I've lost my kids!

[germanshepherd50]

I have lost full custody of my kids because of my work hours. My ex husband is a stay at home dad - -working his biz from home. I work nights. I lost.

 

 

I have been dating a man who lives 2 hours away. He has asked me to marry him and I can have my kids with me....no more work. But, my ex won't allow the move. He says he will fight me tooth and nail.

 

 

My BF wants to get married and he wants me and the kids -- or just me. He says he will support me doing a long distance commute with my kids - if I can't get them right away. I don't have a ton of money to sink in lawyer fees.

 

 

I am torn. Advice?

[Paterlany]

How old are the kids?

[pteromom]

How long have you been divorced?

How long have you been dating this other guy?

How old are the kids?

 

As much as I don't want to see kids away from their mom, the most important thing for them is consistency. Being thrown into a new home with a new "dad" may not be in their best interest.

 

But it depends a lot on the timeline, ages, etc.

[jen1447]

Where do you live?

[salparadise]

When you say you lost full custody... does that mean their father won shared custody, or does he have full custody? How would you have cared for them while working nights?

 

I don't blame your ex for not agreeing to let you move the kids two hours away- particularly not so you can take full custody with another man while he only gets visitation. How would you feel about him doing the same thing to you?

 

Why don't you get daytime work and agree to 50/50 shared custody with your ex husband... and put the kids' interest first. Unless the other parent is deemed unfit, the kids' best interest would be best served by you supporting their relationship with their father and making sure they have plenty of time with him, and to me, every other weekend is not plenty of time.

 

Is there some reason that you feel entitled to squeeze the ex out of the kids' lives? I don't get it.

[germanshepherd50]

I only get every other weekend and a dinner break now and then with them. I work when they are out of school -- so it makes it awful.

 

 

And it's a very good paying job -- that's not easy to replace.

 

 

My kids are 9 and 10.

 

 

When you say you lost full custody... does that mean their father won shared custody, or does he have full custody? How would you have cared for them while working nights?

 

I don't blame your ex for not agreeing to let you move the kids two hours away- particularly not so you can take full custody with another man while he only gets visitation. How would you feel about him doing the same thing to you?

 

Why don't you get daytime work and agree to 50/50 shared custody with your ex husband... and put the kids' interest first. Unless the other parent is deemed unfit, the kids' best interest would be best served by you supporting their relationship with their father and making sure they have plenty of time with him, and to me, every other weekend is not plenty of time.

 

Is there some reason that you feel entitled to squeeze the ex out of the kids' lives? I don't get it.

[Rejected Rosebud]

But don't you have a lot of serious problems with your boyfriend, like he stalks you and is violent and things like that or do I have you confused with somebody else?? If you are that lady of course NOT you should NOT go there !!!