makeithappen Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 Hello all, so I recently made friends with a flatmate, who contacted me often and wanted to spend time with me.... Now,that he found a gf, he stopped contacting me and we no longer talk. I feel used (i.e. that he may have only sexualised me and then took me off his life when he found a girl). I would have loved a friendship with him back then, as he knew I was lonely and introduced me to people and made sure he invited me to stuff... He is now very cold, and we effectively stopped contacting each other. I am so mad. I am so angry. I cannot bear to see him at all. He seems like such a hypocrite. I feel like he was not interested in a friendship with me I am not sure what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 true friendships support one another. Can you be happy for him or only take his recent actions as a slight towards you? Maybe he is nesting ( taking more time for her) ... that happens early in the dating scenario. hopefully when you say you were straight up friends it was meant with due regard and happiness for one another. Or had you thought that it would lead to more? Link to post Share on other sites
Author makeithappen Posted April 6, 2015 Author Share Posted April 6, 2015 true friendships support one another. Can you be happy for him or only take his recent actions as a slight towards you? Maybe he is nesting ( taking more time for her) ... that happens early in the dating scenario. hopefully when you say you were straight up friends it was meant with due regard and happiness for one another. Or had you thought that it would lead to more? No I cannot be happy for him. He thought I had feelings for him, when really I got jealous because of fear of abandonment and being very possessive. He cannot keep me as a friend the moment he finds someone. When we last had our social, they were all over each other. He is no longer funny, and fun to be around. When I see them on the street, I get such a negative vibe that all I can do is greet them and keep walking. It's so awkward. I know it's the beginning, but I wish he had not mistaken my caring for sexual attention. I have no friends and he was good to me when I had no one. Link to post Share on other sites
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