fifinaluv Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 (edited) Ok, so I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We've been flirting a lot, we went out on a few dates and kissed. A couple weeks ago, I invited him over to dinner with his friend and another girlfriend of mine, it was 4 of us. The dinner went well. Yesterday, I invited just him for dinner, he told me that he had a comedy club meeting and that he could come afterwards if the meeting did not take too long to end. Turns out he had to cancel because he needed to rehearse for a comedy show for today (he invited me to that , and I will go around noon). He apologized a lot and seemed as if he really wanted to come over. Well, I was really looking forward to have him over for dinner, and I felt kinda bummed out that he could not come yesterday... When I see him this afternoon, do you think I should invite him again for tonight? Edited April 4, 2015 by fifinaluv
katiegrl Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Ok, so I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We've been flirting a lot, we went out on a few dates and kissed. A couple weeks ago, I invited him over to dinner with his friend and another girlfriend of mine, it was 4 of us. The dinner went well. Yesterday, I invited just him for dinner, he told me that he had a comedy club meeting and that he could come afterwards if the meeting did not take too long to end. Turns out he had to cancel because he needed to rehearse for a comedy show for today (he invited me to that , and I will go around noon). He apologized a lot and seemed as if he really wanted to come over. Well, I was really looking forward to have him over for dinner, and I felt kinda bummed out that he could not come yesterday... When I see him this afternoon, do you think I should invite him again for tonight? No you should not. When he canceled, did he suggest another time to get together? If not, sorry he's just not that interested. Don't text him again or invite him out. The ball is in HIS court. Don't chase him...it's a turn off.
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 No I don't. What's up with the last minute dates / invites? Too many of those make anybody seem like an after thought. While I agree that it's "his turn" standing on ceremony will get you no where. Why not invite him for next week . . . everybody likes a little advanced notice.
preraph Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Give the man a chance to decide if he wants to ask you out. It's fine to ask a guy out with plenty of notice once in awhile, but if you set up a pattern of always being the initiator, is that really what you want 5 years from now, a guy who never makes a plan and asks you out and shows you a good time? He obviously knows you're interested. Guys like to chase a little (and so do some women), so give him a chance to decide if it's left up to him without your pulling him in, if he wants to date you. 1
jen1447 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Ok, so I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We've been flirting a lot, we went out on a few dates and kissed. A couple weeks ago, I invited him over to dinner with his friend and another girlfriend of mine, it was 4 of us. The dinner went well. Yesterday, I invited just him for dinner, he told me that he had a comedy club meeting and that he could come afterwards if the meeting did not take too long to end. Turns out he had to cancel because he needed to rehearse for a comedy show for today (he invited me to that , and I will go around noon). He apologized a lot and seemed as if he really wanted to come over. Well, I was really looking forward to have him over for dinner, and I felt kinda bummed out that he could not come yesterday... When I see him this afternoon, do you think I should invite him again for tonight? Sure, why not? I don't think there's much need for hyper-analysis here - if your gut says you want to, it probably means you're getting sth back from him along those lines. If he cancels again or seems less than thrilled, then I'd take it as a 'your move' moment.
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