Vuuduu Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 I suggest you get therapy and address your inner issues. Do you come from a toxic family? The best place to start is on your mental health and well being.
Author Brapting Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Wow now broseph. I know you guys have given me a lot of ideas and it is appreciated. I am just pointing out the situation. I want to avoid the whole approaching random people on my own vibe. You can't convince me that is a good idea from the place that I am coming from. I agree that finding a place and getting a new job would be a good start and I am working on it...so chill your boots!
Author Brapting Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Do you come from a toxic family? I have wondered and it did come up in one counselling stint I did when unemployed. What you define as a toxic family?
ZA Dater Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 but having good social skills is necessary if you want to attract Women. In theory that may be true but in reality we all know looks and a fat wallet compensate with social skills 9 out of 10 times.
Author Brapting Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 In theory that may be true but in reality we all know looks and a fat wallet compensate with social skills 9 out of 10 times. I will steer clear of that I think! I am on the ball enough to avoid any ladies who are just after that. I have done a lot of thinking today and am going to stick with the three goals already mentioned: - Get a new job - Get a new place - Get some interests and hobbies Any more than that and I think I would just get overwhelmed and stressed. I not have to think up some kind of achievable plan and a timescale. Tbh I would rather have the place and new job before I look for new hobbies and interests. I think I would be motivated when I am out on my own anyways. Thank you again for your comments.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 In theory that may be true but in reality we all know looks and a fat wallet compensate with social skills 9 out of 10 times. Haha.. Maybe 2/10 times. Most women want a guy that they can connect with.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 In theory that may be true but in reality we all know looks and a fat wallet compensate with social skills 9 out of 10 times. Haha.. Very common misconception. In fact, this actually shows you have a lack of confidence. One time I saw this guy that was easily 75lbs over weight. He was dressed like a Salvation Army reject and had one of the HOTTEST blondes on his arm I've ever seen. They were laughing, kissing, and genuinely happy. This type of physical mismatch is actually a lot more common than you think. Now I'm not saying that women don't have physical standards or a love of good sex. They're people just like we are. However, the saying "Seduce a woman's mind and her body will follow" exists for a reason. If you can't make a woman laugh, push her buttons, and touch her emotions, it isn't going to last.
DatingDirection Posted April 8, 2015 Posted April 8, 2015 I thought as much...but does this mean that I am a write off? My main worry is that I don't have any life experience and worse still, I don't know how to get it. It depends what you mean by life? Like relationships and stuff? I have lived alone before and rented...at university. I have volunteered abroad in africa for a few months. I just have not really dated or socialised a huge amount. After breaking up with my ex...I became a bit of a recluse and things just stayed the same. I don't really go out clubbing or anything like that. The few times I have I find it uncomfortable like I don't really know what I am doing there. I'm not talking about going clubbing, as in getting some life experience. G-d knows there is no life experience there! I never go to clubs. Living alone at university, and being brave to volunteer in Africa are aspects of live experiences, that show your independent and that you have charisma and goals in life. It's ok, if you live at home, just as long as you work towards living independently, since you have a job, you can do that. Trust me, you meet lots of princesses who live at home with mommy and daddy, and don't have a job either. I think you need to cut your self some slack, and just stop thinking about what you want to do, and just do it!
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