Author mysteriouschic Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 OP, I think you are in denial. This guy doesn't care that much about you or your feelings. Expecting you to come over in the middle of the night, screw him, and then leave is not the makings of a relationship. And if you're doing all the planning, what does that tell you about his level of interest? Unfortunately, I think you are more invested than he is. He's not normally like this . I'm more assertive out of us. Since the start I've always been the one . He's not a assertive guy , he does try to plan sometimes. I'm better at organising and that. Last night he was crazy I was shocked by him myself.
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Oh I'm sure he loves putting his D in your V, but he wouldn't treat you like a booty call that he can jerk around at 4am and get pissed off at if he felt true love for you. Having a dysfunctional FWB relationship =/= Love We haven't got that far yet he hasn't kept his hard yet. I don't know why like he might keep getting anxious. We've only done oral.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 He's not normally like this . I'm more assertive out of us. Since the start I've always been the one . He's not a assertive guy , he does try to plan sometimes. I'm better at organising and that. Last night he was crazy I was shocked by him myself. You're in denial............ 2
Redhead14 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 He's not normally like this . I'm more assertive out of us. Since the start I've always been the one . He's not a assertive guy , he does try to plan sometimes. I'm better at organising and that. Last night he was crazy I was shocked by him myself. Since the start I've always been the one OP, you are doing all the work in this "relationship" and you are making excuses for him. He's not stepping up to the plate in any way shape or form to advance things for a relationship. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I'm confused. If this is a guy that you've been seeing for six months, how come you've only gotten together a few times? Are you primarily having a "text-ship"? But it looks like his true colors are showing. If he was actually into you for you, all that matter would be spending time. I think it's awesome you suggested bowling. Fun activity. Plus, great precursor for sex, seeing a woman in tight jeans bending over all night. This is definitely a guy that you should walk away from. Besides, you're only 21 and have your whole life ahead of you. Why not just take advantage of that and start meeting other guys that you can actually spend time with on a regular basis?
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 I'm confused. If this is a guy that you've been seeing for six months, how come you've only gotten together a few times? Are you primarily having a "text-ship"? But it looks like his true colors are showing. If he was actually into you for you, all that matter would be spending time. I think it's awesome you suggested bowling. Fun activity. Plus, great precursor for sex, seeing a woman in tight jeans bending over all night. This is definitely a guy that you should walk away from. Besides, you're only 21 and have your whole life ahead of you. Why not just take advantage of that and start meeting other guys that you can actually spend time with on a regular basis? it is sort of a text-ship i guess but at the start he was nervous to meet up. He doesn't seem like a confident guy a little nervous or something. Actually I've noticed he has acted odd towards me when very drunk ends up doing stupid things like this. Although the last one was the worst others were a similar but we still spoke and met. He hadn't drank in a while. I don't know he seems to be bad expressing his feelings. He told me he loved me the last time looking in my eyes as we were saying goodbye and this was after the sex when he didn't get it up at that time I was thinking we'd messed up. Maybe me and him just need to talk and be more open . He's not too natural at the sex either he seemed like he was trying to please. He hasn't met up with anyone else hes only met up with me . And the him not getting hard seemed to affect him for a while like he needed to get his confidence back to meet again him worrying about it happening again. I just feel like me and him just need to go out more and he did agree for the bowling. The living situations are a bit awkward for us both with parents.
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Since the start I've always been the one OP, you are doing all the work in this "relationship" and you are making excuses for him. He's not stepping up to the plate in any way shape or form to advance things for a relationship. He did pursue me initially though but I was the one who kept us in contact like I asked him for his number and that I'm quite assertive or a go getter . We just have the roles reversed . Maybe we just need to sit down an talk an see what page we're on what we're looking for. 1
kendahke Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 And usually I don't let him come to mine because my parents are right next door more awkward situation to have him over so he knows I'd come to him instead. He just acted crazy. I didn't say anything about him coming over to visit or spend the night at your house. I said if he wanted sex with you at 4am, he needs to come by and pick you up and then drop you back off, if he cared anything about you. And unless he's leaning on the horn outside your house at that hour or has glass pack mufflers, your parents aren't going to know he's outside. They'll hear the door close either way, if it's you leaving on your own or you're getting into his car. It's been two days now--has he offered up an apology or explanation for talking to you the way he did?
lucy_in_disguise Posted April 7, 2015 Posted April 7, 2015 Damn. I can only hope that guy was kidding. OP if he was serious do u see how screwed ip his behaivior is? Theres really no excuse, it is not something you should put up with.
