Vivid sex dreams about ex... !

[Km127]

I cant stop having vivid nightmares about my ex. Sometimes I dream that we never broke up and when I wake up I'm sweating and my heart is racing. Last night was the worst one yet. I dreamed I went to his house (he lives with his dad) and saw his whole family. Then we went to his room and slept together. But as soon as we did, he showed me all the girls he was talking to on tinder and told me about all the girls that like him. I woke up just after he told me he was moving in with a new girl. A lot of these dreams involve sex. I'm 22 and he's the second person I've been with and I think im like the ninth person he's been with. It's really hard to see myself having sex with someone else.

 

He really did treat me awfully. He accused me of cheating like every weekend. He couldn't handle me talking to any boys and even if he saw me talking to a boy, he would flip out. He talked to his girl coworkers, his ex gfs, and random girls all the time too. I know deserve so much better.

 

I don't understand why I'm having these dreams... I do miss him, but I really don't want to get back together. I wake up every day shaken because I'm so disturbed with my dreams. Sleep should be something I look forward to, but I seriously hate going to sleep because I hate dreaming.

 

This may sound silly, but is there a way to turn off your dreams?

 

These dreams are really killing me because I'm having issues seeing him with someone else. I know I should be focusing on the idea of myself meeting someone new, having sex with someone new, and dating someone new but all I can focus on is him doing those things. It's killing me how he is so fine with this breakup and I'm hurting so much. I feel that during the day I'm able to cope with this so much better, but as soon as I go to bed I'm reminded of him.

[Jonp219]

How long has it been since your break-up? If it's only been a few weeks then this is normal. From time to time I still have vivid dreams of my ex and i'm 2 months removed from my previous relationship. I almost never have sex dreams about her, which is weird because our sex was one of the best parts of our relationship, we were so compatible in that aspect. However, don't worry too much about it, your mind is going to make you feel like this for a while. Just try to release that hurt in healthy ways like crying or exercising. I know where you're coming from, but it does better if you want it to get better.

[Km127]

It's been about 2 and 1/2 weeks. That's another thing about it. We really weren't compatible in that aspect of our relationship. We actually got in a huge fight on Valentines week because I went to see 50 shades of grey and he said he thought that was not ok to be watching...

[Smokeshow]

It sounds as though you might be better of without him. I would actually encourage my girlfriend to see a movie like that so that she gets ideas in her mind

[Riptide91]

Km, 2 and 1/2 weeks is not a very long time to get over a breakup especially if you two we're together for a good amount of time. I'm your age and I still have occasional dreams about my ex gf and I'm 5 months past breakup and 3 weeks full NC. My dreams aren't super often but they do happen, I actually had one last night about her but it was more along the lines of I was with someone new and saw her out. I have read from threads on here that dreaming about something like your ex and the breakup is part of the process of your brain working through this trauma, because that's what it is most times, emotional trauma.

 

I will tell you that you being able to say or think you don't really want him back at 2 1/2 weeks you are technically leaps ahead of most, for example at 2 1/2 weeks I was probably making an idiot of myself begging her to come back.

 

Just like everything else, give it time, the dreams will be less and less, you will hurt less and less, and eventually you'll find a guy who deserves the catch that you are. One day at a time!