trace, hopefully!
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