chrissypoo Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 So right now my boyfriend is under ALOT of stress... This i know... But for the past few days he's been kind of blowing me off. He sends really short texts and doesnt even bother to answer my phone calls. But he is doing everything else up under the sun like for an example hes on facebook whenever he gets off work. My only thing is that i know he has alot going on but i dont want to shut him out. I most definately do not want him thinking that i am not here for him when i am. So i reach out and send multiple texts and i even tried going a day without saying anything to him. I dont understand how this is suppose to work. Im suppose to be your biggest supporter and have your back no matter what but i feel like im going out of my way and its not making a difference. Help
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Back off. Send one more text: I know you are stressed but it hurts me when you don't answer my calls. I love you & I am here for you. Reach out to me when you want my help. I'm backing off right now. I miss you. I want to help. Please let me. Then do it. Go silent. Hopefully he will reach out. If it doesn't in about a week, show up -- don't text, don't call, show up & get in his face. Say we have to talk. I don't deserve to be shut out. If you want to break up with me do. If you don't, talk to me. 3
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 So right now my boyfriend is under ALOT of stress... This i know... But for the past few days he's been kind of blowing me off. He sends really short texts and doesnt even bother to answer my phone calls. But he is doing everything else up under the sun like for an example hes on facebook whenever he gets off work. My only thing is that i know he has alot going on but i dont want to shut him out. I most definately do not want him thinking that i am not here for him when i am. So i reach out and send multiple texts and i even tried going a day without saying anything to him. I dont understand how this is suppose to work. Im suppose to be your biggest supporter and have your back no matter what but i feel like im going out of my way and its not making a difference. Help This is no excuse for blowing off your texts or not answering your calls. It sounds like you may be far more vested in this relationship than he is. If he cannot vent and release his stress by talking with you, then he must not think much of his relationship with you. If I were you, I'd go NC with him as of now. Let him pursue contact with you for a change.
Author chrissypoo Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Why is it so hard to just communicate what you are feeling? If you dont want to be bothered then tell me!
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Why is it so hard to just communicate what you are feeling? If you dont want to be bothered then tell me! You're thinking like a gitl. When a guy is going through something, they don't talk about their feelings. They like to be alone and sort out their emotions themselves. You have to give him his space. When he's ready, he will contact you on his own. In the meantime, try to do your own things, and not worry about him.
Author chrissypoo Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Im trying not to act like a girl. But i cant help the fact that im worried about him and when he shuts down it drives me insane.
Lurkeraspect Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 My advice is to back off. He (allegedly) got another girl pregnant and is scrambling to figure out the right thing to do. The last thing he needs is you constantly blowing up his phone. Just let him know you're there, then get on with your life.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Im trying not to act like a girl. But i cant help the fact that im worried about him and when he shuts down it drives me insane. Acting like a girl= be cute, be affectionate Thinking like a girl= thinking with emotions You're entitled to your emotions and are allowed to be worried. But you cannot force a man to open up unless he personally wants to do it. Do not back him into a corner, or else he will feel suffocated. Accept that he is going through something right now, and go do your own things. Preoccupy yourself with things you love to do, and I guarantee you, he will come back to you.
Author chrissypoo Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 Its just simply frustrating. And i have to deal with it myself because i have no one to talk to. I just dont want him to lose sight of the fact that im here. But the majority is telling me to go NC. I just hope things work out. I really do care about him. This whole situation is just driving me insane and i honestly dont know what else to do. Im suppose to be there for him as his partner and he isnt opening up. Just like i said in my other thread i just sent him a long message and im just going to leave it at that because there is nothing more that i can say. I just really hate the idea of going days without talking to him and knowing that all of this is going on.
Author chrissypoo Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 And to top it off a coworkee of mine told me that he went through a similar situation. The girl ended up not being pregnant at all and just didnt want to see him happy with someone else. I would hate for that to be how this turns out because i wouldnt understand the magnitude of it all. She hasnt even been to the doctor yet. Its just a crazy crazy situation. And i dont want either of us hurt in the end.
preraph Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Don't just let him off the hook. He may be pulling the maneuver of making you mad so you leave and that keeps him from having to be the bad guy. He owes you better than that. He's the one who didn't use protection and knocked up a girl he barely knows. He's probably a bit mad at himself right now, and he should be. So let him wallow in it. But if he is being rude to you and thinks he can just do the fade and you'll come crawling once he's ready to speak again, I believe I'd be adding to his stress and reading him the riot act face to face about what a dick he's been and is continuing to be.
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 As you well know your BF may have gotten another girl pregnant. You can't do anything about this situation except decide why you want to be in it. You may love your BF & want to play the supportive GF but his actions are clearly telling you he doesn't want your input. You don't have to be a mind reader to understand he's telling you he can't be in a relationship with you right now. 1
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