Angel29 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I was interested in a guy who showed me interest but he has been emotionally abusive towards me. He shows me signs of interest and has told other people but gets very jealous when I talk to other people, particularly men. He kept dropping hints for me to come out more with our mutual friends on walks, weekends away and nights out but when I did I come he blew hot and cold and gave me daggers. In between this I found out he left me early to go on a date, tried to make me jealous and chatted another woman in front of me and swapped numbers, kissed another woman when I had left a venue and then said I could no longer car share with him as he was taking another woman away. I don't get what I did to deserve this treatment. I am a really nice person and do not deserve this. How can I put this behind me? This is not a man I want to date. Was this someone who is emotionally abusive?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I was interested in a guy who showed me interest but he has been emotionally abusive towards me. He shows me signs of interest and has told other people but gets very jealous when I talk to other people, particularly men. He kept dropping hints for me to come out more with our mutual friends on walks, weekends away and nights out but when I did I come he blew hot and cold and gave me daggers. In between this I found out he left me early to go on a date, tried to make me jealous and chatted another woman in front of me and swapped numbers, kissed another woman when I had left a venue and then said I could no longer car share with him as he was taking another woman away. I don't get what I did to deserve this treatment. I am a really nice person and do not deserve this. How can I put this behind me? This is not a man I want to date. Was this someone who is emotionally abusive? Wow, I lose hope for humanity more every day I post here. Why is this guy even on your radar still?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Yes, he was emotionally abusive. He also has a big ego and was not that into you. To move on, you first need to recognize his behaviour was not a reflection on you. His problems are his problems. Do not have any more contact with this person, if you're you're still in touch. 1
Redhead14 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I was interested in a guy who showed me interest but he has been emotionally abusive towards me. He shows me signs of interest and has told other people but gets very jealous when I talk to other people, particularly men. He kept dropping hints for me to come out more with our mutual friends on walks, weekends away and nights out but when I did I come he blew hot and cold and gave me daggers. In between this I found out he left me early to go on a date, tried to make me jealous and chatted another woman in front of me and swapped numbers, kissed another woman when I had left a venue and then said I could no longer car share with him as he was taking another woman away. I don't get what I did to deserve this treatment. I am a really nice person and do not deserve this. How can I put this behind me? This is not a man I want to date. Was this someone who is emotionally abusive? How do you put it behind you? Stop thinking about it. He isn't worth the emotional expense you've invested by posting here. Yes, he's likely emotionally abusive. It's not you, it's him. 1
fred123 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Maybe he just wasnt into you and was trying to tell you he only likes you as a friend! He was intersted in the other girl thats why he kissed her and not you! You are just his friend. How could you not tell?!
Gary S Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Time is the great healer. In time, you'll forget about it.
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Let's clear something up. He was not abuse -- stupid, socially immature, badly trying reverse psychology & jealousy but he was not abusive. That said, just ignore him. If he confronts you about why you no longer talk to him or reach out in other ways explain that his hot / cold behavior turned you off because you prefer to date adult males not game playing little boys. 1
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