Navajo46 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 About 3 weeks ago I picked up my motorcycle from my exes shed. She was letting me keep it there and told me I could wait til summer to get it if needed and I told her I would rather get it sooner than later. I have been NC since then. I left her stuff in the shed with a $100 for letting me use the shed. We mutually broke up and she started seeing someone right away after a couple of weeks. So apparently today she finally got her stuff out of the shed and saw the $100 and texted me to say that she just got her stuff and what was the money for. I politely replied that for me it was the right thing to do. She said I didn't have to do that but thanks and I simply replied I know I didn't but knew it would help. She said thanks again. That's just the kind of guy I am... it was a toxic relationship but I still cared for her and there was no cheating on either part etc. You know, I have come to the realization over the past few weeks finally that we will never get back together and she has moved on nor would I want to get back together. So the contact today was not that big of a deal for me. I have fleeting moments of missing her still but not the heart pounding "oh my god she contacted me", because I know it was to genuinely find something out rather than trying to mess with me or breadcrumbs etc. It kind of lifted the final weight off my shoulders because I thought at some point she might contact me about that but now there will be no reason to contact down the line now which is good and I have no intention of doing so.
marcelo.santos Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I think that its too early to say things like "I dont want to get back" or believe that she will not contact you again in the future. You never know if you will miss her tomorrow or if she will miss you and contact you in the future. Anyway, keep the good work doing NC and moving on. Hope you continue well like you are today.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I'm glad you got some sort of peace out of the contact. I'm where you are with MY ex, accepted that it's over and don't want to get back together (ok 99% of the time) but just missing him sometimes. I was thinking about that earlier today, actually. We were friends for almost a year before we started dating, and I miss hanging out with him. I've got one more time that I'm going to break NC, when our baby's born, then I'm done. I'm kind of nervous, about how you were waiting for your ex to find the money and call.
Author Navajo46 Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 I'm kind of nervous, about how you were waiting for your ex to find the money and call. What exactly do you mean? I actually figured that she found it weeks ago and just decided not to say anything. She actually texted me that day I was over there three weeks ago to ask if I stopped at her place and I confirmed that I did and I did not want to break NC further by asking if she got the money. I didn't do it for that reason to have her contact me believe it or not... some people might but that was not the intention. I genuinely just left it cause I felt it was the right thing to do. I'm just not that kind of person to try something just to get them to get a hold of you... it would be cheap and mean nothing. What I meant was that it did not surprise me that she contacted me for that reason though. The whole point to this though was that breaking NC today for me was not that big of a deal because all of the hope has gone. All of the realizations of us getting back together are gone for multiple different reasons. The missing her part will continue to fade but it really is just missing the good moments that we had. That is not the total person that she is.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 What exactly do you mean? I actually figured that she found it weeks ago and just decided not to say anything. She actually texted me that day I was over there three weeks ago to ask if I stopped at her place and I confirmed that I did and I did not want to break NC further by asking if she got the money. I didn't do it for that reason to have her contact me believe it or not... some people might but that was not the intention. I genuinely just left it cause I felt it was the right thing to do. I'm just not that kind of person to try something just to get them to get a hold of you... it would be cheap and mean nothing. What I meant was that it did not surprise me that she contacted me for that reason though. The whole point to this though was that breaking NC today for me was not that big of a deal because all of the hope has gone. All of the realizations of us getting back together are gone for multiple different reasons. The missing her part will continue to fade but it really is just missing the good moments that we had. That is not the total person that she is. I apologize if you got the wrong idea of my meaning...I was referring to when you said it kind of lifted the final weight off your shoulders. I meant that I could kind of relate because I have one more interaction left with my ex and I'll feel better when mine is done too. I believe that you didn't do it to provoke a response from her. That's all.
Author Navajo46 Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 I see sorry for misunderstanding, and I know that feeling all to well. I hope things go well for you and kind of sets you free. 1
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