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Glancing at a woman's left hand to see if there is a ring.

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E-Squared Established Member

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Does anybody else do this? Every time I see an attractive woman somewhere, especially one who draws my attention, I feel like I need to glance at her left hand to check to see if there is a ring on THAT finger.

 

However, I can say that I remember some women wearing a ring on that finger and it turned that not only were they not engaged or married, but they also didn't have boyfriends. I remember friends of mine laughed when I told them that when I see a woman somewhere, I have to check her left hand first to see if she is wearing a ring.

 

Of course, I have also heard of women wearing a ring on that finger as a shield to keep guys from hitting on them. I know I let it stop from trying to flirt.

 

What do you say about this?

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If it looks like a wedding ring, it usually is. But then again, most women are fashionable and they love to wear jewelry, be it on the left hand finger, or the right.

 

You won't really know unless you ask .

 

Speaking of which, lately, I found myself looking at a lot of guy's left hand fingers for rings.... men tend to wear wedding bands while women prefer to wear both their wedding band and their (diamond) ring.

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The day I met my husband, that was one of the 1st places I went. He actually caught me looking & busted my chops about it.

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Robert Z Established Member

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I always look.

 

 

Interestingly, an old trick: Single men have been known to wear a wedding ring when going out, because more women at night clubs will hit on married men than single men. The single guys learn this from the married guys who go out alone. I think this happens because women want a safe ons - they have to go home. And married guys come with a stamp of approval from another woman.

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Timshel Established Member

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I wear one though I am single. I have not found that it has stopped anyone.

 

A woman who likes jewelry will still not wear a ring on that finger unless she does not want to be hit on. But lot's of people don't look or don't care.

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I always look.

 

Interestingly, an old trick: Single men have been known to wear a wedding ring when going out, because more women at night clubs will hit on married men than single men. The single guys learn this from the married guys who go out alone. I think this happens because women want a safe ons - they have to go home. And married guys come with a stamp of approval from another woman.

 

I always look too. And it's actually a pretty good way to let a woman know you're interested without saying anything too forward. I've also noticed that sometimes women who are single will make a little production out of showing that there is no ring on their left hand.

 

I wonder it there is any truth to that old saw about women hitting on married me. I've heard it before but it seems illogical.

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I wonder it there is any truth to that old saw about women hitting on married me[n]. I've heard it before but it seems illogical.

 

No doubt about it when it comes to the ons and the fling crowd. I've even heard guys complain that as soon as they got married, suddenly they were desired by other women. They weren't trying to get laid but expressed frustration that all of these women waited until he got married, THEN they show an interest. They hadn't made the connection to the ring being the driver of that.

 

 

As a married man, I was desired by a number of women in college who made their intentions clear. One was a married woman.

 

I don't know the percentages and wouldn't dare to fathom a guess, obviously many women wouldn't hit on a man wearing a ring, but it exists and is common enough that I've seen or heard of many examples of this.

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carhill Established Member

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Glancing at a woman's left hand to see if there is a ring.

Does anybody else do this?

 

Only if they're friendly and 9.9999 times out of ten there's a ring there. It's a dynamic I've come to rely upon. However, around here, there are some married women who don't wear rings and I've been caught by MW's that way before. It depends!

 

What I do now, mostly for fun, is gauge behavior as relevant to the existence, or not, of a wedding ring on any particular woman. I find, again a generalization, that they treat me in a more friendly and engaging manner when the ring is worn. In this observation the last thing I check is for a ring and make a mental note for comparison and then check it over repeat interactions to confirm or refute the initial observation, respecting that people aren't machines and their moods vary.

 

Since I'm not interested in dating, such interactions keep my social skills up and add some texture to an otherwise neutral day of business stuff.

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Lots of single women wear rings to discourage attention, and lots of married women who are wearing them are open to affairs. The obvious lesson is to always go for whatever and whomever you're interested in.

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When I'm not seeing anyone, I'll take a look at a man's left hand before taking/flirting. I don't want to waste my energy on someone who's taken. Granted, no ring doesn't always mean not married (case in point, my dad didn't wear his ring because he hated jewelry and also his fingers got too fat), but it's a decent gauge.

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No doubt about it when it comes to the ons and the fling crowd. I've even heard guys complain that as soon as they got married, suddenly they were desired by other women. They weren't trying to get laid but expressed frustration that all of these women waited until he got married, THEN they show an interest. They hadn't made the connection to the ring being the driver of that.

 

 

As a married man, I was desired by a number of women in college who made their intentions clear. One was a married woman.

 

I don't know the percentages and wouldn't dare to fathom a guess, obviously many women wouldn't hit on a man wearing a ring, but it exists and is common enough that I've seen or heard of many examples of this.

 

I can attest to this, I too have been approached several times at my university due to being married and having my wedding band. Oh the temptation, being hit on my young 18 to 21 year olds, drives you mad sometimes :laugh:

 

But I stayed faithful despite it all, as that is a very important moral core for me. Now being divorced, I honestly haven't paid attention to it, been more focused on my studies and work.

