Sunshine1234 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I was in a relationship for over year and I promised was always to be open and honest in together forever. Unfortunately our relationship went through a rocky point and I was willing to work it out and he just kept things bottled up and didn't contact me for a month. I finally confronted him and he said he needs to work through things but thinks I should move on. It's been tough since the middle of February and it just ended for good a few days ago. I am completely devastated and felt like I've been grieving the relationship since February. I'm tired of all the triggers that make me sad I have put a lot of the things away that he gave me and I am not contacting him. I know I need to move forward but I'm sick and tired of all of the emotions triggers and crying when I think of him. Any advice would be amazing thank you.
Seeker12 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Honestly best to put and hide all the triggers away, block all contact and forms of communication with your ex and his mates etc. You as a normal human being, will have a lot of curiosity as to whats happening in his life, dont. I have been there, 7 months after a mutual break up - 3 months into proper NC - one trigger set my recovery time to 1 week (thats her mate slipping to me shes found another guy) - and im just about getting there, it hurts like hell dont put yourself through it.
Author Sunshine1234 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 Thanks for your reply. I have put away all the physical reminders and have made no contact at all. It's just when I get really emotional and think of all the great thoughts when we were together that makes me sad. I just wish there was a way to flip those thoughts around and get them out of my mind so I can move on quicker.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 5, 2015 Posted April 5, 2015 Oh, that is the WORST! I don't have any advice to help with that, other than what you're already doing. It will get better, you won't have so damn many random things reminding you of your ex, but it will take some time. I just let myself be sad for a sec and move on.
Author Sunshine1234 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Posted April 5, 2015 I've been doing a lot of writing which also helps. If anyone has any ideas of different things to try different things to do when I'm out to get my thought process over him and excited about life I would appreciate it
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