sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Well I just couldn't leave things with my ex the way they were, i didn't want there to be resentment on either side. So I had dinner with her, told her that we could be friends if she wanted, she agreed. Anyways, the whole thing was very casual up until about halfway through the dinner. We got to talking about sex somehow and man just looking in her eyes I could see that she definitely wanted it. So after dinner, i'm online, and she messages me. Then, she starts to talking about how good I looked at dinner and how she' really been horny these past few days. Since i'm going back to my house this weekend, i invited her to come along. She said she'll try because she has prior engagements she has to weasle out of. When we're together it's like nothing in the past had ever happened at all. We just forget everything that we fought over and just let ourselves be. I dunno, i'm not going to analyze this, i'm not going to try and rationalize it, i'm just going to let it be and see where it takes me. i think that has been the problem in the past, me over-analyzing everything, i just need to learn to let go and have fun.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 yeah....just use her, or let HER use you for sex.......i am sure you will both feel sooo much better!
Author sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 well it's a mutual understanding, neither of us are really "using" each other if we both want the same thing. We enjoy hanging out and being with each other, just not in a serious relationship type of way.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 She's pretty much got you exactly where she wants you, that's for sure. Just keep your eyes open, don't mistake it for what it isn't and enjoy the good times when they arise.
Author sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 the thing is, she's not a typical girl. She's not a scheming, mischevious type of person at all, and she certainly doesn't apply to much of what is said on these forums. She's got a very very busy schedule, and is immersed in her studies, so she doesn't really have time to sit and play games and what not. If you want to say that she's using me, then I can say that I'm using her in the exact same way. I dunno, right now I think we're both in this transitioning period, and even though we don't know what we are right now, it will all become clear in the future as long as I just let things take their course instead of trying to change it all the time.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 She must have some hold over you if after just one dinner this: Lately, I really don't miss our relationship that much at all, in fact I really don't want to be in a relationship at all. I just want to make it through school, have some fun along the way, no committments at all. I do want to meet new people as well, I don't know, I guess being with her just clouded all of my judgements. These past few days of NC have been the best thing for me, it has allowed me to see everything in a whole new light. Changed overnight during this dinner where she told you how 'horny' she was. Just protect your heart. Hopefully you two can either reconcile or let go completely. I don't think there is room for genuine 'friendship' right now. If things were strictly platonic - and I mean STRICTLY platonic - would you two still be interested in spending quality time with one another?
Author sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 like i said when I'm with her, i tend to lose sight and forget everything i was ever mad about. i'm honestly sick and tired of trying to figure things out, i'm just going to let them take their natural course. if this peters out and dies, then so be it, but if it develops into something great then i've really got nothing to lose here.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 14, 2005 Posted April 14, 2005 Hopefully things will work out for you in the end, however it may go.
Author sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 thanks, i think way too many people here take the advice given on these forums to be cold-hard facts. The truth is all relationships are different, and sometimes you just have to follow your own heart and decide what you think is best for yourself.
Author sanne Posted April 14, 2005 Author Posted April 14, 2005 like i said when I'm with her, i tend to lose sight and forget everything i was ever mad about. i'm honestly sick and tired of trying to figure things out, i'm just going to let them take their natural course. if this peters out and dies, then so be it, but if it develops into something great then i've really got nothing to lose here.
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