Darth_Matt Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Hi everyone, I haven't been LS in a while. First time this year. I've been feeling great for the most part.....until today. I got matched to my ex on E-Harmony. I thought of shooting her an email request. Just to say hi, funny to see you on here. I quickly shot that idea down. Part of me thinks it would be fun to catch up and part of me thinks - don't do it! Its like a drug...It feels good for a few minutes but you know its going to get you hurt. Has anyone else had experience like this? Where you feel like you're over it and feeling good. You don't think of her as much, then smack! It hits you in the face and you realize you still have feelings. Or maybe its just nerves because you weren't expecting to see them. I just want to be over this. I want to be able to look at her photo and feel NOTHING! We broke up almost 2 years ago. Enough already! Is there something wrong with me? We only dated for 6 months. And its been almost 2 years from our breakup. I've never stalked her or contacted her. Or even FB stalked her (A few times maybe). I took my NC seriously. But there is something about this girl that drives me crazy and drives me like no other, when I see her..Again,has anyone else had issues like this. What did you do to get over it? Thanks for taking the time to read my vent!
ZiggyZoo Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I had an occasion a month or so ago where a friend of mine was at a concert that my ex was also at, and she posted some pictures with him in them. Same thing, the zap and the feelings come pouring in. Uuugh.....for us it'd only been three months post-breakup, and I had just started to accept that our relationship was over. The good news is, while I cried that day, I was back to where I had been maybe two days later. It didn't really set me back a whole lot at all. With your situation though, you not only get the unexpected picture, but someone (or some algorithm) telling you that you two totally should date, you're a good match. That's gotta sting, especially if she was the one ending it. I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all, emotions and feelings are funny things, you never know what they're going to do. 1
bluealone Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Hey Ziggy, Don't email her. It will totally be like drug. It will eat you up again.
crazybestie101 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Hi everyone, I haven't been LS in a while. First time this year. I've been feeling great for the most part.....until today. I got matched to my ex on E-Harmony. I thought of shooting her an email request. Just to say hi, funny to see you on here. I quickly shot that idea down. Part of me thinks it would be fun to catch up and part of me thinks - don't do it! Its like a drug...It feels good for a few minutes but you know its going to get you hurt. Has anyone else had experience like this? Where you feel like you're over it and feeling good. You don't think of her as much, then smack! It hits you in the face and you realize you still have feelings. Or maybe its just nerves because you weren't expecting to see them. I just want to be over this. I want to be able to look at her photo and feel NOTHING! We broke up almost 2 years ago. Enough already! Is there something wrong with me? We only dated for 6 months. And its been almost 2 years from our breakup. I've never stalked her or contacted her. Or even FB stalked her (A few times maybe). I took my NC seriously. But there is something about this girl that drives me crazy and drives me like no other, when I see her..Again,has anyone else had issues like this. What did you do to get over it? Thanks for taking the time to read my vent! Dude, Who broke up with whom? Has she ever contacted you? I say NO to break NC. My story is very similar to yours been NC for more than year. Recently , i have been waking up in night hurting. So tempted to send email but i know its BAD idea. Sure i have moved on from that time but that man is still so close to my heart. 1
Author Darth_Matt Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) Dude, Who broke up with whom? Has she ever contacted you? I say NO to break NC. My story is very similar to yours been NC for more than year. Recently , i have been waking up in night hurting. So tempted to send email but i know its BAD idea. Sure i have moved on from that time but that man is still so close to my heart. I guess I did. But technically it was her. If that makes any sense. She wanted it to be an open relationship. I didn't. Because the thought of someone else kissing her made me noxious, so I told her this isn't working for me and I regretted that for a very long time. My thought was if she really liked me she would not want to share me with other girls and vice-verse. Call me old-fashion. We kept in touch as friends but it was too hard on me emotionally because I wanted more. So I moved on and went NC and started feeling good until this morning. Writing in this blog has made me feel much better. Its amazing, what getting your feelings into words can do to ones inner health....anyway, I hope I answered your question. And no, I'm not going to write her. The only thing that sucks is she now knows I viewed her profile. But, really who cares! Edited April 7, 2015 by Darth_Matt
crazybestie101 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I guess I did. But technically it was her. If that makes any sense. She wanted it to be an open relationship. I didn't. Because the thought of someone else kissing her made me noxious, so I told her this isn't working for me and I regretted that for a very long time. My thought was if she really liked me she would not want to share me with other girls and vice-verse. Call me old-fashion. We kept in touch as friends but it was too hard on me emotionally because I wanted more. So I moved on and went NC and started feeling good until this morning. Writing in this blog has made me feel much better. Its amazing, what getting your feelings into words can do to ones inner health....anyway, I hope I answered your question. And no, I'm not going to write her. The only thing that sucks is she now knows I viewed her profile. But, really who cares! What!! My ex also wanted to date multiple people at same time and he knew i wouldn't let him do it. Don't feel bad its her loss. Once she is done going around and she will realize what she lost. Friendship is never great idea , i did it too and was miserable. I think like my ex she wants to just fool around, may be she will realize one day when she grow up but dont hope for it because it might never come. Just concentrate on good things in your life, this phase will pass. 1
Author Darth_Matt Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) What!! My ex also wanted to date multiple people at same time and he knew i wouldn't let him do it. Don't feel bad its her loss. Once she is done going around and she will realize what she lost. Friendship is never great idea , i did it too and was miserable. I think like my ex she wants to just fool around, may be she will realize one day when she grow up but dont hope for it because it might never come. Just concentrate on good things in your life, this phase will pass. Thanks! Its funny how you see things different once your feelings start to subside. She was a very needy person in general. She had more the 200 selfies on her phone. And I'm not talking about out with friends or on vacation. No, she would take time at home, then send them to me because she knew I would "melt". Like I did today with her online profile. She really is a very cute girl. That's the one thing I have trouble getting over. Not much her personality. She's so freaking cute and the sex was fun... I just go crazy when I see her face....Not to mention I miss the sex...SHALLOW, I know! It's sad!! That's not love. But I'm being honest with you all. And I'm a grown man. Ughh! When we broke up, like I said we stayed in touch and she still kept sending me selfies. Who does that!?! I would never asked for them! I would delete them right away. I don't think she did that to be hurtful. She didn't understand the affect it had on me. Or maybe she did. Who knows. When I think back at that, It really makes its getting over her more easy. So I try to focus on the negatives. It seems strange but it works for me..lol. I want a mature girl not someone who acts like that. A like to think a girl with class doesn't act like that. Edited April 7, 2015 by Darth_Matt
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