MustardAndJelly Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Hello, I recently had a bad expirience with a girl I like since I was in highschool which was 12-13 years ago. After Highschool we haven't seen each other since some months ago when we bumpled into each other and I started thinking of her again. I had a long relationship during that time but we had many problems and we were close to brake up. And that's what happened. After we split with my girlfriend we bumped into each other 2-3 times with that girl and every time we talked on the street for at least 20-30 minutes everytime. The last time I asked her out and she said that I should call her. So I didn't have her number and I realized that later but I started texting her on facebook. But she was so busy with her work so she was replying after 1 day and her responces didn't give me anything- short and to the point.So I wrote her politely that I maybe bother her and she has many things on her shoulders so I will stop writing her. This was something I did so I can see if she really cares. she wrote minutes after my message she sent several mesages explaining that she is really busy and even doesn't sleep and stuff and saing about some other things like what she's doing and working on. Really felt an ice breaking in that message. Anyway, I took her out and it was good (I think) she was giving me mixed signals and it was really confusing. I think she didn't think of it as a date but anyway I wanted to get out of this stupid chat and start seeng and talking face to face. At the end of the date she started complimenting me about who I've become and stuff and when we were close to the door she became mute and maybe uncofortable. ''maybe'' because I'm not sure. I didn't kiss her because I didn't feel it. I wanted but I felt it's not the right moment for her. Two days later she said that she's going to a party on whitch I wanted to go too but I had to go to another party that I didn't want but I had to so I told her that maybe will catch her later on the first party. Anyway the boring party was not that boring because there was a really beatiful girl that didn't stop staring at me but I had the other girl in my head so I messaged her and she said that she's maybe leaving the party but she's still there. So I grabed a taxy and went to the party. During the party she didn't stop talking to me all the time and she was allways around me and she started making some more clear signals like touching, the eye contact was different and she was constantly around me and her friends were allways somewhere else and sudenly they left. She even smoked one of my cigarettes even that she doesn't smoke. We stood on that party for hours and remeber that she wanted to leave before that? I walked her home, it was cold but we didn't take a taxi and we walked like for 30- 45 min,to her place and talked and having fun. at the end I wanted to know for sure so I tried to kiss her and she rejected me saing she has a boyfriend wich was- WOW. she never said anything about a boyfriend, never, no pictures, no statuses on FB, no nothing. I was mad. really mad. but because I'm allways the good guy on first dates and I hate myself for that I told her my feelings and she said that she's sorry she has a boyfriend. On the next day I texted her that I have a great time with her and I don't want to stop seeng her but maybe it will be really uncomfortable for me. she texted me back with that stupid ''oh poor thing'' (c'mon I'm not a puppy) and other stuff she said that poeple are passing around each other and it happens all the time, she said that she is really disapointed with men lately and I'm really ''good guy'' and she values that so she doesn't want to stop seeing me. I really hate that. I'm going to a tour with my band so she said after I come back that maybe we can hang out. but I can't stop thinking of her and that she's maybe just playing with me. Sorry for the long post but I'm really confused and can't stop thinking about what happened and don't really know what to do.
smackie9 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 When you hear "I'm really busy" or "I have a BF (she doesn't have one come on), or you get "mixed signals, she isn't into you, was only looking for attention and is blowing you off with vague excuses. You know she isn't, it's pretty obvious, so why are you in such denial?
Author MustardAndJelly Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 well because on the party and during the whole night she was with absolutely different behavior and the signals were not mixed anymore. I was the center of her attention and if I didn't make a move I'm pretty sure that we could have continued the night. Was actually 6 on the morning already.
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