Jet96 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Many people older and younger and younger than me that aren't one thinks it is . Is it ? 1
cessna Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Nothing wrong with it in the slightest. Honestly. Anyway half the people your age who claim they've had sex are lying to fit in. 2
amyO Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 It's completely normal and don't let anyone else make you feel like it is a bad thing. I lost mine at 19 to my best friend and first love. However, i still felt like i wasn't really "ready" , but looking back, i am happy I had it with the best guy. Don't rush something like that to just get it over. You have plenty of time to meet a wonderful person. 1
carhill Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Is there anything wrong with being a virgin at 18 ? IMO, pretty unremarkable, though don't be surprised if people attempt to make more of it than it is. The cool thing is, no one will ever know unless you want them to; only you will. 1
TigerCub Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Many people older and younger and younger than me that aren't one thinks it is . Is it ? Who cares what they think? There is nothing wrong with it at all. Take your time and find someone that you love to share that with.
spiderowl Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Sounds completely normal to me. It's not a race, it should just be a natural event in your life that happens when the time is right. That time is going to be different for different people. Everyone has their own particular set of circumstances and requirements before feeling things are right for them.
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Being 18 and never had a GF before is way worse than being a virgin.
No Limit Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Almost 19 and a virgin. Well, although it's different rules for girls...
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 I don't know any guy that would date a virgin. They date for the sex, not the wait.
ZA Dater Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 I'd only start worrying if you get to the 30 and haven't had any....
kendahke Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Many people older and younger and younger than me that aren't one thinks it is . Is it ? there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. You should be commended. And it really doesn't matter what others think--I'll bet they aren't all that happy in what they've got after having giving up theirs. 1
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 In a young girl's brain, a guy that is still a virgin = lacks confidence being with girls... Confidence is the key ingredient to attracting a GF. (btw I was happy to get it over with. No regret.)
Author Jet96 Posted April 6, 2015 Author Posted April 6, 2015 Being 18 and never had a GF before is way worse than being a virgin. yeah that's also another situation im in .
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 No, not at all. In my group few people lost it before 17-18, certainly nobody went for it at 16 or below. I was 17, I have a couple friends who are virgins still at 26. The right person isn't gonna care your previous sexual experience, they are just gonna care about the experiences you two can have together.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 No. I was 22 when I lost mine. I did feel like I was kinda behind though. Like you said everyone else was surprised I hadn't yet lol.
smackie9 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 yeah that's also another situation im in . Ya got to do activities and social activities that forces you to take you out of your comfort zone. This is how you gain confidence in yourself....you need to build your self esteem. A GF isn't going to fall into your lap, you need to work on putting yourself out there and get over your fears. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 Ya got to do activities and social activities that forces you to take you out of your comfort zone. This is how you gain confidence in yourself....you need to build your self esteem. A GF isn't going to fall into your lap, you need to work on putting yourself out there and get over your fears. Good advice. When I was younger and less confident than I am now, I would go bar hopping/clubbing with friends and slowly work on upping my confidence talking with people, and reading social cues. I remember one night I was dancing (quite terribly I might add but everyone was probably wasted so it didn't matter), and ended up dancing with this one really hot girl and we grinded a bunch. I can still remember the dumbstruck look on my friends' faces lol. Night life is a good way to get over social anxieties, mostly because there is alcohol involved which is the best social lubricant/training wheels there is. Just don't get too carried away. Having a friend/wingman is important too.
Redhead14 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 (edited) Many people older and younger and younger than me that aren't one thinks it is . Is it ? It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! What do you think and feel about it? How could it possibly be wrong? It is what it is. There is no time line for "losing one's virginity". In fact, anyone who says that there is something wrong with being a virgin at 18 has bigger problems than the virgin. And by the way, a woman doesn't lose her virginity. She gives it to whomever she feels is worthy of it and she feels comfortable with and knows well enough to want to do that with them. It is not a race. Edited April 6, 2015 by Redhead14 1
Vintage79 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 The average age for a guy is 17, for a girl ~17.5. As such, 18 is just a hair above average - meaning that probably 40%+ of people are still virgins at 18 - that's ~1.6 million people your age in the US. Basically, it's perfectly normal. Moreover, the average age is increasing, meaning more people are waiting. Moreover, after you do it a few times, you realize that it's not really a life defining experience unless you get, or get someone, pregnant.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 6, 2015 Posted April 6, 2015 About the only thing you lose the first time you have sex (as a guy) is the social stigma of being inexperienced because you're a virgin. It really isn't all that special, and generally sucks. But afterwards you feel like you just conquered the world. I think Society unfairly puts a lot of pressure on people to have sex early, and if you're over 18 and still haven't "done the deed" there's a sense of shame about it - more for guys than girls I think. I know when I lost mine at 22 I was relieved, and afterwards felt more confident since I didn't feel inferior in life experiences to the rest of my peers/friends.
AVarma Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 About the only thing you lose the first time you have sex (as a guy) is the social stigma of being inexperienced because you're a virgin. It really isn't all that special, and generally sucks. But afterwards you feel like you just conquered the world. I think Society unfairly puts a lot of pressure on people to have sex early, and if you're over 18 and still haven't "done the deed" there's a sense of shame about it - more for guys than girls I think. I know when I lost mine at 22 I was relieved, and afterwards felt more confident since I didn't feel inferior in life experiences to the rest of my peers/friends. If you don't mind me asking why didn't you just hire an escort rather than wait till you were 22?
fitnessfan365 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I'd only start worrying if you get to the 30 and haven't had any.... Isn't that the case with you?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) If you don't mind me asking why didn't you just hire an escort rather than wait till you were 22? I thought about it, but was too scared to go through with it. I've seen escorts before though, but didn't lose my V Card to one. Even if I had though, it wouldn't make me feel any different. I think most Guys/Girls lose their V Card before they're 20... Not saying this is the case for everyone, but the majority. Edited May 31, 2015 by barcode88
TunaCat Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 There's nothing wrong with it at all. As long as you are okay with it, that's all that matters. 1
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