dvx Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Long story short, I'm on week 2 of NC with my ex that dumped me a month ago. I love her and want her back and I'm wishing she would call. But what happened today was that my ex-ex girlfriend called me. Who i haven't heard of since last summer. Oh i don't want nothing with this girl even though we were together for 4 years. I want this new one to come back.
Jonp219 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Long story short, I'm on week 2 of NC with my ex that dumped me a month ago. I love her and want her back and I'm wishing she would call. But what happened today was that my ex-ex girlfriend called me. Who i haven't heard of since last summer. Oh i don't want nothing with this girl even though we were together for 4 years. I want this new one to come back. Why did she call?
Author dvx Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Why did she call? Not sure, didn't pick up. She has called 3 times today. Anways, funny that she comes back after 7 months and after i totally forgot about her. I guess it's true, they come back when you reach the point of not wanting them too. I just hope this new one won't wait 7 months. Oh damn i wish it was her name that called today. But I'm only on 2 week NC so maybe she will reach out.
Author dvx Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Damn that Mr nice guy syndrome I'm suffering from. It has made me get dumped 2 times and probably will get me dumped again if i don't heal and change.
Nineoak Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Long story short, I'm on week 2 of NC with my ex that dumped me a month ago. I love her and want her back and I'm wishing she would call. But what happened today was that my ex-ex girlfriend called me. Who i haven't heard of since last summer. Oh i don't want nothing with this girl even though we were together for 4 years. I want this new one to come back. Perhaps she found out you are freshly single again and wants to reconnect
Jonp219 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Not sure, didn't pick up. She has called 3 times today. Anways, funny that she comes back after 7 months and after i totally forgot about her. I guess it's true, they come back when you reach the point of not wanting them too. I just hope this new one won't wait 7 months. Oh damn i wish it was her name that called today. But I'm only on 2 week NC so maybe she will reach out. Sounds like you're indifferent towards her, you should pick up next time she calls lol How long did it take you to get into a relationship with your ex after leaving your ex-ex?
Author dvx Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Perhaps she found out you are freshly single again and wants to reconnect I kept the new girl private and we weren't official yet so i doubt she knew about the new girl. Sounds like you're indifferent towards her, you should pick up next time she calls lol How long did it take you to get into a relationship with your ex after leaving your ex-ex? Ex-ex left me on July 2014, i met the new girl end of october 2014. Been dumped both times, never been a dumper yet. Damn the mr nice guy syndrome.
Jonp219 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I kept the new girl private and we weren't official yet so i doubt she knew about the new girl. Ex-ex left me on July 2014, i met the new girl end of october 2014. Been dumped both times, never been a dumper yet. Damn the mr nice guy syndrome. Start loving yourself bro. Remember the passage that you sent me in my other thread? It said to love yourself and take care of your needs. It's the best way to combat the Mr Nice Guy Syndrome. Take it day-by-day.
Jimmyjackson Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Not sure, didn't pick up. She has called 3 times today. Anways, funny that she comes back after 7 months and after i totally forgot about her. I guess it's true, they come back when you reach the point of not wanting them too. I just hope this new one won't wait 7 months. Oh damn i wish it was her name that called today. But I'm only on 2 week NC so maybe she will reach out. Were you NC for 7 months also?
Author dvx Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 Start loving yourself bro. Remember the passage that you sent me in my other thread? It said to love yourself and take care of your needs. It's the best way to combat the Mr Nice Guy Syndrome. Take it day-by-day. It's hard to carry on, when no one loves you I wish id read that book earlier plus learned what i know now, then i would never lose her. Were you NC for 7 months also? Yes but this girl is the reason why i can't have a normal relationship. And now she tries to reach out again to mess me up even more.
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Damn that Mr nice guy syndrome I'm suffering from. It has made me get dumped 2 times and probably will get me dumped again if i don't heal and change. You better believe it!!! Have you read Dr Glover's book??
Author dvx Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 You better believe it!!! Have you read Dr Glover's book?? Nope, what is it about?
ravfour4 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Same thing happened to me! My ex ex of 2.5 years broke up with me, we got back together and then she cheated on me. I had been thinking of breaking up with her, but she did it first and being my first love, it rocked my world. Once I found out she was cheating (saw her texts), I never talked to her again. About a year after that I met my second serious gf and we dated for 4 years, she was an upgrade in every single way, I never looked back. Now that me and my new gf broke up, my ex is hitting me up and being flirty, talking about old memories and apologizng for what she did...even though she's still with the guy she cheated on me with and they're about to get a house. My new ex-gf saw the message and I told her "hey, this will be you in a year" since she did the same thing to me my ex did, although she did it while we were apart but still living together. Funny thing is, while the relationships were completely different, the ends were super similar. Both times I was frustrated and thinking about breaking up with them, but then they did it to me and it devastated me. Less so this time because I was more prepared, but still....Both times they told me they weren't seeing anyone and both times I found out they were...
NC-Thomas Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 (edited) Nope, what is it about? I think mntbiker means "No more Mr. Nice Guy", its a book about being a nice guy and how to stop doing in basically. I don't consider myself a nice guy, but I think you need to love yourself first and value yourself before going into another relationship. It's YOU that comes first, so you need to be and act like that in real life. After I got dumped about 4 times in my life I thought to myself last month: im not going into a relationship before I value myself more then the person I am going to be with; learn to be happy alone is what many people NEED to go for. Edited April 5, 2015 by NC-Thomas
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Yup, that is correct!! And, I'm by no means an expert, but I see so much of these types of patterns and behaviors in so, so many posts on here. Including myself. I highly recommend you read this book at least twice. It's a quick read, but spot on!!
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 (edited) I think you need to love yourself first and value yourself before going into another relationship... learn to be happy alone is what many people NEED to go for. Exactly. And, this is no easy task for some. I know for myself, I spent a lifetime feeling the exact opposite of this and didn't even know / realize it until recently when I really started digging deep. It's a whole new way at looking at life and it takes a lot of work and practice. This is precisely what Dr Glover talks about. It may open your eyes and allow you to begin to develop a new outlook. Therapy can also be of great assistance on this journey!! Edited April 5, 2015 by mtnbiker3000
No Limit Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 There's a meme which says "GF breaks up - ex ex GF desperate to hook up". Might be the perfect description of your situation.
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