jorberg24 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I'll make this story short. I am coming out of a divorce that is almost final and me and my ex-wife have decided to move on. So me and a girl were really good friends while I dated her friend. Me and the friend didn't work out so me and her started dating. Things got a little to serious too fast I think given the situation. Her ex was still a part of the picture although she said she was over him he continued to blow her phone up and text her to try and get her back. They also have a baby together and he is abusive to her. He yells at her and puts his hands on her. The day he found out we were together was the day she told me it was probably best if we didn't do this anymore. So we split that day. Of course we tried to remain friends and that was fine for a while even though the feelings were still there. But now, despite what she says, it seems like her and her ex are always together now. He stays at her house. She plays it to me like she cant get rid of him but I feel like she really wants him there. Last night I went to drop some stuff off at her house, although she kept trying to meet me because she didn't want me to come by. I randomly showed up and when she let me in it was her and her friend and two other guys. So it was obvious something was going on. Although again she played it off like it was nothing and I was over reacting. So I guess my question is I am getting tired of getting hurt by this girl. Whether she is using me or keeping me on the back burner for a later time or whatever her reasoning is I'm just getting sick of being hurt. Yet at the same time I find myself waiting on her to text me. Even today I keep looking at my phone waiting. How do I move on?? I feel like moving on from this relationship is harder than moving on from my marriage I just got out of? I want to do NC but that is harder than I thought. Any suggestions or insight would be great.
PegNosePete Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Simples. You move on by not contacting her ever again. The more you pick at the scab the more painful it will be. It will never heal.
Author jorberg24 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I totally get that and you would think after coming out of a marriage that I would be good at this but it seems so much harder this time. Its almost like I took a lot of the rejection I had from the marriage and applied it to this relationship too. I only say that because I have never had such a hard time getting over someone. This is all new to me. I keep thinking in my head I wonder what she is doing right now and why she hasn't texted me yet? Is that normal?
seminoles84 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Its almost like I took a lot of the rejection I had from the marriage and applied it to this relationship too. I think this is exactly what is going on here. It's good that you sort of recognize this. If I were you, I'd consider therapy or consider taking a break from all serious relationships to make sure you are in the right frame of mind. It will take time but you should get used to being okay with being alone and being happy without a significant other.
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