Gloria25 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Ok, I've had one or two stalkers in my lifetime (that I know of)... But this latest creep who has been following me online and taking what he knows of me and using in real life - with his recent rant online calling me the "b" word has me worried. I mean, any guy who is sick enough to create some online persona to stalk a woman he knows in real life is capable of God knows what. I've seen too many of those shows where guys kill a woman they are attracted to, but for some reason can't bring themselves to date/love/or whatever to that woman.... And, I'm afraid this guy is escalating... I mean, something is not right about some guy who endlessly stares at you and is afraid to speak to you. I mean, some people have commented that staring at someone is unnerving cuz staring is a sign of aggression that animals display. Maybe some crazy voices are going around in his head that he must kill me so he can forget about me or something? Again, do I have a reason to be worried here? Was I wrong here to think this guy is just a harmless dude with a crush?
Methodical Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Ok, I've had one or two stalkers in my lifetime (that I know of)... But this latest creep who has been following me online and taking what he knows of me and using in real life - with his recent rant online calling me the "b" word has me worried. I mean, any guy who is sick enough to create some online persona to stalk a woman he knows in real life is capable of God knows what. I've seen too many of those shows where guys kill a woman they are attracted to, but for some reason can't bring themselves to date/love/or whatever to that woman.... And, I'm afraid this guy is escalating... I mean, something is not right about some guy who endlessly stares at you and is afraid to speak to you. I mean, some people have commented that staring at someone is unnerving cuz staring is a sign of aggression that animals display. Maybe some crazy voices are going around in his head that he must kill me so he can forget about me or something? Again, do I have a reason to be worried here? Was I wrong here to think this guy is just a harmless dude with a crush? Anyone who goes to the trouble of creating a fake persona for the sole purpose of stalking an individual is definitely not just some harmless dude. Furthermore, now that he is calling you derogatory names when he really doesn't know you is a sign of his unhealthy obsession escalating into a form of anger. Do you mind elaborating on this online rant that led to him calling you a b? And how is he using information on you in real life? 2
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Go the cops about this, they have specialized officers who are trained to deal with online stalking. If you feel you're not safe, or being followed when you're out then definitely go file a complaint about him.
Author Gloria25 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 Anyone who goes to the trouble of creating a fake persona for the sole purpose of stalking an individual is definitely not just some harmless dude. Furthermore, now that he is calling you derogatory names when he really doesn't know you is a sign of his unhealthy obsession escalating into a form of anger. Do you mind elaborating on this online rant that led to him calling you a b? And how is he using information on you in real life? I don't know what is truth here... I think we were posting on two message boards, and then when I met him in real life he put 2 + 2 together (I guess social media has made online connections a small world now a days)...But, according to him, he has been following me online for years... So, like if he starts a thread asking like suggestions on what to buy a girl, and I answer, he'll go out in real life and buy the thing I suggested - but not for me, but for another girl. Tonite he came here online and started with one of his rants on how I'm tormenting him and how I'm sick and when I responded calling him he sick one, he started calling me the "b" word. I've seen him in real life here and there and he doesn't want to speak to me - to the point where he runs away...but, then he like hides and stares in my direction and stuff on the regular. I don't know what he wants and I sure am not torturing him...he's seeing other women, so I don't know why he comes on here and rants about how I'm tormenting him or whatever. I already showed him I was open to seeing him and he said "no thanks"...So, I don't know what he wants and why he just won't give it a rest. There are times I would think he just likes the attention (because he stares at me and has no intention of dating me), but I'm seriously thinking something else is ticking in his head and after tonite, I believe I need to be concerned here...
Author Gloria25 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 Go the cops about this, they have specialized officers who are trained to deal with online stalking. If you feel you're not safe, or being followed when you're out then definitely go file a complaint about him. Well, what scares me is he may lie and say its me or something. I mean, of the few times I've spoken to him in person and asked him things, he'll look at me and lie in my face and be like "no, you didn't see me doing X"... So, if I go to the police, it'll probably turn into a "he said, she said"...especially since there is no romantic RL between us.
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Well, what scares me is he may lie and say its me or something. I mean, of the few times I've spoken to him in person and asked him things, he'll look at me and lie in my face and be like "no, you didn't see me doing X"... So, if I go to the police, it'll probably turn into a "he said, she said"...especially since there is no romantic RL between us. The cops can track if need be, what is happening online. If he is really doing stuff online about you, he will get caught. He can try to blame you all he wants to but they'll know it's him with proof. Why do you even speak to him if he's stalking you? Ignore him.
lgspot Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 If you feel you need to be concerned, then YOU NEED TO BE CONCERNED!!! Notify the police as previously suggested.
Author Gloria25 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 The cops can track if need be, what is happening online. If he is really doing stuff online about you, he will get caught. He can try to blame you all he wants to but they'll know it's him with proof. Why do you even speak to him if he's stalking you? Ignore him. I go through my bouts where I ignore him cuz I'm tired of this feeding his ego and dude has no intentions of dating me... I've also pondered if I'm dealing with some online jerk and not the guy I know in real life...or that there's two people here online following me (i.e. him and the online jerk)... But, after tonite I'm leaning towards this being "one" person - and it IS the guy I know in real life...AND, something's really wrong in the head with this guy.