 

Back on point though, yes I can believe pretending to be married can allure women looking for a quick fling. Last chance of the guy being attached, and some other woman is willing to be with them, so they must not be a complete psycho. In fact, didn't Adam Sandler make a movie where he wore a ring and pretended to be married just to get women?

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I actually never looked for a ring in the past. I never even knew it was a thing that people do! Never occurred to me until I came to this forum and saw people talking about it. Now that I am aware, I have, on occasion, noticed a ring.

 

I'm brutal on rings so I don't wear them. I had one I wore in high school, my finger got smashed between 2 chairs and the ring smashed right up with it. A classmate had to use pliers to get it off. I had a lovely circular bruised blood blister on said finger for a while, haha.

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I hate rings, I prefer my fingers to be smooth when typing on a keyboard - but due to pressure at my all-female-home - in which every member finds the thought of a young girl not wearing jewelry outrageous :rolleyes: - I did buy one and wear it on my middle finger (my fingers are too small; I'll have to get a real gold ring costum made in the future) and it's amazing how many people - of both genders - just take a moment to stare at it. :confused: I guess people really think I'm getting married young. :laugh:

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The very first time I had realized the custom involving the ring finger was when I went to Best Buy nearly 10 years ago. I remember having dealt with an attractive checker that day, and my dad was with me. He had teased me in the past about attractive women in customer service, and I thought that he would have done the same thing then. However, as we left, I noticed he didn't tease me. Initially I thought it was because he didn't want to embarrass me, but he said it was because the woman was married because he had noticed the ring on her left hand. I didn't stop to notice it, but after that day, it became something for me to do.

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I can attest to this, I too have been approached several times at my university due to being married and having my wedding band. Oh the temptation, being hit on my young 18 to 21 year olds, drives you mad sometimes :laugh:

 

 

Oh man, I never cheated either and now sort of regret it. Had I known how things would work out... One girl even went so far as to tell me that she was having rape fantasy dreams about me. :eek: I think she wanted me to thrown her down, rip her clothes off, and do her right then and there in the library. :laugh:

 

The married woman and I studied Calculus together almost every night. Her husband was always out of town working on a movie. She was very forward and I was barely able to resist. My weakest moment had us both in her Jacuzzi taking a break, with her bending over and putting her ass in my face while she "adjusted the jets". It took every bit of self control that I had to not rip that G-string right off of her. She even tried going topless the last time I was there.

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Oh man, I never cheated either and now sort of regret it. Had I known how things would work out... One girl even went so far as to tell me that she was having rape fantasy dreams about me. :eek: I think she wanted me to thrown her down, rip her clothes off, and do her right then and there in the library. :laugh:

 

The married woman and I studied Calculus together almost every night. Her husband was always out of town working on a movie. She was very forward and I was barely able to resist. My weakest moment had us both in her Jacuzzi taking a break, with her bending over and putting her ass in my face while she "adjusted the jets". It took every bit of self control that I had to not rip that G-string right off of her. She even tried going topless the last time I was there.

 

 

 

 

Out of habit I look to see if an attractive woman has a engagement/wedding ring. Even though I am off the market.

 

 

Though I have heard stories how single men wore wedding ring to get a lucky ONS at the club. How married woman wearing a W ring still cheat. All of that is pointless.

 

 

If a woman has a engagement/wedding ring on she is off limits.

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I always look.

 

Because I am a cynic I also look to see if there is a mark from prolonged wearing of a ring on "that" finger"

 

Many many moons ago after a very bad break up I took the ring from my right hand and put it on my left because I did not want anyone to chat me up or come near me. Mind you there is also a very obvious mark on my right hand from the ring that sits there and has done for years...

 

No one did but then I was in the middle of a major nervous break down so the twitching could have had something to do with that too!!! :laugh:

 

Neither of my parents wear theirs. My father got his caught and nearly lost his finger so my mother will not let him wear it. My mother developed an allergy to hers and was forced to take it off. To this day if she wears it for longer than 5 minutes her hand swells... Perhaps thats a hint!!!

 

Regardless I still always look.

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I used to look but realize it didn't mean anything because I knew a lot of males who went ringless. I also did fake wedding ring to stop with the unwanted attention while at my job from customers. It didn't work...

 

Where I work now jewelry is not allowed so none of us wear wedding rings. You just sort of get to know everyone's story. When I first started there was this guy who was quite friendly with me. Nothing questionable but I felt an interested vibe. Turns out I was right because after he found out I was married his friendliness was focused elsewhere. Made me glad to see, actually.

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I wore my wedding ring for about 18 months after the end of my marriage. I initially took it off... And there was was way more attention than I bargained for and I wasn't ready for it. And putting my ring back on certainly stopped this. In its tracks!

 

In my experience, most men will check. And will be completely respectful of what a ring symbolises. But that's just my experience.

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