Author j_mysterio Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Well that was super depressing lol
hunk Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 That's just me man. Obviously everyone is different. I treated my girlfriends pretty damn poorly, there really hasn't been much reason for them to come back. Most people on here seem to have treated their exes with nothing but love. The chances of most other people reconnecting, i would wager to say, are alot higher than mine :p:p:p
Author j_mysterio Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Have you made any steps to change the way you treat them?
hunk Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I'd like to think I have. I'm totally real with myself in admitting where I screwed up and the reasons why I behaved the way I did in all my relationships, and it's all come from issues I have with myself that I project into all of my relationships. I just struggle to commit and open up emotionally and actually respect other people as individuals with needs. The best advice us guys can get, is to treat your girl like gold. I mean actual gold. Taking people for granted is truly horrible, and there is no worse feeling than basically forcing someone who loves/d you unconditionally to walk away from you because you took them for granted, then realizing what you've done when it's too late. Next relationship I have, she's gonna get everything. 1
na49 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I've gone NC, and my same ex has come back two times after breaking up with me twice. The moral of the story is that if they want to come back they will. If they don't come back, then they don't. People are all different. Some people are more secure with their decisions than others.
na49 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 How long wad the NC for? 3 months the first time, and 1 month the second time. After our most recent breakup, she left me to be with someone else. Her relationship with the newest guy lasted a month. HE was the one who dumped HER! She came back to me literally hours after being dumped.
Author j_mysterio Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 After the 3 months... Did you have doubt in your mind about getting back together? May she have had doubt?
MovingOnIsHard Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Well ive been broken with my ex since mid nov of last year. We were on and off again so many times during our relationship (initiated by him) and i finally let him go. After that, he seemed bitter about the whole thing and blamed me for everything. He kept messaging me sporadically in various social apps, wanting to stay in touch/talk, but ive pretty much told him im not interested in talking to him again before i blocked him. Last he messaged me through a dating site via a false account, wanting to talk. Ive ignored his message. I think for me, NC has been successful in the sense that it allowed me to slowly detach emotionally from my ex. Since breaking up with him, I have no interest in getting back with him nor do i want any contact again. Now im able to focus on my own goals and seek new opportunities :-) 2
ZiggyZoo Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Ziggy... Was he contacting you? Nope. Not once. As far as still loving him goes, I guess I have no ill-will towards him, but most definitely don't love him anymore. I'm not saying I would never try again, but this relationship is done and I'm fine with that. I believe you have to get to that stage before trying reconciliation anyway. It needs to be a new relationship, with the issues that contributed to the demise of he old one identified and addressed. Of course, without talking to him, I don't know what he's thinking so it may not matter anyway.
Karin2rinkashi Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Success is a path you walk, you never get it. I'll let you know if i EVER get there. Honestly, i don't want to. I like the chase! #Whatsyourwildrabbit? This applies to all aspects of your life....
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