benjamin9669 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) What does it mean when an ex says shes starting over? for context: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/523189-super-ex-gf-any Edited April 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Smokeshow Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 In what context was she referring to starting over?
Author benjamin9669 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Well we were talking and I asked her why she's being so nice to me for? She's like I'm "starting over" and then I was like tbh there's no starting over its just changing. 1
Chi townD Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I agree, what context. Because if it's in the way that I think it's in, then that's pretty frickin rude. 1
Author benjamin9669 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Posted April 9, 2015 Ex says shes starting over. And I said you can't really start over tbh. she messaged back saying it's the matter of wanting to start over. Then I asked if 2 people can truly start over and she said yea. What does she mean? She also used quoration marks on the starting over part 1
Ruby65 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Need to clarify: Have you broken up, she's contacted you to reconcile, and so now she wants you two to "start over" your relationship, wipe the slate clean and form a new relationship? OR Have you broken up, she's moving on, wants to "start over" and date other guys? OR Have you broken up, she's moving on, but wants to keep you around as a Plan B so she's going to "start over" from the very first stages of flirting and dating you without making a firm commitment to reconcile? 1
Ruby65 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Oh -- I just read your older posts, now I get it! It hasnt' worked out with the guy she cheated on you with back in December, so she'd like a chance to "start over" with you -- meaning, wipe the slate clean before her cheating -- and keep you as a backup until something "better" comes along. No go. I don't get why you haven't blocked her everywhere -- she CHEATED on you!! 5
Chi townD Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Thanks for the context Ruby! Yeah, I agree with ruby. She wants to "start over". That' sounds like she wants you to erase what happened and rug sweep the entire situation. You can't "start over" as if nothing never happened. She cheated on you and left you for this other dude. She put more value on this guy than you. You are not 2nd prize. You are not a consolation prize and going back to her, that is exactly what you will be. She made a choice to cheat on you. She made the choice to leave you and go running into someone else's bed. There has to be consequences to her actions. 2
NopeNah Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Thanks for the context Ruby! Yeah, I agree with ruby. She wants to "start over". That' sounds like she wants you to erase what happened and rug sweep the entire situation. You can't "start over" as if nothing never happened. She cheated on you and left you for this other dude. She put more value on this guy than you. You are not 2nd prize. You are not a consolation prize and going back to her, that is exactly what you will be. She made a choice to cheat on you. She made the choice to leave you and go running into someone else's bed. There has to be consequences to her actions. Boom! Spot on,here. There's no "starting over" and trust me(look at my history here), there's no going back from cheating. It's ALWAYS in the back of your mind..the whole "I can forgive,but not forget" thing..
ZiggyZoo Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Stop talking to her. "Start over" yourself in a life that doesn't include cheating exs.
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