matty2049 Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 Hey everyone I have a narcissist ex girlfriend who has been playing head games with me for over a month now. One week she wants me, the next she doesn't think she wants a relationship etc. She had royally fked me over in the past. I caught her cheating, and she backed out of a trip down south a day before we were going, lost my money, while she went with her family. Hangs out with me once in a blue moon but doesn't want to put any effort into making it work.. But yet when I tell her that im going to move on she drops an email saying "I miss you and can't stop thinking about you" and then disappears for a day after I respond a couple hours later. She was supposed to call me tonight but didn't. I have had it. I'm about to flip the tables upside and down and im wondering if I tell her that (im not really) I went on a couple dates and that I would like her to stop contacting me. I am wondering.. Is that going to make her try and contact me more knowing that I am gone? Or will she finally just stop with the BS? What would come of saying that? I have a feeling there is someone else, but I don't have any concrete evidence, just my instincts. ... If you read my other threads, you will see what kind of woman I am dealing with.. Thanks guys any input is good. I just want to flip the tables on her head and wondering if that is the best way. Thanks!
Poppyolive Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 I wouldn't advise any head games, which is where you are headed. I'm sure you are hurt, angry and she keeping reeling you in and you, dear, are falling for it, each and everytime. Best thing you can do is take the power back. Delete, block, ignore. Cut all avenues in which she can contact you. Accept its completely over. Next make moving forward lists & goals. Reconnect with friends, take up a new hobby, course. Plan a fun trip to a music festival, join a running club. Take action to get your life back in your hands. Get off the roller coaster in which she drives.
Author matty2049 Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 I wouldn't advise any head games, which is where you are headed. I'm sure you are hurt, angry and she keeping reeling you in and you, dear, are falling for it, each and everytime. Best thing you can do is take the power back. Delete, block, ignore. Cut all avenues in which she can contact you. Accept its completely over. Next make moving forward lists & goals. Reconnect with friends, take up a new hobby, course. Plan a fun trip to a music festival, join a running club. Take action to get your life back in your hands. Get off the roller coaster in which she drives. So the best revenge is a silent one? I can definitely not talk to her. It's not that im "powerless" to her. I have played the push/pull game with her the last month like I said so if I have to go silently into the night, you say that's the best plan?
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2015 Posted April 4, 2015 If your ex is truly a narcissist, the last thing you want to do is play a game. Do the 3 D's. Detach, distance, disengage. What you do is none of your ex's business now and if you let on, you'll be inviting drama and more heartache into your life. 1
Author matty2049 Posted April 4, 2015 Author Posted April 4, 2015 If your ex is truly a narcissist, the last thing you want to do is play a game. Do the 3 D's. Detach, distance, disengage. What you do is none of your ex's business now and if you let on, you'll be inviting drama and more heartache into your life. Well her excuse has been "I am just not happy with anything anymore" then the next day it's "I miss you" or "I can't get you out of my head".. It's hot and cold. I can't take this **** anymore im seriously at my witts end.
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