DerekSmalls Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 (edited) Hey All, My first time posting a thread here. I met a girl 3 weeks ago at her work. I told her I'd be at Applebee's down the street with friends and to my surprise she showed up after work with her friends. I must have made a good impression as she gave me her number. A few days later we hung out. She let me walk her to the corner of her street which I was okay with. I pretty much realized this girl is something else. I can't quiet grasp it yet. A week later we hung out again and this time I walked her home from her work to her house (about 8 miles). We also had dinner. I was a gentleman the whole time. Paid for dinner, walked on the side of the road, gave her my jacket when she got cold, etc. I ended the night with a kiss on her cheek. The next few days I tried to get in contact via text/call but her responses would take hours and sometimes she just wouldn't respond at all. As you can see it became very frustrating. I was becoming to invested and she wasn't showing the same level of interest. i began speculating other guys in the picture or just plain old she's not interested. So I decided to do the NC rule. Well a whole week passed and just when I thought she wasn't interested she contacted me! To my surprise I got this text that is word for word. "For someone you can't stop thinking of, you do a horrible job of speaking to" As you can tell I was quite confused! She then begun to ask me via text if it was something she did. I told her yes and that I'd feel better speaking in person. I realized this was the first time she was very quick at texting back. We ended up meeting an hour after her message and hung out for several hours that night. I basically laid it all out on the line and told her I really like her and I'm in it for the long run. She seemed really happy to hear these words but she didn't really give me back any answers I was hoping to hear. Just smiles and long stares at the ground. (She's really shy) She told me she has a hard time communicating her feelings and that she has heard all this before. I get the vibe that she really does like me too and she said it herself. I drove her to the corner of her house as she still wouldn't allow me to drop her off for what ever reason. I tried to kiss her this time only to get turned down and getting her cheek again but when I gave her a hug. She held on to me for the longest time and it felt right. Well since that day which has been 2 whole days now. She hasn't responded back to any of my texts or calls. WHAT SHOULD I DO???!!! P.S. Reading this, I realized how childish it sounds but keep in mind I am 27 and she is 22. So NO, this isn't a high school problem. lol Edited April 6, 2015 by DerekSmalls
Mrin Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Hmmmm, that is perplexing. I guess I would be a mixed bag in your shoes. My initial reaction would just be to blow her off and move on. Conclude that she's flighty or not interested. But I think there is some sort of game playing/testing going on and I think it is probably fueled by her friends. She's wanting you/expecting you to chase her and chase her pretty hard. The majority of your story fits with that. But I guess what perplexes me is what you say at the end: Well since that day which has been 2 whole days now. She hasn't responded back to any of my texts or calls. If they were just some texts you had sent then she might be playing some 2-3 day response game. But you actually have a call or calls into her and no response. That's just plain rude. Sooner or later, a standard needs to be set how you expect her to behave. So I guess I would just go NC on her again. You can expect a few more days to go by and get another contact from her that says something like "For someone who says they're really into me, you sure give up easily." To which the correct response is, "for someone who professes to be receptive to my advances, you sure do a terrible job showing it" and then just leave it like that until she reaches out again. When/if you do have an in person conversation say that you're not interested in playing games. You're looking for someone who is mature and wants the same thing you do. If that's not her, then you wish her well. Caveats: There are two things in your story that rub me raw. The first is the kiss rejection on the last meeting. That smacks of either "i'm not interested" or "I have a boyfriend". Which brings me to my next point - I think this lady is already dating someone. He might be an LDR or something. It explains why you can't bring her to her house but can get her close. Or she lives with her parents and they won't approve of you. It is something like that. Anyhow, best of luck. I wouldn't get too wrapped around the axel on this lady. Seems like she is immature and has a lot of stuff going on there.
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