Kayakingking Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 A couple of hours ago I just told my boyfriend that I need some time alone. My boyfriend and I get along so well, and we love each other so much. We both go to the same college, and we even discussed our future, marriage etc. It has been 4 months since he asked me to be his girlfriend, but there have been some issues. It is extremely hard for me to express myself. For most of people it is not a hard thing to do, but for me, it is. This is also a reason why I find any types of relationships very difficult in general. From the beginning, he has been degrading me. While it is already very difficult for me to talk about stuffs, he would make it even harder for me to start talking about stuffs. He would ignore me and degrade me so much that everything I say is invalid. We only get along so well only when we are having sex and literally do nothing. Whenever we try to have a conversation, everything upsets me. We don't really have a real conversation. We would talk, but we only talk about really nothing. We never go on a date as well, even though I don't really care. It just seems so hard to be around someone who depreciates me.
darkmoon Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 (edited) you are doing the right thing, take him a lot less seriously, he has issues, which i expect he will deny pridefully, watch out if you drop him fully i hope you notify somebody bigger/more senior than him, i do not wish it on you but he might get nasty/ier, it is clearly in his nature as you describe him, you were not to know him til you dated him, he is not your fault find a nicer person next time, and decide to be more talkative Edited April 4, 2015 by darkmoon 1
veggirl Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 why are college students discussing marriage in a 4 month old relationship? why were you discussing marriage w/ a guy who degrades you?
mammasita Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 That doesn't sound like a relationship at all. No dates, no conversation....just sex. You're better off without "just sex" from someone who does nothing but degrades you.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 If it's this bad only four months in, imagine how bad it'll be in a year. He degrades and ignores you and won't take you on dates? If the only time he's nice to you is during sex, then that's clearly all he's interested in. Good job dropping him, move on and get someone who's nice ALL the time.
NoLeafClover Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 How is he degrading you? I see a communication problem here. If you know he doesn't talk much or doesn't talk with you period and you sleep with him still that is not degrading. You choose to be in that situation. Sounds like you are trying to find a reason to break up l.
HurtGator Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 A couple of hours ago I just told my boyfriend that I need some time alone. My boyfriend and I get along so well, and we love each other so much. We both go to the same college, and we even discussed our future, marriage etc. It has been 4 months since he asked me to be his girlfriend, but there have been some issues. It is extremely hard for me to express myself. For most of people it is not a hard thing to do, but for me, it is. This is also a reason why I find any types of relationships very difficult in general. From the beginning, he has been degrading me. While it is already very difficult for me to talk about stuffs, he would make it even harder for me to start talking about stuffs. He would ignore me and degrade me so much that everything I say is invalid. We only get along so well only when we are having sex and literally do nothing. Whenever we try to have a conversation, everything upsets me. We don't really have a real conversation. We would talk, but we only talk about really nothing. We never go on a date as well, even though I don't really care. It just seems so hard to be around someone who depreciates me. You say you have trouble communicating and that you have trouble with relationships in general. Can you give very specific examples of how he degrades you?
CarrieT Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 We only get along so well only when we are having sex and literally do nothing. Whenever we try to have a conversation, everything upsets me. This is not a relationship. This is You being a f*ck toy for his pleasure and nothing else. Please, please, please break up with him. You deserve so much better.
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