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 You say "here" and "here online" a few times. Are you saying this guy is posting on LS too?
gaius Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 If you're talking about the same guy you thought was him before then it's not him. =/ I think your vagina is playing tricks on your mind.
gaius Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 You're kinda screwed at this point Gloria, because you gave a guy who's not used to a lot of attention a lot of attention. =/ I don't even save messages from some women I've seen naked before, let alone one who has me confused with someone else. Maybe you enjoy the dance on some level, it's non threatening drama that's fun, but we're not talking about a guy who lives across the street from you.
loveweary11 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 A prime example of when NOT to call police. Police don't help anyone who calls them. They would end up bagging both of them for false report or some other bs. Women who are quick to tattle: Learn to solve the problems in your life that you create on your own. Better yet, don't create these problems you have to run to the police for in the first place. PS: Speaking to a large number of LS posters who always tell people to get cops involved. Not to Gloria.
Methodical Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 (edited) There's 2 sides to every story. You folks will just blindly believe her side of the story just because she is a woman. The bottom line is she is projecting her own actions on to me. She has harassed me before. I have all the proof I need because I have saved all private messages. Anyone who looks at those messages objectively and without any personal bias against me would see that she initiated the first contact. She is the one who initially asked to talk to me on the phone or FaceTime or some other chat program. I declined all of them. Then at some point I asked her to stop sending me messages. She would honor my request for a little while and then start sending me messages again. So now she goes on to falsely accuse me of stalking just because I didn't want to talk to her on FaceTime. I should be the one reporting her for harassment. It is not right to just accept one side of the story when the other party is not here to defend himself. This is her way to plot revenge against me for declining her offer to talk to her outside of this place. I've got all the evidence I need to back up her initiating the contacts in private. I didn't think women would plot revenge for declining invitations for dates or sex. Yes I also have proof where she said "Why don't you have sex with me? Life is too short to be punishing yourself". I told her that it was out of the question. It is always good to record what people say so that they can't later deny that they said it. Your actions and response to this post show otherwise. Why would you post on her thread if you are trying to avoid her???? You've obviously just created an account and with a post count of 3, all on this thread, seems suspicious. Edited April 5, 2015 by Methodical
mammasita Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 So the "not stalker" somehow knows you post here and comes here to specifically prove that he is not a stalker. Interesting.
gaius Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Nah mammasita, he's been a common troll around here for a while. Pretending to be terminally ill, etc etc. I guess Gloria just got caught up in it somehow and started thinking he might be a guy that lives across the street. But it's just a troll doing it's troll thing. I normally wouldn't even comment on it but hopefully this thread puts that idea to rest for good. If you want to keep thinking that and looking for a reaction after this I won't stop you Gloria. It's not a genuine stalking situation for anyone getting worried though. 1
William Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Folks, simply report our hydras and move on. They clap with glee when they can get a rise out of folks. Why let them win? No posts deleted other than those of the hydra.
Author Gloria25 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 Nah mammasita, he's been a common troll around here for a while. Pretending to be terminally ill, etc etc. I guess Gloria just got caught up in it somehow and started thinking he might be a guy that lives across the street. But it's just a troll doing it's troll thing. I normally wouldn't even comment on it but hopefully this thread puts that idea to rest for good. If you want to keep thinking that and looking for a reaction after this I won't stop you Gloria. It's not a genuine stalking situation for anyone getting worried though. I appreciate everyone's suggestions, support, and advice... Please note that I don't get any thrill from posting here - especially about this situation. Also, I post here to give/get advice and enjoy chatting with other people in this virtual setting. Not here to get a rise out of no one and/or troll. I came to LS years ago and posted briefly because I spent more time on another MB. I came back here on LS and the other MB to post about someone and that's when the "serial catfish" seemed to notice my posts. Please note that it was "him" who initiated the contact with me here and asked if I might be someone he knew in real life. I, like pretty much many catfish victims, thought that I knew who was behind the computer and did private messages back/forth with him. I ultimately asked him to speak to me on Skype/FaceTime/Messenger so that I can see for sure who it is, because like most catfishes he did send me pictures, but who knows if he stole them from someone else. I've read online that the way to catch a catfish is to meet them in person and/or request a video chat in real time. Well, he refused. I have no interest in him, I thought he was someone else cuz he reached out to me here and that's why I pushed for him to chat with me in real time. So, again, I don't know what's going on here. I don't know if I know this "serial catfish" in real life, if there's two or one people here, etc. All I know is that this has got to stop and that something is really wrong with this guy. I believe I can defend and protect myself well w/o police getting involved, but am concerned cuz these stalker types - maybe cuz they spend so much time monitoring your movements, seem to always "one-up" their victims. So, I guess I've answered my own question - which is, I need to start locking my doors more and being aware of my surroundings just incase this fool decides to do something stupid. I already had someone messing with my garden around the time I began speaking to him, so him calling me the "b" word online makes me wonder if he's escalating to do something stupid more than just messing with my garden.
autumnnight Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Here is what I would suggest: 1. Screen shots 2. Get a subscription to an IP tracker 3. Research stalking, harassment, and cyber laws in your state and their state 4. Document and make hard copies 5. Go TODAY and get your computer checked out, am ng with your phone 6. Talk to an attorney 7. Talk to the police 8. Give both of them copies of any evidence 9. Be fully open with a supportive, trustworthy circle 10. Find out everything you can about THEM 11. Stay calm and have everything prepared Lawmakers' tolerance for cyber crimes, even so called noble ones, is wearing thinner and thinner. As they say on the Godfather: Go to the mattresses
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