BlackbirdSong Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Damn, I would have sold those tickets so fast her head would spin. Then take that money and hit the club and have an amazing time. But that's just me. 2
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Btw Blackbird... I do a mean White Blank Page cover lol 1
Simon Phoenix Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I'm not being unrealistic... the tickets dont mean **** besides to let her know I am not angry. If she doesnt go... they were going to get wasted anyways... none of my friends listen to them... and id rather throw them away then putting the effort in looking for a stranger that wants them. If she has a new guy and goes with him... whatever... **** me, right? Why are you so concerned about whether or not you look like you're angry. You got your heart broken -- of course you are angry! You are way too concerned about how you look to a person who willfully stabbed you in the heart. Be angry.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Damn, I would have sold those tickets so fast her head would spin. Then take that money and hit the club and have an amazing time. But that's just me. Yep, it's called StubHub or Craigslist. They were invented specifically for situations such as this.
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I dont want to be angry... I think I've done my fair share of being angry since the break up... trust me, I am sometimes... its just not an emotion I want to feel anymore
Simon Phoenix Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I dont want to be angry... I think I've done my fair share of being angry since the break up... trust me, I am sometimes... its just not an emotion I want to feel anymore But you are angry, you're in denial. You don't have to be angry around her (or anything around her), but stop trying to project some false front. She understands why you aren't happy -- don't try to act like all is hunky-dory when it's not. 1
Riptide91 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Unfortunately you're suppose to feel bad right now, it's prt of the process. You're probably going to feel worse before it feels better to be brutally honest, but look, we've all done it and so can you! You're 26? Yea, you've got plenty of time to figure everything out and find someone else, we're still so young! I'm 23 and was with my ex for 6 years, I look at it more of a learning experience now. I now know more what I need to do better in relationships and know more of the traits I want in a girlfriend. If my ex ever came back I honestly don't even think Id take her back at this point, which is huge for me. You won't feel that for a while probably but one day you'll wake up and feel indifferent towards her, just like she was a memory but that's all. Between no contact and time heals all, I think those are two things to remind yourself of daily. 1
na49 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 You haven't even been NC for a week. Cut yourself some slack dude! It's okay to feel sad, and it's okay to miss her. The pain is still fresh so it's even okay to feel hopeless right now. At some point you have to dust yourself off though. She might think about you occasionally. Do you really want to hear a "what's up?" from her though? 1
darkbloom Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 You don't have to get mad at the advice you've been given. Most of us on here are just trying to save you from the mistakes we have made. That's what I am here for anyway. If I had known about this website when I first got broken up with, I think things would have turned out differently. Had I known that an entire group of strangers would actually listen to me and give me sound advice based on their experience I would have taken it in a heartbeat. I didn't though. So I made every mistake you could make. I prolonged my heartbreak because I didn't know what to do. This advice from this website saved me from myself. Thank God. But carry on as you wish. People go against the advice they've been given all the time. And they do start threads "so I gave her the concert tickets..." And 99% of the time it ends up bad. Let us know how you feel in a couple of days after the concert. Time will tell. 2
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I've had a 4 year, a 1 year, and this was a year and a half... this one feels the worst. The only girl I told I'd marry and have children with. Me thinking this is it... here I am... this is my life... I want this. Obviously it was eventually ripped out from under me... but thats what make it the hardest. Not to mention the attachment I had with her 4 year old daughter. Like I fell in love with 2 girls.
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I def will let you know how I feel... maybe you guys will be saying "I told you so". As of right now I dont think you will.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I def will let you know how I feel... maybe you guys will be saying "I told you so". As of right now I dont think you will. Sure, you're in a contact high. It's like a drug. Unfortunately with drugs, highs are followed by crashes.
