sad123 Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Why do guys/girls try to make their ex's jealous? What do they gain out of this?
chancecookie Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 You never know what's going on in someone's head. Is this something direct or interpreted? I've been accused of trying to make people jealous when the thought was never in my head. I just happened to be somewhere at the same time. This is bound to happen if you're living in the same city and have the same hangouts. Sometimes you just have to live your life. It may be just a case of someone moving on a bit faster. Who left is also important. I don't believe in 'oh, it was mutual.' Rejection always stings.
Author sad123 Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 i think it's direct and interpreted. because when i ask my ex about a certain girl he talks about and tells him to date her if he likes her...she says that she is insignificant and he is trying to be honest with me....which is weird.
roygbiv Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 When we were separating and getting things out in the open, my ex accused me of trying to make him feel jealous and worthless whenever I shared someone else's good news that usually had to do with money or success. That was not my intention - it was just to share someone else's good news.
chancecookie Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 So, just to make sure this is straight - He talks about someone else but says he's not interested in her? Something must have struck a chord with him to make her worthy of mention. Boys are funny aren't they? He may just be testing you to see if you react. Is that possible? It's pretty darn selfish to put someone in that position. It doesn't show any care or concern for you. Whatever it is don't let anyone yank your chain. I'm learning this myself the hard way. As far as the phrase 'I'm just being honest' well, actually, I don't know what to say about it. That sounds like famous last words to me. If anyone needs to come clean about something/someone else that badly - there must be some amount of dirt involved. You're not a confessional booth. He shouldn't use you as one. He might feel better but you certainly aren't. Granted, it's better to know than no know but anything tempered with the honesty clause sounds bonk to me. Above all else trust yourself. It's trite - but you need to be there for you first. If your gut is telling you this is bad - go with it. The worst thing I've ever done in my life is let someone else make me doubt myself. I'm pretty cynical right now so please, have some salt with that.
Author sad123 Posted April 15, 2005 Author Posted April 15, 2005 Yeah, he is wierd! For him to say "i'm just being honest"... honest about what? we are not even couple! LOL. I don't understand him... What did you mean by stuck a chord with him? I think he says things to try and make me jealous. I don't know why...but he does. When I encouraged him to date her, he was like she's "insignificant" and "I don't like her". Now I know why I broke up with him.
prisoner Posted April 15, 2005 Posted April 15, 2005 look, the amount of negative attention this person needs is overwhelming. he also has a mean streak ('insignificant' is a horrible word) that you need to stay away from. he may not even have an unresolved issue with you. he may literally be trying to get in to your head just for the fun of it. how long were you together? were you relieved when you broke up? were you sad? he is one to stay away from. those tactics are normally signs for very bad things. beyond manipulating your short term thinking there is a power thing that disturbed men experience when they feel rejected or betrayed. like when a guy dates someone on the rebound and breaks up with them quickly and horribly but only after deep manipulation and terror mixed with unhealthy romanticism? same thing here. be prepared to worry about his next gf. she may be in for a rough ride. stay away though. stay away
Author sad123 Posted April 15, 2005 Author Posted April 15, 2005 What do you mean by the above quote?
Author sad123 Posted April 15, 2005 Author Posted April 15, 2005 [color=red]like when a guy dates someone on the rebound and breaks up with them quickly and horribly but only after deep manipulation and terror mixed with unhealthy romanticism? same thing here. be prepared to worry about his next gf. she may be in for a rough ride. stay away though. stay away[/color] Prisioner, what do you mean by this?
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