RoseHeart Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 I'm on day 4 NC but I only had the courage to block him today. I just couldn't deal with the idea of looking at my phone and always wondering if he is going to contact me or not. I'm hurting so much. I was doing fine and I actually felt good but now that I have blocked him it feels so final. It feels like I literally just closed the door fully and locked him out. I keep wondering if it's the right thing to do or not but the truth is nothing will change so whether I block him or not it doesn't matter because he doesn't want me or care about me. So I guess there's no loss in blocking him. It's just my way of saying I'm done. I just wish it didn't hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 When you block someone, you are closing the door and it does hurt. You've probably heard this a thousand times already, time has a way of healing the hurt. How much time is a mystery. For some, it may be a few months, for others...a year, etc. If he doesn't want or care about you, then you need to close the door. Focus on yourself, get involved with a hobby, spend time with friends and make new friends. Doing things you enjoy will help time pass and make the hurt more bearable. It will get better. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 It is understandable that you would feel pain from blocking him. It is a final step, as you noted. But don't allow yourself to doubt whether or not it was the right thing to do. Heck, I'd be more concerned if it didn't hurt. You're only human after-all. A time will come when it doesn't hurt anymore. Until then, keep posting. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 When I blocked my ex's number on my cell phone, I had a breakdown. I felt horrible. I felt like my heart was in my stomach. It's getting better already. I stopped automatically checking my phone a few days ago. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 It does hurt, but after the hurt comes healing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 I did the blocking thing too under a bout courage I had one day. I do not regret it. It will stop you from obsessively checking your phone and waiting for something that does not come. It takes a little while to feel better though. Healing comes after the pain and after some time. You will be so relieved that you did not get into contact with him to prolong your heartache. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LYNNLH Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 I'm on day 4 NC but I only had the courage to block him today. I just couldn't deal with the idea of looking at my phone and always wondering if he is going to contact me or not. I'm hurting so much. I was doing fine and I actually felt good but now that I have blocked him it feels so final. It feels like I literally just closed the door fully and locked him out. I keep wondering if it's the right thing to do or not but the truth is nothing will change so whether I block him or not it doesn't matter because he doesn't want me or care about me. So I guess there's no loss in blocking him. It's just my way of saying I'm done. I just wish it didn't hurt. Yes it hurts...yet liberating. I have started to block mutual friends too (his side).when the friends reached out to me (just did another one this morning)..without a word, I just blocked. I know I may be a b!tch for doing so but I no longer care. I have to prioritize myself now, something which I never did in the past because I cared what others think. No longer..my heart is my baby now. I hope you do the same. Think and PRIORITIZE yourself. You are what matters. Not him 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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