BlackbirdSong Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 J_mysterio is gonna need his flame suit in 3.....2......1..... 1
darkbloom Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Listen, if there was love in the relationship and no major deal breakers like abuse and cheating she might come back. This break up happened for a reason though. Whether she needed to grow or you need to do some growing. It is a gift. Take it as an opportunity to be the best version of yourself. If she comes back around, you do not want to be standing still where she left you. Because guess what? You'll get back together and nothing will have changed. For the best chance at reconciliation there needs to be some sort of change. And you are in control of that. You are going to be okay. And if it's mean to be, it will be.
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Like you said... time will tell. We will see.
darkbloom Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Also op. You are addicted and she is your drug of choice. I look forward to your withdrawal posts.
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 I need one of the sleeping beds from Interstellar 2
darkbloom Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 You're like quick draw McGraw with the replies. 1
Author j_mysterio Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Thanks guys, got my heart ripped out and became a Forum nerd lol
hunk Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 welcome bro. enjoy your stay :lmao::lmao:. Awesome cover btw, keep posting them 1
darkbloom Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Op, In two months you will be posting on this forum giving your sage wisdom to poor misguided souls who clearly enjoy having their hearts ripped out and stomped on by their exes. And you will be screaming in all caps to a younger you "DONT GIVE HER THE TICKETS" and your heart will remain firmly in your chest because you've decided to help yourself. Welcome to loveshack. 4
LYNNLH Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 U r not being the average you are being worse because you know the answer to all the questions you are asking but you also won't take the advise. You are broke up, what do you want to do? Drop them off ...fine then what...she will come out and tell you to leave or that you are not respecting her wishes. You will come off as needy, clingy, pushy and will push her more away. you could also run into seeing her with some friends or family and she might be In a good mood and will throw you off more after seeing her smile. what do you think she is going to say...hey love of my life Thank you let's go get married? You need to man up and stop being like a teenager that just had the first kiss and won't stop letting it go. If you want her back you will need to give her space , you need to dissappear , no text, no happy b day, now my car broke down ...none of that. Whatever the case maybe if you go to drop them off you will feel more like crap. She might now respond and you will be pressing reset and go back to day 1 × ( enter number here ) days of hell. Listen to what people are telling you. They have been there with ex fiances, ex wives and like you ex girlfriends. Write on here if you have to or feel the need to contact her , we will be here but we can't help you without you putting any effort on your end. If it makes you feel any better I was with my ex for 7 yrs and would come on here so much I'd just fall asleep on reading breakup stories. You need to prepare for the worse and brace yourself everytime you have a low. I Go work out hang out with friends, visit a site...anything to keep your mind off her. The sooner you will come to terms with her being gone and you being okay with it...the sooner you will find happiness. She might call or she might now. Whatever you do, do not be the person to contact her or like a pic or send a hi...TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU , IF SHE LOVED YOU SHES IN THE SAME SHOES. Well said, Clover. Well said.. To OP.. Listen to everyone here. Most of us here have been through a similar (if nit exact) experience..Stay NC. I too, after 7 freaking years..was dropped like a sack of hot spuds..over a phone call. Just 'cause?..he moved away to another country, seen what is out there and wants to date around and get the local girls there. ..All the while, I was supportive of him, missing him, taking care of his condo, running errands for him..and he said those dreaded words.."I simply do not love you anymore"..Look..this is not a 20 year old, looking to see what is still out there..this is a freaking 'old' man in his 40's!! Now, I cringe at the thought of him doing this to me!! I didn't have it easier than you..in fact probably worse. I broke NC and regretted it. Restarted it and have not looked back since. If not for LS, I probably would have repeated what I did (by breaking NC) but I took the conscious effort to listen to the advice and support the posters gave me. Trust us. You will not regret in the end by sticking to NC. Like I said before..NC liberated me and I'm sure it will too for you one day.
LYNNLH Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 I've never been part of a forum and this is amazing how people can come together. Total strangers. ..and from all over the world too. You'd never guess where I'm from.. Good luck with healing and may you look back at this thread same time next year and have a chuckle..I hope I'd be doing the same. 1
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