spiderowl Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I thought I'd post here to vent really as I'm pretty shocked at the way a guy behaved on an online dating site. I know being shocked in online dating is nothing new, but I was a bit blindsided by this. I wonder what others think? Talked to the guy and he seemed nice, was only a few miles away, seemed sincere. He wanted to meet soon. I suggested weekday evenings or next weekend but he wanted to meet sooner and couldn't make the next day (which is a hol here for me). He wanted to meet during the day so that we could spend longer together if we got on well. He asked if I could take a day off work to meet him. I said I couldn't (I don't have a lot of leave left and my boss is relying on me to be there this week as others will be on holiday). Also, it didn't seem appropriate for a first date anyway with someone local. Well, when I said I couldn't take a day off, he declared I wasn't interested. He then said 'pity', and before I could respond he'd removed me from his contacts! I know he was being unreasonable and I think a little aggressive there, but any thoughts on this behaviour? I can't see how he's going to find a relationship if he is acting like this. I understand his ex put her career before the marriage so that might be his motivation but really!
Author spiderowl Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Wow...he's crazy. On to the next one! Yep, my feeling exactly. Sums it up nicely!
Pinkdisney Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 That's nuts! Consider that bullet dodged! Way too aggressive and argumentative from the gate is not good. Saturday afternoon dates for a cup of coffee always work best for a first meet. 2
mammasita Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Sounds like the guy I met via OLD that told me I was wasting his time because I wouldn't sleep with him after 2 (3ish dates I think) weeks so he could determine if he wanted to "keep me around" Please..... I wonder if he's still single LMAO 1
GoldieLox Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Sounds like he wanted to see how easily you'd give in to him (i.e. how weak you are). If he could get you to do that, he could get you to do whatever else he wanted. What an asinine request. 1
Bobbi7 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Yup, like others have said, you dodged a bullet. He was way too pushy, controlling, aggressive-always wants things done HIS way. I've encountered a few of these on OLD. C'mon, now that's just ridiculous! Who in their right mind would take a DAY off from work to go out on a first date??? Ugh. I've had guys call me "lame" because I wouldn't give in to them wanting to meet me at my place on the first meeting. This makes me want to punch a hole in the wall!!!! These are the guys that gets on my nerves. He might sound like the types that have had a hard time getting chicks or might not have had much sex for him to have that outburst. I smell BS. This was a dead give-away: Talked to the guy and he seemed nice, was only a few miles away, seemed sincere. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Wow...he's crazy. On to the next one! As a guy, this x10000 1
Author spiderowl Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Yup, like others have said, you dodged a bullet. He was way too pushy, controlling, aggressive-always wants things done HIS way. I've encountered a few of these on OLD. C'mon, now that's just ridiculous! Who in their right mind would take a DAY off from work to go out on a first date??? Ugh. I've had guys call me "lame" because I wouldn't give in to them wanting to meet me at my place on the first meeting. This makes me want to punch a hole in the wall!!!! These are the guys that gets on my nerves. He might sound like the types that have had a hard time getting chicks or might not have had much sex for him to have that outburst. I smell BS. This was a dead give-away: Talked to the guy and he seemed nice, was only a few miles away, seemed sincere. I know exactly what you mean. I think I've had enough of online dating. The guys available and seemingly nice in my age group tend to turn out to be weird pretty quickly. I hope younger people have more luck!
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