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I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months and I've noticed he tends to always jump the gun assuming something when it's not the case. For example, my parents and I had Shakey's Pizza, they have chicken, pizza, and mojo french fry potatoes.

 

After eating our leftovers of that meal I was about to eat a french fry when I noticed it's shape was literally a heart! I thought that was so funny so I texted that guy about it and he replies with "I see you found love, you which to date still?"

 

WHY would you think I found love with someone else, when I am NOT dating anyone else and I even removed my dating profiles etc. This guy tends to do this sort of thing a lot on and off thinking I am dating someone else when I am not.

 

What should I do?

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He sounds insecure.

 

Do you want to be with an insecure person?

 

I've found that trying to reassure people like that doesn't ever work too well.

 

Have you ever told him that it bothers you when he says things like that or makes assumptions?

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I did tell him, about this situation and not to think this way I am only interested in him. He hasn't replied back so I am just going to leave him alone for the day.

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He sounds about as insecure as the borders of Afghanistan.

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I'm curious ..

 

 

OP, how did you word the text?

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was that his actual reply and are you sure he wasn't joking?

 

 

This is totally bizarre!!

 

 

My last ex deemed me wearing earrings to be inappropriate attire when he wasn't with me.... are you dating the same nutter?

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This looks like a joke, that may have hone over your head?

 

But then you're dating him, so obviously you'd know better. I'm curious, any other examples?

 

I'd text something like that as a joke.

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That's just weird. I mean freaking out over a french fry heart? He sounds majorly INSECURE.

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That's just weird. I mean freaking out over a french fry heart? He sounds majorly INSECURE.

 

Either that or the more likely scenario -- HE wants out and is projecting his feelings (or lack thereof) on to you...

 

Wants to end it and blame YOU for not caring...when in reality HE is the one who doesn't care...

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Either that or the more likely scenario -- HE wants out and is projecting his feelings (or lack thereof) on to you...

 

Wants to end it and blame YOU for not caring...when in reality HE is the one who doesn't care...

 

^^What should you do? Break up with him. He is either too insecure to have a relationship with...or he is not into you and is projecting.

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I think he's joking but I do get where u are coming from... ! x

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After eating our leftovers of that meal I was about to eat a french fry when I noticed it's shape was literally a heart! I thought that was so funny so I texted that guy about it and he replies with "I see you found love, you which to date still?"

 

My question is why do you jump the gun that he is being serious?

 

Him: I see you found love, you wish to still date?

 

Me: Not a problem for me, I'm great at multitasking!

 

Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.

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My question is why do you jump the gun that he is being serious?

 

Him: I see you found love, you wish to still date?

 

Me: Not a problem for me, I'm great at multitasking!

 

Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.

 

Agreed, I feel like this is something I'd say as a joke. Just another example of how sarcasm doesn't reach through text, I guess. :o

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Agreed, I feel like this is something I'd say as a joke. Just another example of how sarcasm doesn't reach through text, I guess. :o

 

Isn't that what emoticons are for? :):bunny::laugh:;):p And LOL? Haha and others such expressions?

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Pretty sure this was a joke that went over the OP's head pure and simple. Not sure what some of y'all are doing with the over analyzing.

 

You have any other examples OP?

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katiegrl Established Member

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If he was only joking, why didn't he just say so when she asked him about it? See her post no. 3.

 

I don't know maybe he was. An LOL or haha or even a smiley at the end of the text would have helped clarify that though.

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He was being serious his following response to this conversation this morning was

 

Him: "Your right I have no reason to fretting hope your day is going well."

 

He does suffer from Dyslexia so he has trouble wording his words and spelling at times.

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I still think HE is the one who wants out and is projecting those feelings on to you.

 

You know...like the guy who is constantly accusing his girlfriend/wife of cheating because HE himself is cheating?

 

Guilty conscience = projection.

 

Think about it....

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I still think HE is the one who wants out and is projecting those feelings on to you.

 

You know...like the guy who is constantly accusing his girlfriend/wife of cheating because HE himself is cheating?

 

Guilty conscience = projection.

 

Think about it....

 

How does he want out? We are not exclusive and he keeps pushing me to have us become exclusive but not yet.

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How does he want out? We are not exclusive and he keeps pushing me to have us become exclusive but not yet.

 

What does that mean? He keeps pushing for exclusive but not yet? When then, six months from now?

 

Or do YOU not want to be exclusive? If not, why?

 

Can you clarify what you mean?

 

In any event, if I were dating a man who kept insisting we were going to break up, or kept accusing me of wanting out (or dating someone else)....my first response would be -- "Why do you keep accusing me of wanting out? Do YOU want out"?

 

Flip it around. Gauge his response.

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He's very insecure that's for sure. It's going to only get worse the further you take things. If you're still early on, you don't have much to lose I would stop seeing him.

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He's very insecure that's for sure. It's going to only get worse the further you take things. If you're still early on, you don't have much to lose I would stop seeing him.

 

^^..This ... and OP, when you flip it around as suggested in my previous post, and he responds by saying "No, I don't want out,".... then YOU respond back by saying "Then STOP accusing ME of wanting out"!!

 

Tell him it's a turn off and if he doesn't stop, YOU *will* want out!

 

It's just stupid and silly. He needs to grow up...and man up, if he is gonna have a successful relationship with anyone!

 

Some men are such whiny wimps...boggles the mind.

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I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months and I've noticed he tends to always jump the gun assuming something when it's not the case. For example, my parents and I had Shakey's Pizza, they have chicken, pizza, and mojo french fry potatoes.

 

After eating our leftovers of that meal I was about to eat a french fry when I noticed it's shape was literally a heart! I thought that was so funny so I texted that guy about it and he replies with "I see you found love, you which to date still?"

 

WHY would you think I found love with someone else, when I am NOT dating anyone else and I even removed my dating profiles etc. This guy tends to do this sort of thing a lot on and off thinking I am dating someone else when I am not.

 

What should I do?

 

I love Shakey's Pizza. Man, I miss their mojo's!

 

Just reassure him. Just be sweet and say "The only date I want is with you". I don't know why people have such a problem reassuring people. It only takes saying a few words at the right time and it's the loving thing to do.

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Reading **** like this makes me wonder how I'm still single sometimes :o lol.

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Well I was going to make it exclusive this weekend but then I changed my mind and decided to wait until April 18th, thats the official day of us dating and knowing one another for 3 months and by that time length I think would be the time to become exclusive.

 

I just don't want to become exclusive too soon and then it backfires or something. And I did explain this to this guy and he understands but he's just insecure as you have said, so he thinks this or that may happen and has to reassure etc.

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