damoishere Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 How..can I make that feeling go away. I have anorexia. Body dismorphia. I'm lonely. Hate myself..my first girlfriend made me believe she killed herself when she was 15...then she called me few months ago telling me it was a joke....and she died two weeks ago in a car crash...and ky second girlfriend dated me for six months only to tell me our relationship is a bet between her and her real boyfriend..I miss cuddles. Kisses. Affection... Don't know what to do..couldn't get a date since then. London truly sucs Link to post Share on other sites
ApexTitanium Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Dont really know what to tell ya man as I feel the same way sometimes. Bought a 45acp handgun just in case I lose my **** haha. Just do the absolute best you can dont think about ANYONE except yourself. Go to the gym, or for runs, dress up better, eat all kinds of healthy food and just act like your only care is yourself. Girls are attracted to that behavior. Eventually you will have them talking to you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 I am sorry that girl played such a nasty trick on you. Even so I'm sure her tragic death was a shock to you & part of your is mourning her. Suicide is not an answer. Things can get better with time. For now, get into therapy & go from there. If you are really unable to control the urges, report to an emergency room. At the very least tell a family member or close friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Next to the things d0nnivain said, get a pet. A dog or cat can make so much difference to your life and can give so much love. You have lost the faith for now but you definitely are worth it. Please do not do desperate things. Good luck man. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 If you are suicidal, you need to call a professional therapist and hotline IMMEDIATELY and get into a program or treatment that will work with you and all your issues. How old are you? It sounds like you are young... Does your family know and can you reach out to them to have them help you? Link to post Share on other sites
ASV Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Next to the things d0nnivain said, get a pet. A dog or cat can make so much difference to your life and can give so much love. You have lost the faith for now but you definitely are worth it. Please do not do desperate things. Good luck man. Don't. I got a pet bought by my mother in order to help me with my teenage depression issues. And, as moving as is having such a little cute thing eager to meet you when you arrive home, do not use it as a solution for your problems. They will stay there. They are not tools to avoid desperation but complements to your life and happiness, just the same about relationships - that's why rebounds do not last much time. Cannot really help you. I'm a depressed, depressing person with suicidal thoughs from the very beginning of my day to the last hour, but don't mess things up. Try to visit a psychologist first to discard you're getting depressed due to your environment and circumstances, not for physical problems. Stay fit. If you can build a bigger self without meds, better. If they are necessary, go for them. I'm on the same road, and I'm not reaping any result to be honest. Each day I seem to feel a little worse, to be honest, and meds have turned things worse in fact, at least for the moment. If I am to help you with some thought to avoid suicide and thus gain time for better events to come, think of death as something unknown. Discard every sort of afterlife thought you can have for you have no empirical proof for it: consider that when you die you'll live your life again. Or that you'll be bound to see your parents' mourning from above and your exes having kinky sex and not giving two ****s about your death. Such punishing burden serves me enough to even consider the thought of killing myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 They are not tools to avoid desperation but complements to your life and happiness, just the same about relationships ... Animals and people should never be used in a instrumental way, never!! damoishere wrote about missing the cuddles and affection. I know people who say to me every time I visit them that their animals brought so much happiness and affection to their lives, where at first they were lonely. I am sorry it didn't work for you, for others it did. Link to post Share on other sites
ASV Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Animals and people should never be used in a instrumental way, never!! damoishere wrote about missing the cuddles and affection. I know people who say to me every time I visit them that their animals brought so much happiness and affection to their lives, where at first they were lonely. I am sorry it didn't work for you, for others it did. Hey, sorry for the harshness of my reply. I was just discouraging animals as such instrumental way because there are so many cases of abandoned pets once the "honeymoon phase" has ended. And well, as I said, having animals is a wonderful experience for the love they provide, but I don't know if it's just the bitter me who's talking now - in my case those aren't the hugs and shows of affection I'm missing. It's important to have beloved beings around you in your suicidal moments, but just don't use them to hide dissatisfactions: just looks at dysfunctional families that brought children to life just for the sake of it, because it seemed natural, et al. Plain insecurity. Hope this makes sense now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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