Never losing temper again

[Anela]

I don't get the vibe the latter is the case with Ser. Just that she looses her temper occasionally and feels bad afterward. And I get that too sometimes. Even here, I can't bring myself to come back to a thread I've been too honest and forthright in. But I've also kept my mouth shut before and it ends up being better when you just let it go.

 

I think Anela and Tarameres thing is more depression related, I'm unhappy with myself kind of thing. And Anela, sorry to sabotage you and be toxic, but I think you're just fine as you are too.

 

Thanks, but that isn't it. I was saying that living in that tempestuous environment was toxic, and I'm still dealing with the after-effects.

[Haydn]

I'm not depressed, gaius. Though the fact that you think I'm vulnerable would explain why I'm amongst the various nonplussed women you target on here with your "courtship" PMs.

 

'Ted and Ralph'

[johan]

I'm not depressed, gaius. Though the fact that you think I'm vulnerable would explain why I'm amongst the various nonplussed women you target on here with your "courtship" PMs.

 

What's this?? Why is this the first I'm hearing about this? How long has this been going on??

 

Now I'm going to lose my temper.

[Taramere]

Edit...(I went off topic). Sorry again, SerCay.

Edited April 9, 2015 by Taramere

[DrReplyInRhymes]

This thread is quite enlightening, and a bit scary, I will definitely admit.

I recently became aware of how angry I've been, without any real control over it.

I go from 0-100 in a blink of an eye, to the point where I see red,

After that, the target of my rage better simply act dead.

 

This has carried on however to the relationships with my fam and friends,

To the point of not being able to communicate and being negative to no end.

Snaggletooth's post really put a visual representation of my current demise,

Thank you for these posts everyone, intentional or not, they've been helpful and wise.

[gaius]

I'm not depressed, gaius. Though the fact that you think I'm vulnerable would explain why I'm amongst the various nonplussed women you target on here with your "courtship" PMs.

I was trying not to embarass you, but you know as well as I do I've never even asked you out. =/I flirt with you occasionally cause I do have genuine affection for you and you get mad at me and start stuff in threads if I say something mildly flirty to someone else instead of engaging with you. But then you seem to get mad at me if I flirt with you too. So there's no real winning with you. Which is usually a pretty clear sign of depression.

 

Like usual, I'm in one thread in the morning and you show up right after me. You like me and my attention on some level and that's fine, and I'm sorry you're mad that I've occasionally said flirty things to women who aren't you here and met a few of them, but that's what happens if you're gonna be wishy washy. What am I, supposed to sit around and never talk to anyone else until Taramere decides to come around? I've never taken advantage of anyone vulnerable here. =/ I've been taken advantage of though. People keep trying to use that situation against me but they've never asked me what actually happened so nobody really knows. You should have just asked me about it if it induced this kind of anger in you to want to strike at me publicly for it. Instead of bottling it up to the point you ream me like that for telling you you should be yourself.

 

Despite all this bile I keep having to walk into today I still don't think you should change yourself Taramere. And you haven't ruined your relationship with me. How's that for sabotage and toxicity? See Ser, there are guys out there who will accept you for who you are. You just have to find one.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I was trying not to embarass you, but you know as well as I do I've never even asked you out. =/I flirt with you occasionally cause I do have genuine affection for you and you get mad at me and start stuff in threads if I say something mildly flirty to someone else instead of engaging with you. But then you seem to get mad at me if I flirt with you too. So there's no real winning with you. Which is usually a pretty clear sign of depression.

 

Like usual, I'm in one thread in the morning and you show up right after me. You like me and my attention on some level and that's fine, and I'm sorry you're mad that I've occasionally said flirty things to women who aren't you here and met a few of them, but that's what happens if you're gonna be wishy washy. What am I, supposed to sit around and never talk to anyone else until Taramere decides to come around? I've never taken advantage of anyone vulnerable here. =/ I've been taken advantage of though. People keep trying to use that situation against me but they've never asked me what actually happened so nobody really knows. You should have just asked me about it if it induced this kind of anger in you to want to strike at me publicly for it. Instead of bottling it up to the point you ream me like that for telling you you should be yourself.

