bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Good Morning, Well yesterday, i went to drop off my friend at his house around 10.30am and my EX lives down the road from him in a coulder sack one way in and one way out. Well to make a long story short her sister saw me and told her sister which is the EX. I received a text from her last night saying " you got busted today passing by my house". this was at 11.30pm before she had texted me at 9.30pm telling me Happy Easter, i ignored the text, im in no contact for 30 days. before the break up we were fixing and painting her new house and adding new lighting to the front, I responded to the text at 1.30am telling her, "Was wondering how the new paint was coming out and the gate lights. Thats all. Looks nice , congrats. Was near by at walmart getting some stuff for a friend. So i just crusied by when dropping off my friend at his house, House looks nice, im Happy for you" Did i screw up no contact, i was just telling her that so she wouldnt think that i was just going to see her. What do i do now!!!
seminoles84 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Wait I'm confused. Did you drive by her house because you had to in order to drop your friend off or are you saying he lives by and you drove by her house (out of the way)?
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Wait I'm confused. Did you drive by her house because you had to in order to drop your friend off or are you saying he lives by and you drove by her house (out of the way)? No i had to she lives down his street!! everytime i drop him off i get the feeling tht somemone is going to see me and now it happend!
BlackbirdSong Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Ahh don't worry about it. People get so crazy with NC. It's not that big of a deal. If she's not interested, she's not interested.
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Ahh don't worry about it. People get so crazy with NC. It's not that big of a deal. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Hey Balckbird was up my brother, ya she texted me last night with a Happy Easter like you said but i ddint respond to her, then ya later that night she texted me that crap that i was busted going by her house!! thats sucks i knew it would happen sooner or later.
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Ahh don't worry about it. People get so crazy with NC. It's not that big of a deal. If she's not interested, she's not interested. If she was not intrested, she would have not even text me Happy easter or even tell me that her sister saw me? could that mean she is still intrested, im staying on NC no matter what!!! 1
BlackbirdSong Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 It could be either way. She could still be interested and that's why she's texting you or she could be annoyed that you're still around. With girls, we never win. 1
seminoles84 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 No i had to she lives down his street!! everytime i drop him off i get the feeling tht somemone is going to see me and now it happend! Why did you tell her this? ""Was wondering how the new paint was coming out and the gate lights." Why not just tell her what you were doing and that was dropping your friend off. 1
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Why did you tell her this? ""Was wondering how the new paint was coming out and the gate lights." Why not just tell her what you were doing and that was dropping your friend off. i did tell her that i was droping off a freind, then i drove by her house its in the same street, and the reasen i told her that about the house so it didnt seem that i was there intentally. and we were 30 days ago remolading the house together and was curios how it came out out, so i just wantedd to lett her know that it was looking good, thats all.
Chi townD Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 You should have stayed in NC. I mean, the only thing you did was give her an ego boost. The text itself should have tipped you off. She sent the "you were caught checking out my house". Translation- "You were caught creeping around my house, you can't get over me, can you!" It's just best to remain in NC. 2
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 You should have stayed in NC. I mean, the only thing you did was give her an ego boost. The text itself should have tipped you off. She sent the "you were caught checking out my house". Translation- "You were caught creeping around my house, you can't get over me, can you!" It's just best to remain in NC. I know it seems creepy to her but it is what is, if its an ego boost for her then oh well, she texted me, she broke no contact so for some reason she still cares cuz if not she would had just not text at all, if it was the other way around and i saw her i would had kept it to my self knowing that someone i know saw her.
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Why did you tell her this? ""Was wondering how the new paint was coming out and the gate lights." Why not just tell her what you were doing and that was dropping your friend off. even if i told her that i was dropping off a friend she still would think that i was creping around her house anyways thats why i told her the truth. she is very narcisit, and she would deffitly think i was there for her!!!
