Confusedgirl99 Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Hey guys, could just use some words of encouragement and love lately. Excluding relationships(which isn't great either), been going through some really trying and depressed times. And I don't really have many to talk to about it. Could just use some sincere words of encouragement. Because if I had to be really honest, and forgive me for sounding ungrateful, but I am just so unhappy that I was ever born. The days have just been so heavy. And I can't remember the last time I was happy. It all just feels so heavy and pointless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ASV Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Shall I consider 99 is the year you were born? If so, it's really normal to feel that way. More than you'd expect, in fact. My advice is that you should look for a decent psychologist. But avoid getting into treatments of any kind if you don't really feel them necessary - given that, proceed with caution, but proceed in any case. Here where I live they just prescribe medication for anything to keep you quiet and shut the f*ck up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedgirl99 Posted April 6, 2015 Author Share Posted April 6, 2015 No I just picked a number hah, I'm 31 actually. I work in healthcare so yeah I see what psychs do unfortunately Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 It would help if we knew what kind of encouragement you need, hon. I read about the facetime guy and the other guy from last December. Is this a romantic frustration thing more or less? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedgirl99 Posted April 6, 2015 Author Share Posted April 6, 2015 (edited) Too much on my mind lately I guess Edited April 6, 2015 by Confusedgirl99 Too long Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Sounds like you mainly just need a hug. Link to post Share on other sites
LYNNLH Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Hey guys, could just use some words of encouragement and love lately. Excluding relationships(which isn't great either), been going through some really trying and depressed times. And I don't really have many to talk to about it. Could just use some sincere words of encouragement. Because if I had to be really honest, and forgive me for sounding ungrateful, but I am just so unhappy that I was ever born. The days have just been so heavy. And I can't remember the last time I was happy. It all just feels so heavy and pointless. Me same here dear.. Breakups and heartbreak do crush our self esteem to a certain extent and then, we feel that we are not getting the support we think we need from our friends at this trying times..I guess it's just us and our fragile hearts.. Big bear hug to you !! I need that too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii51 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii51 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 honestly though, because you said you didn't ask for it... It's my understanding of the universe that you wouldn't be in this position if it wasn't exactly what you needed. If it wasn't exactly what you've caused and or let continue to this moment. You're not a product of a drunken night or bad rubber goods, you're meant to be here (there). Where ever you go from here is on you, and is in every next breath and moment after. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedgirl99 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 I wish it were just romantic stuff. That's part of it. I lost a dear friend to cancer recently. My family recently shunned me etc, so have friends. It's just been tough. Along with other issues that are too personal to discuss on a public forum. For the last 10 years I just feel like I have been holding on, thinking positively, keeping faith and waiting for stuff to get better but it has just gotten worse honestly, in ways that I never thought possible. I used to believe in people and in things but life is slowly beating that out of me too. People have been so horrible to me. I just don't know what the point is. I don't know who i am anymore. I feel like I'm a good person, I don't mean any of this as pity, I really don't even though it comes off as such and hence I have refrained from saying anything. But I am a kind person, with a good heart, I help people where I can, I donate, I volunteer, I try to be there for people, I listen, I do good. Yes I have screwed up and sure I have Done my share of bad but I have apologized, repented, and corrected my ways and my intent was never malicious. I am just tired of life and people crapping on me. I feel so unwanted. I am so weary, guys. It's so heavy. It's like no one cares. I put on a happy good face everyday. But people are just so mean and life has been so unkind to me. I feel terrible saying this because I sound so ungrateful and i don't mean to be because I am sure there are worse than me and I have plenty to be grateful for. I am just unhappy in my own way I suppose. It just feels like a prison everyday, one that I cannot leave because I would hate to hurt the people around me, so I just go through life, I feel, and lately I just can't wait till it's over. I don't know, I cringe reading this because it sounds like one big pity party and that's the last thing I want. I feel so unwanted. I wish in some ways, that I could be that person that people missed or loved or valued or wanted to be around or remembered. I don't know what to do differently because I am a truly kind person, I really am. But I feel like I am so disposable and no one cares. And when I am too nice, people walk all over me, friends and family. And if I stand up for myself, people just leave my life and I am left lonely. I am just weary, I am sorry for laying this all out. It's just been so heavy these last 7-10 years. I wish I could believe the generic advice that better days will come, but I just have stopped hoping because it's only gotten worse. But what choice do I have, right? the only choice I have is to believe that better days will come. I'm not sure why I typed all this. I'm just really sad today. I could use some comfort. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii51 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Better days won't come, unless you let them. I'm not sure was sort of tailored fitted pain you're going, so I cannot entirely related, but you've got one shot at this as you, and it truly is what you make it- especially the ****ty moments/week/years/decades. It's what you pull and learn from all of that. I believe that for me, I must be alone and happy in that aloneness before I can share myself with anyone else. And when ever I'm counting too much on other people, I resort back to me- my needs. my feelings. That goes for everyone, even my siblings and hypothetical offspring. I don't think reading of anyone's bad advice on how to get out of a seemingly life-pong funk is going to help you completely.. just encourage. A lot of people have been in similar positions, and a lot of those same people are alive, kicking and happier than they've ever been. Godspeed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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