leaders2003 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 first i want to introduce my self im a 20 years old guy from tunisia and im in a relationship with an americain girl since 13 sempember 2014 and she is 21 years old now and we love each other every thing was perfect from the first day and we made our plans for the future till last mouth when i noticed that she is always busy and when we chat i feel like she is cold and she even dont want to skype anymore i think i will lose her if i dont fix this pliiiiiiiz help me
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Sorry but LDRs don't last, and yours has run it's course. If you can't physically be with her, there is not enough emotional connection to keep her interest. The only way is to go see her and if things are good you need to live where she is....the reality is you can no longer keep it long distance anymore.
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Have you met in person? If not this is a fantasy. Do you have any meaningful ability to meet in the short term? If not, this is not sustainable. Sorry. 1
Author leaders2003 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 we already made plans to meet in about4 mounth from now
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 we already made plans to meet in about4 mounth from now Sound like it's too late for that. It's possible she met someone locally.
Author leaders2003 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 im sure she didnt but i feel that she dont believe that we can make these work
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 im sure she didnt but i feel that she dont believe that we can make these work Well how can it? Immigration to the US is difficult....could take years. 1
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 no more than 1yearHah that's what you think....a lot has changed since 911. I can't even get a temp work visa even tho I work for a US owned company.
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 thats not the same case for me By the looks of things you don't have a year.
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 You need to be there with her now. Words are not going to help.
Author leaders2003 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 i know but thing are not that easy and she wont understand
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Since you have plans to meet in 4 months, keep talking to her. Send her sweet texts. Send her romantic snail mail letters. Send her some flowers if you can. After you meet in person, then you can decide if it's worth the effort to deal with the US immigration issues if your plan is to come here. According to the latest visa bulletin I read (April 2015), they are starting to process the applications from 2007 now. Your process will definitely take more than 1 year. 1
Author leaders2003 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 thank you for everything and wich everything will be okay with us
katiegrl Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 (edited) I don't understand "relationships" developed over the internet...let alone "falling in love" with that person that way. Ugh. You are in love with a fantasy...and hell how do you know she's even real? Okay so you Skype but so what? In REAL LIFE, of which you know NOTHING about, other than what she *chooses* to tell you...she could be a completely different person! Do you get the show Catfish in Tunisia? If so, watch it! Your whole relationship could be one big scam.... It's more common than you think! She is pulling away because it's getting closer to the time you are *supposed* to meet, and since she has NO intention of allowing that to happen, she starting to pull away now. Look dude, you are 20 years old, move on and find someone local. "Falling in love" with a fantasy person who lives halfway across the world who you don't even know for sure is REAL...is just silliness... Sorry this is so blunt, but come on now. Wake up to reality. She is halfway across the world, you have never met in person, she may be (and probably is) a complete scammer for all you know. Take off the blinders and start seeing what's there (which nothing but a fantasy)...instead of what you want and hope to be there. Move on. Edited April 5, 2015 by katiegrl
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