 

Despite all this bile I keep having to walk into today I still don't think you should change yourself Taramere. And you haven't ruined your relationship with me. How's that for sabotage and toxicity? See Ser, there are guys out there who will accept you for who you are. You just have to find one.

 

EDIT: Nevermind, I do not want to get in the middle of whatever is going on here. You guys should just be thankful you compliment each other more than you know. BTW - I know none of you except recognizing a few usernames, including both you gaius, and taramere, who over the years have given me rock-solid advice on a previous account. I divulged too much personal information on that account, so I have elected to never use that account again.

Edited April 10, 2015 by DrReplyInRhymes
Took my question out.

[Taramere]

I was trying not to embarass you, but you know as well as I do I've never even asked you out. =/I flirt with you occasionally cause I do have genuine affection for you and you get mad at me and start stuff in threads if I say something mildly flirty to someone else instead of engaging with you. But then you seem to get mad at me if I flirt with you too. So there's no real winning with you. Which is usually a pretty clear sign of depression.

 

Gaius, my irritation with you is quite simple. The fact that you continue to send me unsolicited PMs (despite me not answering them), seem to harbour some notion that we'll eventually meet (I can assure you we won't) is a little discomfiting. Drivel like this, which you sent by PM...

 

I just got the only woman here I want anywhere close to the amount I want you to agree to meet me. And it isn't even that close but I'm still doing a victory dance. It's not Ànn Coulter, just a disclaimer.

 

You wouldn't believe all the stuff that's been going on this past week. Not just with me but with the board in general.

 

As far as "I can't win" goes. It's fairly simple really. Don't send me any more PMs. Keep your feelings of affection to yourself, as they're not reciprocated and by this point your expression of them makes me a tad uncomfortable.

 

Follow these basic rules, don't try to engage with me, don't try to analyse me...and while I hesitate to use the word "win" in this particular context, you will find that I am suddenly magically absent from any gaius related drama.

[Haydn]

Keeping one's temper in check is like an away trip to Millwall when the kiddies wake up before us and 'make things' But in RS I really don't want to be berated for leaving my socks' in various places around the house.

[johan]

Keeping one's temper in check is like an away trip to Millwall when the kiddies wake up before us and 'make things' But in RS I really don't want to be berated for leaving my socks' in various places around the house.

 

Exactly. Millwall.

 

Just reading that made me smash my iPad.

Edited April 10, 2015 by johan

[gaius]

Gaius, my irritation with you is quite simple. The fact that you continue to send me unsolicited PMs (despite me not answering them), seem to harbour some notion that we'll eventually meet (I can assure you we won't) is a little discomfiting. Drivel like this, which you sent by PM...

 

As far as "I can't win" goes. It's fairly simple really. Don't send me any more PMs. Keep your feelings of affection to yourself, as they're not reciprocated and by this point your expression of them makes me a tad uncomfortable.

 

Follow these basic rules, don't try to engage with me, don't try to analyse me...and while I hesitate to use the word "win" in this particular context, you will find that I am suddenly magically absent from any gaius related drama.

Oh, you mean this is the one time you don't want me to come and get you after you get mad at me over some trivial offense? =/ What have we done this twice before , where you get mad at me, don't even tell me why, stop talking, start busting my nuts instead and I have to woo you back somehow. I guess this time the offense was too terrible, talking to another woman when we're not even dating. At least now I know why you've been so pissed off at me the last few months.

 

If you really don't want to talk to me then don't talk to me. Put me back on ignore like you used to before I started flirting with you. Don't give me **** on the board when I say something to someone else, or yell at me when I say find Ann Coulter attractive, because shes not like you, or reply to you when you pop up in a thread for the 5th time in a row right after me. Or you can PM me and I'll tell you what actually happened in the situation you seem to be upset about. But you're making the third wheels jealous and this isn't a thread about you and I. It's up to you, and I'll miss you if you choose the former but hopefully we're done here.

 

Sorry SerCay, but at least it was a demonstration of how women with a temper can still maintain relationships. If they so choose.