tiki Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Snoopers: When do you snoop? Where is your SO while you are doing the snooping? Are you willing to go through any and everything? Or where do you draw the line? When you snoop, do you get an adrenaline rush? If you get caught, just how stupid will you feel?
laRubiaBonita Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 i only snoop through phone bills, address books, emails if i have the password, cars, and random notebooks that look "outta Place" but i ususally only snoop if i feel insecure.....so you can bet i will be snooping at my bf's! if i get caught i do feel silly, but i would rather feel stupid for no reason, than to find a reason.
Author tiki Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by laRubiaBonita i only snoop through phone bills, address books, emails if i have the password, cars, and random notebooks that look "outta Place" only then????!!!. But how in the hell do you snoop through his car?!? Where is he?! I snoop when I'm reminded that I can. I get reminded 'to snoop' here on LS.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 yes...ONLY then! he has two cars, but i only looked through the car once. did not find anything that i thought was fishy.
Naive Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Snoopers: When do you snoop? Where is your SO while you are doing the snooping? Right in front of me!!!!! I always have him there so if I do find something he knows that is his a**!!!!!!! Are you willing to go through any and everything? Or where do you draw the line? A diary or journal.
Author tiki Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 I need a new game plan, I've never checked the car or anything.
billybadass36 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Everywhere and everything. Never when she's present. I've been played before. Don't trust anyone. I'm admittedly hyper-vigilant when it comes to infidelity. We cohabitate, and are getting married, so in my opinion, everything's fair game with the possible exception of her journal....which I've read (she doesn't know I found it and read it). I have nothing to hide, and I have no problem with her snooping, but she doesn't.
bubblygrl5 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 If you're gonna snoop, be ready for what you find!!! I never used to snoop - one day my bf left his email OPEN by accident. Yes, its wrong - but we had issues, and I was curious, so I cozied up and got my fill....anyway, one email was to himself, with his email password in it. Doesn't make sense...cause if you forget your password, you certainly couldnt get into your email to FIND your password...but oh well - my bf's lack of common sense and judgement is what got us into trouble in the first place! Umm...I don't check bills or credit cards or anything like that. Just email on occasion. Sometimes I just wish he would change it one day! Bubbly
soccorsilly Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I check panties for evidence! LOL Not really, I am not a fan of snooping at all. Bad girls bad. <--------------Hitting Tiki on the nose with a rolled up newspaper!
HotCaliGirl Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 I was with my bf for a long time and NEVER snooped - always respected his privacy even when I had the opportunity to on many occassions. Then one day I kinda started going through his bills laying around and BOOM - I got hooked. I wish I didn't because I don't like what I found and it has been very hurtful with a bad outcome but it is very addictive and I wanted to know more and more....the bastard... I no longer go by what I am told but base my decisions on evidence I find that would otherwise not be disclosed to me. If I don't look out for myself, nobody else will. That's my justification for snooping.
disconcertainly Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Snoop! Lets see...yep I have been guilty of it. It was wrong and i know it but it was right after I caught my boyfirend with another girl (no they were not having sex) I am sure I walked in before that could happen. ANywaY I have snooped before and anyone who say they have not are all liars! I snooped b/c I did not want to be played or blind to anything. It was my way not to get hurt. Also I look at it like this....i may snoop but what should he be hiding@ and if he is hiding something then I probably dont need to be with him to start with...so I should have free rein to snoop if I Wanted too b/c he should have nothing to hide. I am a recovering snooper and have not snooped in 6 months...and wow it is hard! Every one needs to give me a pat on the back!lol jk
theedge Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Wow are people that spooked? Why do you guys snoop? Do you guys get signals or is it just a random thing? I have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months and never snooped. Before she lived an hour away, and had lots of time to be up to no good, but I never got worried. She has more or less moved in to my apartment, but I guess at this point she wouldn't have the time to be up to no good. More or less she is either at work or with me. She is free to use the internet and it doesn't phase me. I guess the only thing that got me a bit iffy was a few weeks ago I was over her shoulder and I saw e-mail from a guy. I just asked "So who is that?" She said oh it was a guy I was chatting with before I met you, but we never got to meeting. From what I saw they don't exchange personal e-mails anymore its just forwards and jokes. Untill she acts out of character I won't get all nervous.
Author tiki Posted April 15, 2005 Author Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by theedge Why do you guys snoop? Do you guys get signals or is it just a random thing? Oh mine's very random. I really don't snoop big time or anything, but I'll check his emails every once in a while, he knows I have his password and that I access it if I want to. He feels free to do the same with mine. IRarely, if he hasn't responded to my emails, I'll just log-in to see if he's atleast checked them then got busy and couldn't reply, or if he even has read it. I think that's harmless. Right now, there's no real reason to snoop, and there hasn't been. THANK GOD!!! I feel guilty about the snooping, but there really shouldn't be much to hide. We give each other respect when it comes to purchases and gifts for one another. I'll tell him to stay away from my accounts for a couple of days, that I'm trying to do something for him. I'm just so curious to know WHEN you guys can all snoop, I'm with my H CONSTANTLY.
hyjacked Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Lets see if there are issue's in snooping?? Reasons to: Child supervision, crime investigation, missing person, signifigant behavior changes of SO Other reasons why practiced: low self confidense, low self esteem, mis-trust, controlling, medling, low privacy morals of others, imaturity
Author tiki Posted April 15, 2005 Author Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by hyjacked Other reasons why practiced: low self confidense, low self esteem, mis-trust, controlling, medling, low privacy morals of others, imaturity ...and boredom....
hyjacked Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 ahh...you go to bored.com for that not your boyfriends PC or your girlfriends hiding place in her underwear drawer.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 well i HAD and have reason.... thanks! i did not become the "snoopy-jealous Girlfriend" until HE cheated on me!
JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 I don't snoop just to be snooping. However, if I feel something isn't quite right, things seem weird, then sure I will. I do not do that when in the presence of my H. I mean that would ruin the whole snooping process. What would be the point? LOL I do like and believe in the saying "When in doubt, check it out." Thats only when in doubt though, not just to be doing it. Jade
hyjacked Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Hey don't don't get mad at me, yell at Dr. Phil.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by hyjacked Hey don't don't get mad at me, yell at Dr. Phil. not mad at you, just at my bf for being stupid.
hyjacked Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by laRubiaBonita not mad at you, just at my bf for being stupid. Why do women want boyfriends anyway when they are inherently stupid?? Speaking from the male side if I were a woman I wouldn't want one.
EC Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 I dont really snoop..but then again my bf is too far to snoop through any of his things. When he comes down and he's in the shower i will kinda sorta peek through his cell. I never find anything but I always check..dunno why. I guess because I can..and Im the gf dammit and If I want to look I will look. Will I snoop more when he eventually moves down? I don't know...we'll see.
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