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) He's still speaking to me he seems to be a aggressive/crazy drunk if he drinks too much. He doesn't usually act like that towards me ever . Only if he's drunk a bit too much he's been a little similar not as aggressive. He hadn't drunk alcohol in a while must've had way too many it's still no excuse for his behaviour I know. Usually I do stay over at his if I'm there. Texted him tonight inviting him to a concert . He replied "haha hiya what day is it prob be in work sadly very busy lately x " (he works at the airport) then I told him what day it was and hoped he could come and that he said "No sadly can't have a match friday niteee ahhhhhh sorry thanks though xx" He has told me before he plays matches every Friday so not making it up. I had a feeling he might've had a match wasn't sure. Edited April 8, 2015 by mysteriouschic
h0000 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) I think he is about to drop you. I also think he sounds like a loser. cant get hard. no confidence. works in airport( i'm guessing some low end position), lives with parents...hmm if he was a sweet caring loving guy then I would overlook all these but he isn't. So I dont think hes worth the effort and headache. Edited April 8, 2015 by h0000
spiderowl Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 Sounds like he's only interested in sex not you. Does he see you for any other reason at all? This sounds like an incredibly shallow relationship. I don't know what you see in a guy like him
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 I think he is about to drop you. I also think he sounds like a loser. cant get hard. no confidence. works in airport( i'm guessing some low end position), lives with parents...hmm if he was a sweet caring loving guy then I would overlook all these but he isn't. So I dont think hes worth the effort and headache. He wasn't lying about the match he's mentioned that before I had a feeling he might've had the match. Oh why does it seem like he might drop me? Or is he just getting a ego boost from me?
Author mysteriouschic Posted April 8, 2015 Author Posted April 8, 2015 Sounds like he's only interested in sex not you. Does he see you for any other reason at all? This sounds like an incredibly shallow relationship. I don't know what you see in a guy like him Yeah although we just got physical early on we're starting to plan to go out more to take the pressure off sex since he's been losing his hard just to get more comfortable. I still talk to other guys so I haven't exactly committed to him yet just trying to go out more.
elaine567 Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 He's still speaking to me he seems to be a aggressive/crazy drunk if he drinks too much. He doesn't usually act like that towards me ever . Only if he's drunk a bit too much he's been a little similar not as aggressive. He hadn't drunk alcohol in a while must've had way too many it's still no excuse for his behaviour I know. Usually I do stay over at his if I'm there. Texted him tonight inviting him to a concert . He replied "haha hiya what day is it prob be in work sadly very busy lately x " (he works at the airport) then I told him what day it was and hoped he could come and that he said "No sadly can't have a match friday niteee ahhhhhh sorry thanks though xx" He has told me before he plays matches every Friday so not making it up. I had a feeling he might've had a match wasn't sure. This is blowing you off. Before you even told him the day, he had an excuse not to go to the concert with you. He is NOT interested in you, he wanted sex at 3am, you didn't oblige he got angry. He doesn't have the nerve to tell you he is not really interested in a relationship. You do all the running, he goes with the flow, but deep down he doesn't care. You are young, you have options, do not waste your time trying to make up excuses for this guy. At the moment you are assertive and a go getter, but he will bring you down to his level, don't let him. 1
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 He wasn't lying about the match he's mentioned that before I had a feeling he might've had the match. Oh why does it seem like he might drop me? Or is he just getting a ego boost from me? Who cares "why" .... what matters is he's not into you, doesn't respect you, and is using you, so wake up and dump this douche bag pronto! Stop making excuses for him, he is just not into you. The way he treats you is deplorable! 1
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