fitnessfan365 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 That is why they thought there was a chance down the line though, because you described it as circumstantial and not about the idea of you two together. How could there be any room for interpretation with "This is just about sex for me, and I will never want anything serious with you EVER"? I think that makes it pretty clear and dry don't you? But women thinking they can change a man isn't exactly a new concept is it?..LOL However, the second they admitted to having feelings I ended it. Was hard in each case, because all three were amazing in bed. But if I kept having sex after they admitted having feelings, then I would be leading them on which I don't do. 2
Author Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 How could there be any room for interpretation with "This is just about sex for me, and I will never want anything serious with you EVER"? I think that makes it pretty clear and dry don't you? But women thinking they can change a man isn't exactly a new concept is it?..LOL However, the second they admitted to having feelings I ended it. Was hard in each case, because all three were amazing in bed. But if I kept having sex after they admitted having feelings, then I would be leading them on which I don't do. Were you able to stay friends with them after you stopped having sex? Or did you go no contact?
Redhead14 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Here's the problem though. You can be completely honest with women upfront, and they STILL think that they can eventually change your mind. Going into all three of my FWB's, I was completely honest. "This is just about sex for me since I just got out of a relationship, and I'll never want anything serious with you." They said they understood, and 2-3 months in they told me they had feelings and wanted a relationship. So I ended it in each case as soon as that happened. You can only control you being honest with them . . . you can't control them being honest with themselves. Bottomline, they were kidding themselves about whether they can handle that situation.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Were you able to stay friends with them after you stopped having sex? Or did you go no contact? I tried to look at it from the point of someone in the friend zone. When someone wants more and the other doesn't, "friendship"is ultimately punishing the other person. So that's why I went no contact.
Author Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 UPDATE- Seeing her again tomorrow night, she told me to come over and hangout. Kinda sounds like a booty call? This might be easier than I thought. 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 UPDATE- Seeing her again tomorrow night, she told me to come over and hangout. Kinda sounds like a booty call? This might be easier than I thought. This could be a good sign (for you) in the way that she's on the same page you are with regard to keeping your interactions as strictly FWB. But if I were you, I'd still keep an eye out for behavioral changes from her, should they ever occur. Feelings could develop at any time, and you want to be sure to nip them in the bud before they're allowed to flourish. The avatar of yourself that you had up last month reminded me of the actor, Cillian Murphy (the actor who portrayed "Jim" in the horror flick, "28 Days Later"). I realize you probably don't have blue eyes and your hair color is darker than his, but, idk, there's just something about your facial features that reminds me of him! https://s.yimg.com/fz/api/res/1.2/CnFH6z7TiPEq2euO4dELMw--/YXBwaWQ9c3JjaGRkO2g9NjQwO3E9OTU7dz00MjY-/http://www.sortiesdvd.com/photos/cillian-murphy/4206.jpg .
Author Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 This could be a good sign (for you) in the way that she's on the same page you are with regard to keeping your interactions as strictly FWB. But if I were you, I'd still keep an eye out for behavioral changes from her, should they ever occur. Feelings could develop at any time, and you want to be sure to nip them in the bud before they're allowed to flourish. The avatar of yourself that you had up last month reminded me of the actor, Cillian Murphy (the actor who portrayed "Jim" in the horror flick, "28 Days Later"). I realize you probably don't have blue eyes and your hair color is darker than his, but, idk, there's just something about your facial features that reminds me of him! https://s.yimg.com/fz/api/res/1.2/CnFH6z7TiPEq2euO4dELMw--/YXBwaWQ9c3JjaGRkO2g9NjQwO3E9OTU7dz00MjY-/http://www.sortiesdvd.com/photos/cillian-murphy/4206.jpg . Haha, yeah I have brown eyes Lol. Not sure what the likelihood of someone recognizing me on here is, otherwise I might re-up a photo.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 Haha, yeah I have brown eyes Lol. Not sure what the likelihood of someone recognizing me on here is, otherwise I might re-up a photo. I think the likelihood of someone recognizing you on a relationship website is significantly less than if you were on a dating website. Does your job make you feel weird about being recognized online? Or is it because you have another reason why you don't want anyone that you know to recognize you? I've posted my pics in my album because my job isn't a high profile position and frankly, I don't really mind if someone recognizes me; but to keep my profile somewhat private, I chose to upload "Misty" (the female zombie warrior from COD:Black Ops) as my avatar. I don't consider LS to be one of the most popular relationship websites out there, and thus, the odds of someone I know recognizing me on here are like a million to one. . 1
Author Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 I think the likelihood of someone recognizing you on a relationship website is significantly less than if you were on a dating website. Does your job make you feel weird about being recognized online? Or is it because you have another reason why you don't want anyone that you know to recognize you? I've posted my pics in my album because my job isn't a high profile position and frankly, I don't really mind if someone recognizes me; but to keep my profile somewhat private, I chose to upload "Misty" (the female zombie warrior from COD:Black Ops) as my avatar. I don't consider LS to be one of the most popular relationship websites out there, and thus, the odds of someone I know recognizing me on here are like a million to one. . Ahhh, didn't notice your album Good point though.
Author Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Well we talked the other night before we grabbed some dinner (went dutch) and she's on the same page as me and wants to keep it casual. Afterwards went back to her place and hooked up and then I left since she had plans later in the evening with her friends. I think we're going to keep doing activities together and go out sometimes (dutch), but we established that if one of us starts getting feelings for the other person we're going to cut off the sex. It all worked out! :cool:
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