j_mysterio Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Never do anything illegal dude lol you story seems to have holes in it. So there was NO WAY to drop your friend off without driving by your exs house? You def should have left out the paint/gate part. Someone said it to me... You said "she broke NC"... NC is not a team thing... Youre the only one who can break NC. From her perspective you got caught creepin and made up some bs excuse for creepin. Stay NC... She's contacting you to get a rise out of you. Dont hive it to herm 1
Author bigfred Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Never do anything illegal dude lol you story seems to have holes in it. So there was NO WAY to drop your friend off without driving by your exs house? You def should have left out the paint/gate part. Someone said it to me... You said "she broke NC"... NC is not a team thing... Youre the only one who can break NC. From her perspective you got caught creepin and made up some bs excuse for creepin. Stay NC... She's contacting you to get a rise out of you. Dont hive it to herm What holes?? i droped of my good buddie at his house and she just moven on the same street that he lives on and her sister and brothers all live on the same street, i told her about the gate and lights cuz i paid for them and never finished the job becouse of the break up and was curious to see them thata all nothing illegal here dude, it was just a coicidence that her sister was leaving her own house at the same time and saw me. i have been by there few times to drop him off and pick him up he kinda works for me on the weekends. I wasnt creeping or anyhing like that just happend to be the wrong place at the wrong time!
ZiggyZoo Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Ummm, I'm confused. Yesterday, you said that YOU texted HER and said "Happy Easter" and wrote a post asking if this was breaking NC. Now you're saying that you were in NC until SHE texted YOU? I'm with j_mysterio, your story is full of holes. I think you need to be honest with yourself here about what you're really up to. We've all been there, the "accidental-on-purpose" drive by, the text we knew we shouldn't have sent, responding to crumbs...but you need to stop acting like you don't know what you were doing. Being in denial about what you really want and where you are in your NC and recovery is only going to hurt you in the end. Yesterday, when you were posting about that text you sent, you were totally advised by everybody to let it be. To not send more, and sure as hell to not respond to any that she might send. If you're truly NC, you'd have blocked her number anyway, but that's a different thing. What advice are you looking for, and why do you keep coming on here doing the same things and asking the same questions, then receiving the same advice from the same people? You are sure to get one person telling you that hearing from her is great and to keep texting her until you're back together. If that's what you want though, stop wasting everyone's time and go look elsewhere for that crap. We're here to help those who genuinely want to get over a broken heart and move forward with their lives. 4
Author bigfred Posted April 7, 2015 Author Posted April 7, 2015 Ummm, I'm confused. Yesterday, you said that YOU texted HER and said "Happy Easter" and wrote a post asking if this was breaking NC. Now you're saying that you were in NC until SHE texted YOU? I'm with j_mysterio, your story is full of holes. I think you need to be honest with yourself here about what you're really up to. We've all been there, the "accidental-on-purpose" drive by, the text we knew we shouldn't have sent, responding to crumbs...but you need to stop acting like you don't know what you were doing. Being in denial about what you really want and where you are in your NC and recovery is only going to hurt you in the end. Yesterday, when you were posting about that text you sent, you were totally advised by everybody to let it be. To not send more, and sure as hell to not respond to any that she might send. If you're truly NC, you'd have blocked her number anyway, but that's a different thing. What advice are you looking for, and why do you keep coming on here doing the same things and asking the same questions, then receiving the same advice from the same people? You are sure to get one person telling you that hearing from her is great and to keep texting her until you're back together. If that's what you want though, stop wasting everyone's time and go look elsewhere for that crap. We're here to help those who genuinely want to get over a broken heart and move forward with their lives. Good moring Ziggy Zoo, Your right, feeling ashemed but in the long run she did leave breadcrumbs and i ate them up, i come to this site for advice and help, i apreciate everyone input on my situation and beleive me it helps alot. I did break NC and i feel like im moving on becouse i no remorse to it, so its working for me and to let go, sorry if i was not on point. from know on ill be better, have a nice day, im starting NC again started yesterday and i will be better in how my post here will be. 1
lolablue17 Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Good moring Ziggy Zoo, Your right, feeling ashemed but in the long run she did leave breadcrumbs and i ate them up, i come to this site for advice and help, i apreciate everyone input on my situation and beleive me it helps alot. I did break NC and i feel like im moving on becouse i no remorse to it, so its working for me and to let go, sorry if i was not on point. from know on ill be better, have a nice day, im starting NC again started yesterday and i will be better in how my post here will be. My advice is that ou should stop taking this NC as a religion. NC is for your self and you set the rules. It's OK to break NC if you want to try something, and it's more than OK to make mistakes along the way. If you want another advice - When your break NC never give any information. spred fog and only ask meaningless questions.
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